Common Ground Anyone?
We all have different issues that we go through.
Whether it's with "our children" or our "step children".
Raising children is equally hard, I think more so when you are dealing with step-children. As I have posted before, it's difficult because they unlearn things, two different ways of raising children, two different sets of morals, two differents ways of living. Anyone can agree with me on that one. However, I never see the direct hit against a child. I see nothing short of mere frustration, pain, tears, and heartaches wishing that somehow there was a common ground. Hate to say it, but life is full of these. Venting is a moment of angry words. You may feel that way for a moment, and then suddenly everything becomes "clear." I think this forum is a great place to come and discuss, vent, and pour out your tears of frustration. I know a while back I had problems with my middle child, and I felt very put down. But I revaluated my thinking, and saw what this person was saying. She was right. We don't try to be mean, spiteful, resentful, or bitter....we are simply giving as much love, discipline, care, respect, that we can possibly give. Yea it hurts when we "know" in our hearts they need certain things and back where they are at their "other home" they don't get it. It hurts us. Because we love them. I think that we also know that certain behaviours that a child displays it because of inner pain, and rejection that they slash out at us. Doesn't make it right, but in some aspects it does justify why. I am sorry that you feel that way, I hope this forum turns around and that you contiune to post. I want to hear from you, and how you handle things, situations, how you adore your step child, and yea that we have similar frustrations.
That is why we are all here anyways, to be a support.
And I for one, want to contiune to give my support and comfort for those that need it.