Originally Posted by Guava~Lush
Then the other night when dh and I DTD, and after the pull n pray method, it just hits that he really doesnt want another. I got so sad. Like I tried so hard to delay (not on purpose, I wasnt done!! haha!!) but he's not having it.
I know TMI, sorry!
I feel your pain.
You know, the chances of pg with pull and pray are so high, that I don't think anyone who uses that as BC on it is *really* against having another. They may say they are, but if they were, then they wouldn't use withdrawal as birth control. According to planned parenthood, 27 out of 100 women will get pregnant in the first year of using withdrawal. Even with *perfect* use, 4 out of 100 will still get pregnant within the first year. And really, who's perfect, after all? I mean, would those odds be good enough for you if you really didn't want to have another child?
My DH claims he doesn't want another, But he's perfectly happy using withdrawal. My theory is that he just doesn't want to take responsibility for the decision to have another. This way, if we have another and it ends up being difficult, financially or whatever, he can always say "well, I didn't really want another, you're the one who wanted to have two". To which my response will be "well, you're the one who didn't want to use birth control" (I had to quit using hormonal birth control and told him that birth control was going to be his responsiblity--after all, I'm okay with having another child!).
Anyway, I know how everyone here feels, cause I'm in the same boat. I have terrible baby lust, and had always planned on having more than one. So, I thought, had DH, until DS turned out to be such a poor sleeper! More than two years since we last slept through the night. I think once DS starts sleeping through the night, I might be able to convince DH that we should have another. Hopefully he'll forget about the sleeplessness!