Hello I'm here!
hey there beautiful mamas!
This is the first time I've made it to this thread... I've been in the book club one and have been "lurking" on this one, I guess you could say, since whenever I get here to read it, by the time I've made it through the posts whatever time window I had seems to have disappeared!
So, my quick intro: I am mom to Sophie who was born Feb21, and is almost 10 months. dh & i have been together for 6 years, married for three. We lived in intentional communities for most of that time, and currently have a mom & 2 yr old staying with us. Without a doubt my BIG mindfulness challenge is with the two of them -- I love them but am just fed up most days with sharing a house with them (actually if they could just be our net door neighbors I'd love it, but she's broke & out of work, so she's in our guest room).
I feel like living with someone else's 2yr old is really challenging me because I know I'll have a toddler very soon -- but for now dh & I just want to enjoy Sophie in the phase she is in. There are also some agression issues (the little boy tries to hit dd, sit on her etc), although mnostly he's a great kid. It just means I have to be super vigilant and can't let her have the run of the only well-childproofed area (the living room). And she's kinda like an ungrateful teenager most of the time, although she's not that young.
SOOO, I don't find myself being the centered, mindful-in-the-present woman I'd like to be because I'm too busy resenting or hiding from these two.
The funny thing, though, is that I have found, on this occassion and others, that having someone else to complain about helps to take focus away from issues/conflicts between me & dh! Sad but true. So when someone else lives with us we tend to get along great.
All of the posts I just read were beautiful. You are each working on your state of mind and heart with such intentionality and it is such a gift to your children! I am so glad that my dd will grow up with people like them also in the world somewhere.
I believe so strongly that the foundation of trust and compassion being laid in them now will bear fruit in the way they are in the world as adults. And goodness knows we will need in with all the crap going on out there.
Well, I was going to vent a little about how much anxiety I have about the toddler phase (don't worry, I already had it before you posted, Breathe!), but this is long enough for now. Thanks for reading!
p.s. tara - honey, i'm so sorry these nights have still been hard. feel better soon, Jackson!
Um, how many rooms does your parents house have? :LOL