Originally Posted by heartmama
We can go on for pages discussing Satter. In the end we will still come back to the question of why a child can't have a cracker at 2pm instead of 3. We will still be wondering what to do if the child cries for the cracker or gets the cracker once our back is turned.
It is fine to have a routine.
Almost everyone left in this discussion has qualified their food routine with an exception clause for the child who is out of sorts, feeling cranky, and who for whatever reason will not go along with the routine that day.
Except Satter. That's the difference.
Maya I think it's fine for you to raise your kids in the way which seems best too you. If it's this important you discuss Satter, it would seem more respectful to answer GD related questions, rather than brush over them with a "never happens here".
What would you do if your child child *did* cry for snack earlier than the established time?
What would you do *if* , after you said 'no snack until 3', your child went over and got a cracker and ate it anyway?
No problem answering any question. And I would almost never say "no snack' until 3, Snacks are scheduled loosely between meals with more of a "no later than time" than a "not until' time. I gues if we ate lunch at 2:30, I would say "wait a while you just ate" And I might thus say at 6:00 p.m. "no more snacking" "we are eating dinner in an hour"
If my child took the food anyway, I would react as I usually do at any time they don't follow the rules: I would say "I said that you were not to have a snack now. I want everyone ready to eat dinner. Do not take something when I have asked you not to". That is it, nothing else would happen. And though I know it is hard to "hear" how this is done in writing, let me make it clear that my voice is not loud or angry.
As some of you may know, I am a pretty "rule oriented" mama. But these rules are only "backed up" by my expectations and my expressing those expectation to my children. The vast majority of the time, they meet my expectation, but when they don't I repeat them and express the expectation that they will be followed in the future.
And of course, if some crazy day or thing happened when we were off schedule because of illness or emergency, or something really unusual happened, we like any family, let go of routine.
Here is an example. My dd had lunch served at school. They brought in lunch from a pasta place and in hers they found a piece of metal! Gross, I know. When she got home she was going to need more than a snack because for good reason, she had not been able to eat lunch. So I gave her a new full meal right then and there!
But most of the time we stick to our routine. Excpetion maybe happen once every other month or so. And I would definitely not change food routines because a child was cranky in general. That is using food as too much of an emotional pacifier for me.