[QUOTE=heartmama]Food does not equal love. Who said it did?[QUOTE]
You may not have. But there is an underlying thread that not having food readily availible at all times to a small child is somehow emotionally damaging as if it were a deprivation of love.
It is only an observation that perhaps people who have issues with food equalling love might be more concerned about any imagined deprivation felt by their child.
[QUOTE=heartmama]No, scheduled meals aren't deprivation. But I don't think scheduled food, in the sense that available food is restricted and hunger controlled, is attachment parenting, and since that is what we are here to discuss, that is the point I am making. [QUOTE]
See here is where the whole argument falls apart. YOu are describing scheduled meals in a way that I do not. WHen I say I "schedule meals" I do not mean that "availible food is restricted and hunger is controlled"
So perhaps we are arguing semantics here as well. I neither restrict food nor control hunger. So apparently we are not so much in disagreement after all.
[QUOTE=heartmama]Instead of preparing food five times a day, you could prepare it once, a tray in the morning, of the foods they liked, and they could snack when they were hungry. Surely a food like fruit or cheese does not require much prep.[QUOTE]
And so I could But even so. I woudl be picking the time at which I prepare the food and then it is offered after it is finished. It is a larger amount. But really the difference is again in semantics. So if I prepare a "snack tray" as you say after breakfast is cleaned up, and I put it down when I am done. Still the time the food is offeredis dependant on me. WHen I have finished preparing it. Which is really absolutely no different than if I set out different foods 5 times a day. And still has no more relation to their hunger than a scheduled 9:30 snack.
[QUOTE=heartmama]I'd like to see you prove that
Leave foods they like within reach, let them know you don't care if they eat it or not, and continue to feed them by the clock. I have a feeling they will disprove your theory very quickly. I am not making light of your efforts in the kitchen. I am challenging your reasoning here. You cannot convince me that your children are never hungry outside of your schedule, when you have subtley or overtly discouraged them from eating at any other time. .[QUOTE]
Try it on yourself. Eat something every single day at 3pm for a week. Then dont. Your stomach will growl at 3pm. No need to waste your time reading up on circadian rhythms. It is not my theory it is really a simple biological process that is pretty easy to read up on.
So what do you do when the cheese pieces get dried out? The apple slices turn brown and the child no longer wants them?
You have a nice theory, but I really have no objection of serving my children fresh food every few hours. In addition. Their favorite response to havnig more food than they need at any given snack time is to disperse it all over the play room.
You assume that because I choose to feed my children on a regular schedule that I cant have tried the snack tray etc. . .
It was more mess and waste than it was worth.
I have no interest in convincing you that my children are never hungry outside the schedule. I do not even claim it to be true. And when they are they can eat something.
And If feeding them healthy foods frequently and regularly "subtly or overtly" discourages them from eating at any other time (because they arent hungry), I cannot see it to be a bad thing.
[QUOTE=heartmama]The only reason for breastfeeding on demand, as you seemed to state, was convenience, and within the context of ap, there are other reasons. If you had other reasons, I would like to hear them..[QUOTE]
I do not recall ever discussing my reasons for breastfeeding on demand. However since you ask I will tell you.
1. it is how the body is designed. My milk supply is determined by thefrequency of nursing.
2. Babies have very tiny tummies adn they are unique human beings who know when they are hungry and they deserve to be respected.
3. cryign is a late indicator of hunger. A baby who is nursed at the first sign of hunger never has to get all worked up, he can stay happy and satisfied.
4. its fun. Cuddle and nurse most of the day in the early months.
5. And of course all of the health organizations including WHO and AAP as well as the LLL all endorse cue feeding as ideal. (but this is my last reason because I was a cue feeder before I ever heard of them LOL)