Originally Posted by meowee
if there is something "developmentally amiss" with a 6 y.o. boy who likes to make wasteful messes instead of serving up a tea party to guests and sibs... :LOL ... oh my!
This thread comes at a weirdly timely manner for me. My *8* year old has taken to dumping dish detergent down the sink, last night dumped an entire container of salt down the sink, has destroyed toilet paper, toothpaste, drawn on the wall.
I also take the "you waste it, you pay for it with extra chores and doing without for a little bit." I can't afford to just replace everything he wrecks.
To me, this is punitive. It's not GD. You have to get at the larger issue.
I also wonder how a small child would be able to get the money together to replace the food he ruined? If the parent pays the child for doing extra chores, isn't that money coming from the same source as the one used to buy the food intially? So the "i can't afford to replace this food' is not really true. I don't agree with a child wasting food, even if a parent can 'afford it', but I also don't agree with a parent telling a falsehood to the child.
There is a lack of respect here--the child does not respect the parent, and the parent show lack of respect for the child through punitive behavior towards the child. It's an endless cycle disrespect.
I wold also think an 8 year old can understand that ruining food is not in anyone's best interests. Again, I would try to figure out why the child continues with behavior the parent has explained is not in keeping with family values. If the child doesn't care , why?