Originally Posted by MPJJJ
Mod, feel free to lock this thread now. I've gotten a lot of great responses. Now that I realize my children must just be missing out on the stimulation they used to get from playing outside (and we went from being outside all day to being inside all day, so it has been quite a change) I'm not angry at them. Still frustrated, yes, but now I have a real plan for handling this. Thank you all for your advice and support.
I'm sorry the thead took such a bad turn. But I think any mommy would get angry if someone focused one one thing she said and used that in a "my child can do this so your child must be off balance" way.
I totally didn't say that. I can see how you could read it like that, but that was not in my heart.
The behavior does seem a bit out- of- line for a six yr old, and also someone said that 6 yr olds can't understand about germs. I think they can. It's true, I thought there could be a developmental lag, but not that there *was*. It's true he wasn't understanding what you want from him.
Thinking the child might be a little young for his age a lot nicer than suggesting your kid is a disrespectful brat. Or that you are abusing your children.
I mean, *does* your child know what you expect from him? If he doesn't, why? Teach him what you want him to know. Power comes from knowledge, not from locks.
But I also think locks can help keep children safe if they don't get it. But you don't want children growing up thinking their home is a fortress or that they must be locked out of the kitchen, beyond safety reasons fro very small children. You don't want kids thinking they have to sneak and break into their own kitchen (which you said they do) to get stuff.