I have some practical experience with this ! My son (now almost 2.5) was wildly out of control and no kind of discipline had any effect on him at all, until a miracle happened at our house when he was about 20 months old.....we totally eliminated all casein (dairy protein) from his and my diet for eight weeks. On dairy he was hyperactive, sleepless, aggressive, violent, in constant motion, sensory seeking, combative, and basically rolled from one major tantrum to the next all day long. Eight weeks later - he slept more than 40 mins at a time for the first time in his life, started listening, started conversing, played nicely, was no longer violent, just a totally different kid. Getting rid of it also cleared up his reflux, reactive airway, chronic diarrhea, and constant infections.
We didn't have a discipline problem. We had a dietary problem. I think it was a miracle I found out about it and tried the 8 wk elimination. At around 18 months, after he finally started walking, I had had moms I didn't know approach me at groups I attempted to visit, and tell me he wasn't normal, that he had sensory integration problems, and that it wasn't my fault, and that no response to his behavior was going to help. I had him evaluated by EI, and we were going to start OT. I joined an online group for SI, and a lady there kept telling me to try eliminating dairy or gluten or both for 8 weeks, total elimination, 100% compliance. We decided to try dairy first. The rest is history. I finally know my son.
None of the discipline I use now could ever have made a dent in his behavior on dairy, because he was out of his mind. Twice he has gotten dairy accidentally, and for four days, he is sleepless, out of control and violent. Last time, he tried to stab me in the face with a fork, tried to claw my eyes, gave me a bloody lip, and hit DH in the face so hard he had a bruise. He hits, kicks, bites, headbutts, etc. It takes four days for him to come back to his right mind after a dairy exposure. For him, dairy is metabolized into casomorphins, which act like hallucinogenic drugs in his brain. Dairy truly makes him trip.
If you have been dealing with out of control behavior for this long, I highly recommend reading the book "Is This Your Child" by Doris Rapp, MD, and also doing some looking into a casein-free, or gluten-free, or both (GFCF) diet.
I hope this helps. It won't fix your situation in a week. We didn't see any change for six weeks, and it really took eight to see the complete transition. But if your DD has a problem with casomorphins or gluteomorphins, experimenting with total elimination of dairy or gluten could literally change your life.
Originally Posted by Potty Diva
So, what now? For TWO years she has done this crap and I am so F***ING tired of it!