My son is here but we've been in NICU since birth

[ewe+lamb]

So Kian was born by c/section on 26 July, 7lbs 2oz, 50 cms and then contracted a hospital virus which was of course my fault, anyway we were transferred to a NICU and have just got out - can't quite manage to put it all down in words yet - it's been awful, I've been battling with hospital staff since he arrived here with us, anyway we're home now and I have to put everythung together and see a solicitor - they did a spinal tap without our permission!!!!- I'll keep you all posted.

[Pom]

Ewe - Congrats on your birth! Sorry about NICU! Why is it your fault? B/c you had a hospital birth? Babe could've picked up a virus at home, too...

Our first got virus first day home...spent next 3 days of horror in pediatric unit at a different hospital...it was the worst experience of our life...so I can imagine how you must feel...spinal taps on virusy newborns are automatic....have you gotten any sleep? It is soooo important that you do!!!

Keep us posted ove ron teh Life with Babe board, will you? You've crossed over!!!

[NordicMamma]

Congrats on the birth of your baby!

I'm so sorry you had an awful experience. But I don't see how it could possibly be your fault!

Glad to hear you are all home now.

[MamanFrancaise]

Without your permission?!?!?! OMG!

Congrats on your new baby.

[anudi01]

Congratulations on your Baby! So sorry you all had to go through all that. Healing, Resting, and Peaceful Vibes coming your way!!!

[Shanana]

Congratulations Ewe ... so sorry about the NICU and bad experience. I hope things are going better now. {{hugs}}

Shana

[annakiss]

Congratulations on your new baby boy!

What an awful experience! I hope that some things start going well for you and you find some recourse for their carelessness. Jerks!

How is breastfeeding?

[orangebird]

I'm sorry you had such a rough time. I'm glad you are home now and can start feeling like a normal mom and baby.

Here, where I work anyway, we don't get special permission to do spinal taps. It is just included under the care you consent to during admission. Like the same with medications, blood draws for tests, etc. We only get additional consents for immunizations and surgical procedures (PICC line, heart surgery, 2mo immunizations, etc). I wonder if it is the same in France. It sucks they didn't talk to you beforehand but maybe it is standard there. Again, I'm sorry it felt so wrong and horrible, good thing everything is getting better now.

[ewe+lamb]

The spinal tap thing was really just one of many things - it was more the fact that they did it without explaining what they were doing and I hadn't signed any papers on admission - so their reaction was especially hard on me - ie the dr told me that she had stayed late to look after my baby and I should be grateful for that not find fault with her - when I explained that her explanation wasn't full enough and she should tell me what she was doing using the medical term and then explaining it in layman's terms she told me to stop telling her how to do her job - just tore a strip off me!! Anyway during the whole time he wasn't considered my baby - he belonged to the hospital, nurses and doctors, they took him away and gave him formula did tests and took blood whenever my back was turned they didn't like me asking questions and wanting to be with my baby I just felt like they didn't respect our choices as parents - anyway it's over now and I just need to try and get over it all along with dh and dd.

We're home now and I need to get on with making my complaint with dh and my parents and then try to get on with life - it's going to take a while though and I cry every time I think of what happened to us, in fact I've been in tears most of this week! (DH broke his leg the day after he was born - just to top things off nicely!!) I need to write it all out so that I can get it straight in my head. But now that we are home and have nobody disturbing us every five minutes he's nursing so well and loves sleeping on his daddy's chest! We're getting back to normal - thanks everyone for your kind words.