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post #81 of 118
We all know you have the right to post here. I never said anything about rights.
post #82 of 118
You know why I wanted to be the moderator of the babywearing forum? It's EASY because there's no DRAMA!

Can we please disagree respectfully and keep the nasty sarcasm down? Bring your concerns to your mama colleagues in a more constructive way, please?

If this thread gets much worse I'm gonna move it to activism or something.
post #83 of 118
Sorry pamelamama :
post #84 of 118
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Originally Posted by Tupelo Honey
Poli, I can see that this may be seen as a "safe" space for venting. I just think we need to keep in mind that we don't know who may be reading. Expectant frist-time moms, or people who have older children who were parented differently and probably already feel guilty about not doing everything "right" because they didn't know. There is really no safe space on the internet where you can just say whatever you want without having to worry about who will read it or how it will be perceived.
Oh, and I'm not offended by the term bucket if it's just being used to differentiate the different types of seats. I'm really not that easily offended.
Great point Important to remember for future reference.


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Originally Posted by pamelamama
You know why I wanted to be the moderator of the babywearing forum? It's EASY because there's no DRAMA!

Can we please disagree respectfully and keep the nasty sarcasm down? Bring your concerns to your mama colleagues in a more constructive way, please?

If this thread gets much worse I'm gonna move it to activism or something.
Maybe we should all give the benefit of the doubt and not quickly assume that people are intending to be hurtful or judgemental (like for example assuming that all the moms who posted about BW exclusively were somehow saying that they are better ).

In the same way, in the future it might be better to think of this as NOT as closed a forum, and that things that we say might be misunderstood or hurt others. It is easy to forget sometimes that (quoting Tupelo) "we don't know who may be reading"

I stopped posting reading a lot of the other boards here because of the controversy. The Babywearing thread is by far the most fun IMO, and it will be nice if it kept being like that
post #85 of 118
Well I'll show up now and kill the thread. :LOL .

I have several slings, a swing, a stroller, a Kelty backpack, a snugli type thing (dh favorite ) a burley bike cart, a large coaster wagon plus a granny cart like meco showed a link to. I also have a baby bucket that I used for about 5 months with ds1 and 2 months with ds2.

I get tons of postive comments about slings when in public. However, I get more dirty looks from people pushing double strollers than I ever have from bottlefeeders while NIP. Its like they are jealous of how easily I get around with two or something. I think maybe its a little like passing somebody in a broken down new Mercedes on your bike.
post #86 of 118
Mnnice, do you put the baby in the granny cart? :LOL JK
post #87 of 118
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Originally Posted by mnnice

I get tons of postive comments about slings when in public. However, I get more dirty looks from people pushing double strollers than I ever have from bottlefeeders while NIP. Its like they are jealous of how easily I get around with two or something. I think maybe its a little like passing somebody in a broken down new Mercedes on your bike.
I hear what you are saying. I shared on another thread that my husband almost ran into a baby car carrier sitting in the middle of a parking space today- Mom must have gotten the baby out, and then went back into the car for something, because all we could see of her was her rump sticking out of her mini-van. We parked somewhere else and came back with our almost-two-year-old in the sling. She kept giving us the evil eye. Although she might have heard me exclaiming "Why would anyone put a baby down in the middle of a parking lot!" and that could have been why.

I have nursed and babycarried for six years straight now, and I have gotten more nasty comments for having a baby in a sling than I have for breastfeeding. It's odd, really.
post #88 of 118
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Originally Posted by mnnice
I get tons of postive comments about slings when in public. However, I get more dirty looks from people pushing double strollers than I ever have from bottlefeeders while NIP. Its like they are jealous of how easily I get around with two or something. I think maybe its a little like passing somebody in a broken down new Mercedes on your bike.
Last winter, I spent a lot of evenings walking in the mall. At the time, it was the only reasonable way (time and weather) for me to get a little post-partum exercise. Anyway, never once did I cruise around the mall without getting those miserable glares from some woman with a whole pack mule's worth of crap and one, equally small baby. Apparently, I'm not allowed to be streamlined and unencumbered.

Then, on the other hand, I'm literally chased down when moms with slings see me. Once, I had a mom with a four year old stop and ask me to show my sling to her daughter. She said, "That's how I used to carry you around, Honey." It was so sweet, she obviously wanted to chat more, but seemed very shy, so I invited her to sit. But, he daughter was tugging at her arm, so off they want. It was a nice experience, anyway.

I think your allusion is right, mnnice, that's how it seems, for sure.
post #89 of 118
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Originally Posted by Tupelo Honey
Mnnice, do you put the baby in the granny cart? :LOL JK
nope its an artifact of my days a urban, single carless girl. now it gets used to hold a leaf bag in while raking.
post #90 of 118
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone for being so judgemental and twisting my threads here and other places out of context. No matter how many times I try to play nice and have an open discussion with like minded mamas -- I get blasted.
It's nice to know that in a Natural Parenting forum I will get criticized most harshly for wanting to share and discuss my natural parenting choices.

ciao

p.s. thank to those who tried to bring focus to all of this!
post #91 of 118
Wow... long thread with interesting points.

I used a bucket car seat until my dd outgrew it. I found it easier to put her in it in the house instead of in the car. Plus if she was sleeping when I got to my destination, it was easier *for me* and less disrupative *to her* to carry her in the bucket than it was to transfer her to a carrier. I know this because I read a similar thread back when I first started bwing and I came away from it feeling like I was doing it the hard way. So I tried taking her out of her seat & transferring her to her carrier a few times. As it turned out, for us, the bucket was easier.

I also used a bucket holding stroller for the same reasons whenever I went to the mall. Please note, I did keep my sling in the stroller for when she woke up. Now it does bother me a bit to think that there might be someone who might have seen me in the mall, not knowing about my sling, and *assumed* that I kept my dd in some sort of carrier 24/7. But, I'm not going to loose any sleep over it!

Now that dd is older, I think we've used the stroller once. And I have to admit, my dd LOVED being in it. I think she thought it was a wonderful ride.

I also put my dd in the seat in the grocery cart sometimes (I've got a neat cart-cover), but I also bring in a carrier in case she gets antsy. Of course, now what she really wants is to walk around in the grocery store, so she's really not happy with either of those choices!

That is what has worked best for us so far. Of course, tomorrow's another day, and pretty soon my little one is going to stop letting me carry her anywhere.
post #92 of 118
Boatbaby, I'm sorry you feel people are twisting your words or misreading your intention. That certainly wasn't my intent, and I hope I didn't do anything to hurt your feelings.

I think sometimes there is the idea that because MDC is a NP site, there will be no one here who doesn't do all the NP things, so it's ok to say whatever. And some people may wish that were so, and it may have even been so when this was a smaller community. But for better or worse, it is not so now. That's just the reality. Any real, live, flesh and blood mother could read anything we say. What will she come away with?
post #93 of 118
Even a bucket-style seat is generally called, well, a bucket-style seat, not a bucket.

Where I'm from seats are usually referred to as 'bucket or bench'. YMMV

We used a baby carrier style car seat (is that more politically correct?) with our first child, but with our second and now third on the way we bought a stay-in-the-car seat. I plan on using slings and/or mei tai's /wraps with this newest bundle of joy. I do own a stroller, it's the one left over from the baby carrier car seat combo thing my mom bought us. I think I'll end up using it more when this baby comes to help me keep track of my 21 month old. She likes to run off :/ This way I can have my baby in the sling and my toddler in the stroller
post #94 of 118
I think the problem here is that so few folks can actually participate without 'buts' and 'once'.

While my other children didn't, 4th UC birthed, still- nursing 6 yr old liked a baby swing we were given. Of course, I need to explain she only liked it a few times, and of course she had a Roundabout. :LOL

Some of us, no matter the dediciation to the needs of our children, can't say we never put a child down. It's not that we are upset, it's simply that we can't participate fully in this particular thread. I am automatically disqualified, no matter any experience I might have in baby-wearing/caring.

Not bashing the OP, just stating the fact. It's not that I am angry or anything. I am mostly amused at the intensity of emotion.

Boatbaby- your babe will benefit from your arms, no question.

More people should carry their babes.





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post #95 of 118
Thank you, UU Mom, for summing up both sides so nicely, I let my emotions get in the way (can I blame it on hormones? It's my first AF in 31 months) but that is exactly what the issue is, with me anyway.
post #96 of 118
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Originally Posted by annettemarie
Thank you, UU Mom, for summing up both sides so nicely, I let my emotions get in the way (can I blame it on hormones? It's my first AF in 31 months) but that is exactly what the issue is, with me anyway.
WHAT! The nerve :LOL ! I got AF back after 5 measly months. SOOOO jealous. Oops, back to your regularly scheduled discussion.
post #97 of 118
Never used a stroller with my first, until she hit 2 or so and did NOT want to be carried anymore, but couldn't walk all by herself sometimes. We then purrchased a cheap, $15 umbrella stroller.

My second child, now 4 1/2 months old, sometimes does not WANT to be carried or held. Maybe because it's very hot here right now? In any event, we got a double stroller, and half the time I carry her and half the time she rides in the stroller, whichever suits her mood at the time.
post #98 of 118
With my boys I did everything pretty well mainstream, although I did occasionally use a sling when they were new. although they never really fitted into the buckets, which we call capsules here. We used reversible seats with all 3. With dd5m I was been given 3 cots and 2 prams (one is jogger) and I don't use any of them, But if she gets as heavy as her brothers did I wont have much choice but to use the jogger. I find it so much easier when out and about to not have to cart carriers. I don't even carry a nappy bag, it stays in the car.
post #99 of 118
Just a note on the use of the term "bucket", although I have no idea if anyone will read this post way down here at the bottom, especially since there is drama to be found therein ...

When my son was tiny, and I had no sling nor bjorn nor any type of babywearing device, DH and I called his bucket "the bucket" because although we didn't know any other way to transport a baby (aside from in-arms carrying, obviously) we thought it was such a funny way to do it. I mean, you do carry them around by a little handle and they just kind of dangle and bump against your leg and it really is a little...well, bucket! :LOL We always used the term affectionately, just one of those kind of silly things you end up doing for your baby. I thought everyone called them that, and I have never said it to be mean.

Just thought I'd throw that out there. I'm not going to touch the other stuff with a ten-foot pole, I think plenty has been said and I don't think anyone was trying to be hurtful so I'll leave it at that.
post #100 of 118
LOL, we call the car seat "the bucket", too
I *did* pretty much exclusively babywear with my first - he didn't like to be put down, I didn't own a bucket, he didn't do well in a stroller, and I wanted to hold him as much as I could as he was at daycare whenever I was at school. My mom encouraged it, so that's what I did!
With the rest of them, they were worn a lot of the time, but I can't say exclusively. I'd bring them into the house in the bucket if they had fallen asleep in the car, or if I needed to have the carseat in the house for some reason, or if it was very cold out. And I do use a stroller sometimes when my back or hips are bothering me - I had to use the stroller to get Davey from room to room when he was small & I threw my back out!

I went to Boston over Mother's Day weekend, and LOVED how easy it is to babywear there, with the public transportation & all! No getting a baby in & out of the wrap to strap into a carseat - just hop on the T & go!
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