Originally Posted by maya44
I decide when we eat and what is put on the table. My children decide which of these foods they will eat and how much.
Maya44, this sounds so harsh, although I'll bet this is a case of the written word being inadequate to describe what you mean.
Your children have no say in what kinds of foods are offered in your home? They are offered no chance to participate in making foods or suggesting a menu - "Mama, can we have tacos tonight? Can I rip the lettuce?" - that sort of thing?
In my home, I do most of the cooking, but I constantly encourage my daughter to make suggestions, be involved, help me with what she can. Of course, we do not eat TV dinners and TaterTots (that's only at Grandma's house :LOL ), and I do not buy unhealthy things. So in that sense, I decide.
But I totally respect her need to eat according to her own body. Just tonight, I was making chicken, wild rice and broccoli for dinner (she loves all of those things), and she helped me do most of the preparation and even put the pan in the oven (it was cold).
And then she grabbed herself a banana and ate the whole thing. So of course she wasn't ready to eat dinner when we did. I just left her plate on the table, and about an hour after we were finished dinner, she ate almost everything on her plate.
She sat at the table with us during dinner (not required, she just likes to), and then put her dish in the sink after she was done.
Laura is three and a half, by the way.
How would something like that work in your house? Would they be allowed to eat the banana? What if they don't like what you've made, or wanted something else?