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post #121 of 154
Hello all! I haven't read through the whole thread, but am just going to jump back in, I used to post here, and kind of lost the group after my last birth. I am sorry to the mamas who have lost babies.

My story is that I have had 3 c-sections and with the last one, my uterus was opened when the OB opened me up, basically a 3 inch section was open along my old scar line and by some miracle, the amniotic sac had not broken and ds and I were both fine. I have been advised though, to avoid pregnancy indefinitely, b/c I basically ruptured prior to even laboring (just from braxton hicks contractions) and therefore, we (OB and I) are not confident in my body's ability to heal properly from the c-sections, and carry another baby to term. The way I see it, we got our miracle and I won't be asking for another.

That said, we use Natural Family Planning, so we are still open to God sending us another miracle at some point.

Kim- I see that you have your new little one, Congrats, last I was posting here you were still thinking of getting pregnant again, so I guess all that talk too action . Congratulations!

~Patty
post #122 of 154

have had 2 cs's and 1 ectopic preg/still scared

i know this may sound crazy, but i have had 2 cs's w/ my sons (both emergency due to fetal distress...kids were both 9 lbs.) and an ectopic preg. suffice it to say that i am experienced at this point in getting cut open.
however, i was watching a stupid TV show yesterday (something like "Make Room for Baby" on Discovery Health channel) out of curiosity of what they were doing with the nursery when i got very squeemish about the mother's birth (i had to actually stop knitting and change the channel during the epidural). Am I crazy? I mean, this cs is planned and there really aren't other options being considered at this point, but jeez...shouldn't i be immune to this stuff?????
post #123 of 154
I don't see why you'd be immune. About three years after my first c-section, I watched "The Operation" on tv, and it was a section. About a minute into the actual surgery, my scar started to ache (hadn't hurt at all in well over a year, maybe two), and didn't stop for about an hour. The scars from sections aren't all on our bodies, and they don't go away quickly..
post #124 of 154
Storm bride - that is amazing, I thought I was the only one who got scar pain/itching when i think about my surgery or another baby. I thought i was imagining it or it was just coincidence.
post #125 of 154
Well, at that time, my scar itched a lot - but it never hurt...except when I watched that surgery.
post #126 of 154
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Originally Posted by ruby slippers
Storm bride - that is amazing, I thought I was the only one who got scar pain/itching when i think about my surgery or another baby. I thought i was imagining it or it was just coincidence.
That also happens to me. Especially when I am particularily depressed about my c-section.
post #127 of 154
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Originally Posted by ruby slippers
Storm bride - that is amazing, I thought I was the only one who got scar pain/itching when i think about my surgery or another baby. I thought i was imagining it or it was just coincidence.
Me too sometimes.
post #128 of 154
new here, but getting acquainted. I had a c-section with my first born almost a year ago already. Commited to trying a VBAC with the next child. Need to find a different practice than the one I had when I had my son though. I've already been told that a c-section will be scheduled. Yeah. Thanks.

Do you ladies still feel your scars? and not just when you're thinking about it - just every now and then out of nowhere? I mean- as in twinges of pain? It's not all the time, but everynow and then it's like I just woke up with it again. Just a constant reminder of how my labor failed tha I fear will never go away.
post #129 of 154
I felt mine for a few years with my first one - but that was just occasional itching (aside from the time I watched the surgery). With my second, the pain took longer to go away in the first place, but didn't come as often afterwards (don't know if I explained that well). My third was only 5 weeks ago, and is still too numb for me to say - it generally only hurts if I really overdo it and/or my bladder is full.

Unless there's actually something wrong, the pain will go away. It's just that it is major surgery, so it's not something that you just bounce back from.
post #130 of 154
i feel it sometimes but the it has itched more than anything over the years. the biggest effect for me is that it is such a sensitive area. i cant stand for it to be touched (as well as the epidural area where the needle went in and around my belly button where they went in for exploratory surgery with the ectopic).
i am a fairly strong person but i am getting really scared of going under the knife again. this may sound weird too, but with the other 2 boys, i didnt ANTICIPATE a cs...both of them i tried to birth naturally w/o med. (in a hospital..if you can ever call that natural). with the 1st, 36 hrs. of labor..the 2nd was a little better but not by much. when the cs decision had to be made, there was no choice. now, i am "scheduling" a cs and i really dont know what that means. i am going to tell my dr. that i am NOT going to go in on his "non-golf" day and have this baby though. i have though about that for the last couple of days. i am going to experience labor if i can (and i dont see why i cant).
any thoughts on my rebellion?
Rach
post #131 of 154
A week before my due date with dd (my second), my FP discovered that she'd flipped - footling breech. She and my OB arranged a scheduled section for two days later. When the OB's office called, I flipped out - had not expected another baby to flip, and the pregnancy had gone really well. I'd had every expectation of VBAC. The OB and my FP talked me into the scheduled section, and I hated it. It felt totally unnatural to just show up at the hospital with no indication that baby was ready to arrive. I didn't like that baby's birth date depended on the hospital operating schedule. But, I'd let myself be talked/bullied into the section.

Afterwards, I asked my FP if I could try for a VBA2C with my next one, and she said no - the risks were too high. I thought I'd be okay with that and went ahead and got pregnant with number three.

After three months of nightmares about surgery and bouts of insomnia, I realized I was not okay with a scheduled repeat. So, I came online, did a lot of research and got stubborn. I refused to schedule, and said I was going to try for a VBA2C. My FP was totally freaked out, but my OB was okay with it, once he was sure I understood the risk of rupture.

DS wound up going to 41 weeks, 5 days. My OB had scheduled a section, because things were going on so long. I went to his office with early signs of prelabour the day before the scheduled surgery, and was going to refuse the surgery. He told me he'd withdraw from my case. As I couldn't see any reasonable possibility of finding a new caregiver at that point, I went along with the section - didn't see any real choice at that point. I went into labour that night...contraction 8 minutes apart and lasting about 30 seconds when I got to the hospital. I was only about 1cm dilated, so they did the section, anyway. I wanted to argue, but I just didn't have the energy to fight, anymore.

Anyway, the point of the long, rambling post above is that I lost - but I also won. Evan would have almost definitely arrived on the day of the surgery if I'd birthed vaginally. He arrived when he was ready to, instead of three weeks earlier, which is when they'd have scheduled me if I hadn't "rebelled". My milk came in well - nursing went well - Evan and my body were both ready for him to be here.

Rebel if that's what's right for you. Many women find the scheduled sections easier - but I found it absolutely brutal.
post #132 of 154
Well, I think I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum from most of the ladies on this thread. Once I'm pregnant again, I will plan the next delivery as a c-sec, just because I am scared to death that I won't be able to bring my next baby home. I'm more comfortable with a c-sec than V delivery, however I probally will freak out when the time comes, because I had the perfect healthy pregnancy on my first baby up until I was induced, then everything went down hill from there.
As far as itching and my scar goes...I am 8 weeks post c-sec and I have no pain and no itching! Now, I don't know if that will change over time, but I hope not. The only problem I still have is bleeding. Will it ever stop? I thought I had what might have been my period last week, but then this morning it started getting heavier again! : Argh! I just wish I was back on a "normal" cycle again. Well, maybe I'm on my period now. Who knows?
post #133 of 154
I am just so afraid that when the EDD comes near for #2 that I will be pushed into a c/s. I don't MEAN to be a rebel, but darn it!! I'm young (27) and was perfectly healthy never even had a stitch before I had my c-section. There should be no reason that I couldn't have a babby vaginally. If I set myself up for and get into the mindset that I can have a VBAC, and then labor fails me again, that is my greatest fear. I just have to find a caregiver that can be that labor coach I need and help me work through the fear so be sucessful. Then watch out world!! There'll be no stopping me!! :
post #134 of 154
Hi . Haven't posted in away..remember me agonizing over having a section..4th degree tear w/ shoulder dystocia history. Anyway. My section is planning for next Tuesday, day after Labor Day.
I was wondering how you handled taking care of the baby in the hospital , with nursing and everything when it's hard to move around. Any advice.

Maria
post #135 of 154
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Originally Posted by mommamiagal
Anyway. My section is planning for next Tuesday, day after Labor Day. I was wondering how you handled taking care of the baby in the hospital , with nursing and everything when it's hard to move around. Any advice.

Maria
Make sure that you have a SOLID support team to stay with you in the hospital. Make your voice known BEFORE the c-section how important breastfeeding is to you and how you want that baby latched on to you as soon as possible.

You will be drugged up and shaking probably. I couldn't physically nurse DS without someone helping me for at least 8 hours after surgery. DO NOT let the nurses take your baby out of the room. Just have your partner or support person take care of the baby. Tell your support people this too. You might be too out of it depending on how much they drug you up to say anything.
post #136 of 154
Any help you can get from your dh or other support person is wonderful. It's much easier if you can use the bed to help get into a nursing position before someone else hands you the baby (for the first few days, at least). Once you're a bit mobile, you can probably take him/her out of the bassinet from the bed.

Also - don't let the nurses tell you what position to use. They all love the football hold and side-lying, but those positions don't work for me at all. I'm better off to just hold baby in a cradle hold, despite a bit more pressure on the incision. I'm not saying that you should use the cradle hold - just make sure you find out what works for you!

As other posters have said, it does help to get on your feet asap. DH spent most of the three days in the hospital with me, and we'd walk around the ward with him carrying the baby, while I focussed on staying upright. But, I did push baby around the ward in the bassinet a few times. I wasn't quite up to walking very far while carrying him, so I only did that within my room.

hmm...none of that's very helpful, but if I think of anything else, I'll let you know.
post #137 of 154
Oh - and another thing. Decide ahead of time about morphine. They routinely administer it here, and I find the itching (you may not get any, but many moms do) more distracting than pain when trying to nurse my baby.
post #138 of 154
Is morophine part of the perkoset (sp?) family? I am allergic to perkoset and so I got something else that actually I liked much better it didn't totally knock me on my butt. It started with a D I will have to go home and look at my bottle.
post #139 of 154
I echo Lisa - try to get on your feet as soon as possible. And sinch that belt thing they put around your waist up tight!! My husband made me laugh and it hurt, but I think that actually helped me heal faster. I took lots of Motrin and was still able to BF without any ill affect to ds.
post #140 of 154
Quote:
Originally Posted by PaytonsMom
And sinch that belt thing they put around your waist up tight!! My husband made me laugh and it hurt, but I think that actually helped me heal faster. I took lots of Motrin and was still able to BF without any ill affect to ds.
What belly thing? I never had one. Will I not heal as well because of it?
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