politically incorrect
I know this probably seems a bit terrible. My dh and I had our first ds by accident. After 4years I really wanted another baby, and our ds wanted a brother or sister. Dh agreed that once he got promoted at work, we could have another. DS 2 was born 6-14-05... and dh, who never wanted kids, is open to having as many as i want. I know this is maybe a bit old-fashioned, but it works for us. I try my best to make dh's life as easy as possible. I work part time to contribute about 20% of our annual income. I do all of the cleaning, all of the weekday cooking, all of the errand running. I am the only one who has ever gotten up at night with our children. I try to keep our romantic life active(even when i was very pg)... in short, I try to make life very smooth for him so that he will be happy and, this is the terrible part, willing to do what I want. Not to say I sacrifice my happiness- I love my work, I love being with my kids, and I do get time of my own ( I hire a babysitter if I want to meet a friend, or only leave when baby is napping, etc.) Dh loves being a dad, but he does watch them when I work so I try not to give him kid care... I just think that if he's happy, I'm happy. (And thus the little ones are happy....)
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