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post #81 of 154
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Originally Posted by soccerchic21
Anyway I just get sick of people asking me if I had a c-section because I had a big baby. It is like then I have to relive it all over again and I just want to scream. PEOPLE HAVE BIG BABIES VAGINALLY ALL THE FREAKING TIME!!!!
Me too. My kids have been "big" at 9 lb 4 oz and 9 lbs respectively (doesn't sound that big to me but whatever...) and so when people hear that both of them have been CS, they knowingly say "well I should think so being so BIG!"
Ugh. I have a hard time not sounding royally pissed off when I try and dispute that... I truly believe had my kids not been posterior they would have come out. So it was their position- not their size- that screwed it all up :
take care
post #82 of 154
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Originally Posted by nfpmom
So it was their position- not their size- that screwed it all up :
take care

I am having a similar problem -- my daughter was IUGR, and only 4.5 pounds, so when people hear that I had a c-section and that she was so small, they immediately say, "Oh, so she was premature. How many weeks?" Actually, she was 40w4d. I just make incompetant placentas, apparently. Thanks for making me say it again and again and again...
post #83 of 154
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Originally Posted by nfpmom
I truly believe had my kids not been posterior they would have come out. So it was their position- not their size- that screwed it all up :
take care
they told me that Jake was also posterior.
post #84 of 154
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Originally Posted by nfpmom
I truly believe had my kids not been posterior they would have come out. So it was their position- not their size- that screwed it all up :
take care

So true for me too.. sigh.. for everyone!!!

Chantal
post #85 of 154
Henry's_Mamma, I understand the jealousy big time. My sil has had 2 natural childbirths witha grand total of maybe 8 hours of labor combined and she seriously whines all the time that her labors go so fast she doesnt get to experience an epidural. She makes me want to scream. I just found out she is pregnant 2 weeks behind me and I know I will be a scheduled c/s after 2 priors and she is already talking about how she is going to have her dr. induce her early so she can have the epidural in place this time. I try to avoid all pregnancy/birth talk with her, but its next to impossible. Could you imagine your biggest stressor being your labors go so fast and easy you dont have time to get your epidural in place.
post #86 of 154
Thread Starter 
Hi all,

Just wanted to touch base and tell everyone hello.

I am sorry Lisa that things are still so hard for you, emotionally and physically. I hope it will get better soon.

Katie is doing great. She is now sleeping through the night. This is the first baby I have had do this, this young. Its a great feeling and makes parenting so much easier. If only my breasts would adjust to this though!

I would say that I am back 95%. I resumed my very active sex life with hubby, and doing normal things with the kids. I do sometimes wear out and have incision pain on the right side though if I do too much or lift too much. This is the side I have always had problems with.

I've also ovulated! I am so ticked. I think I am the only annovulatory chic that has periods while exclusively breastfeeding.

O in another cool news I got the pictures from my csection back. They are so beautiful. I wish I could explain how beautiful they are. I know some would not think they are beautiful but I have such a great shot of my doctor lifting Katie out of the uterus. Then I have with her laying up on my abdomen and the assisting OB cutting the cord. Then there is this great all bloody shot of them showing Katie to me for the first time. There are a couple of pics of me in the OR laughing and smiling, and looking at Katie for the first time too. I wish I would have had these kinds of pics with my second son. (I have VERY graphic pics of my emergency csection)

Kim
post #87 of 154
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Originally Posted by OnTheFence
Katie is doing great. She is now sleeping through the night. This is the first baby I have had do this, this young. Its a great feeling and makes parenting so much easier. If only my breasts would adjust to this though!
This is sooo true. Evan's definitely been my easiest in that respect...although my oldest wasn't bad, either. Emma was a nightmare that way - I don't think she really slept through the night until she was about a year old.

Emma wouldn't go up to her room for her nap today. I got frustrated and picked her up and carried her without thinking about it. Now, I'm really sore. I've never had an incision take this long to heal before!
post #88 of 154
Kim
So glad things are going well!!! Yay on the sleep!! For me getting enough sleep sure does affect my outlook!!!
post #89 of 154
Yes - sleep is so important.

Now, if I could just have a bath, I'd probably feel a lot better. And, I'd love to have a dip in the pool at our complex...
post #90 of 154
I thought I'd posted thanks before but I guess either I or MDC messed up ... . So here it is again ... Thanks for the kinds words and support. No one IRL gets it, but you ladies always do. I'm feeling better about it now, but it took a few days. I guess I need to measure progress incrementally ... there was a time I would've been annoyed for weeks.

Anyway ... shhh and cross your fingers for me ... I think we're going to start ttc#2 next month!!!
post #91 of 154

cesarean birth

Hello,
I had a cesarean birth in Feb for a posterior baby with no descent. Oh, it makes me sad on some days. My birth experience on the whole was okay. I was 11 days past my EDD, I went into labor at home, broke my water at home, got to the hospital at 9cm's, became fully dilated pushed for a bit with no epidural and then was persuaded to get an epidural to help me relax(!), pushed for another 2 hours with no descent so was taken to the OR. My recovery was fine, I held my baby in the OR, breast fed in the Recovery room but still wonder...what if...I think about a VBAC alot. I will try it but the cesaean was not the end of the world and I got comfort in thinking it's not how you birth them but how you raise them.
post #92 of 154
Welcome aboard.

That's a good philosophy. I'm trying really hard to cultivate it, but still not having a lot of luck so far. But, good luck with a VBAC next time, anyway.

I wonder why some women roll with c-sections so easily - even prefer them in some cases, while others have so much trouble coping. My first was 12 years ago, and I don't think I've ever even fully dealt with that one. My SIL had one just a few months later, and was utterly relieved. Sometimes, I think I'm even more broken, because I have so much trouble dealing with it.
post #93 of 154
I think the attitude of being able to deal with it is in part believing it was necessary and/or that you had a say in the decision to do it. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like that was the case for you, Lisa.

I was to the point where I just wanted that baby out after 4 days of laboring, and there was my pre-e and his tipped head. I still regret a bit that it didn't go more smoothly for me, but I don't really regret my c/s.
post #94 of 154
Thanks for the welcome Storm Bride. My philosphy is not always there with me and I do sometimes look at my baby and think "why couldn't we do it" and i'm sure my VBAC obsession is really to do with my not dealing with things totally. Sometimes I think if I could do things differently I would have wailed and screamed to express my disappointment on the way in and out of the OR. And other moments i have i am at peace with it, but MDC helps me immensly to look on the bright side but not to totally hide the dark side.
post #95 of 154
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Originally Posted by ruby slippers
... MDC helps me immensly to look on the bright side but not to totally hide the dark side.
I think you just summed up why I spend so much time here...it's the only place where I'm encouraged to see the positives (eg. a healthy baby) but not discouraged from having my regrets and negative feelings. It's a helpful combination.
post #96 of 154
I get to take a bath!!!
It's been showers only since the section, because of the infection and improper healing. There's still a gap, but my doctor gave me the okay on a bath, as long as I dry off thoroughly afterwards, and continue with the antibiotic ointment.

I don't like showers...I've been sooooo looking forward to this!!
post #97 of 154
Yay Lisa!!
Hope this means that everything starts to look up real soon!!!!

Chantal
post #98 of 154
I'm hoping...pretty heavy bleeding this morning, after two days with no blood at all. I guess I'm overdoing it, even though I don't feel as though I'm doing anything. I hate being a freaking invalid. My kids have had no summer at all.
post #99 of 154
Hello ladies, I'm new to MDC, not real great at navigating the bulletin boards yet - but I found myself here and thought you ladies would have the best advise.

First off to all of you and for quick recoveries!

Here's a little background..

I gave birth to my first baby Benjamin on 7/05/05. I had a very healthy pregnancy and was due 06/25/05. I was induced on 7/4 (no pitocin)... early the next morning after 3 hours of active pushing (no epidural b/c I was too far along) and attempts at suctioning the doctor decided on a c-section. It wasn't until 2 hours later (and pushing to relieve pain) that I finally got the c-section and he was delivered. My son had hemmoriging in two places (b/c of the suction and or the prolonged wait for the OR) that led to PPHN and eventually his death on 7/07/05. I believe my incisions are healing ok, it's hard to decipher when I felt good, or when I could get up etc.. because of the circumstances I wasn't up and around doing a whole lot of anything. I don't really feel jipped that I didn't get to experience a vaginal birth, because I practically did except for the fact that he didn't come out (I had an episomity and everything). I am not planning a VBAC for future pregnancies and I will schedule another c-section (with a new doctor) b/c I never want this to happen again. A c-section is always worth it if you can have a healthy baby in the end, which hopefully I will experience one day. Physically I feel back to normal and in a few weeks my leave runs out and I have to go back to work.

This leads to my question...How long do you have to wait after having a c-section before you can get pg again? I've heard anything from 3 months to 1 year. My husband and I do want to get pg again soon, but I'm afraid of putting my next baby at risk if I get pg too soon. Any advice would help. Thanks.
post #100 of 154
Welcome to the thread.
I'm so sorry for your loss - I wish I had words that would help, but of course I don't.

Most everything I've read says the scar is healed fully in six months. I might want to wait a little longer if I were going to VBAC, because of the strain of labour. But, if you're going to schedule another section, I think you'd be okay by the end of the year.
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