My dh is intact and very happy that he is! He never once got teased in a locker room and neither one of us has ever had an infection (I've had UTIs but they were birth control pill and pregnancy related). He never has had any cleanliness issues either. We don't know if he looks like his father or not
so that's how important that argument is (we're 22 and his father is in his early 60s. We'd rather not know - honestly).
Remember, it's your son's body, not yours or your dh's. Your ds should have the opportunity to make this important decision for himself and not have it made for him by someone who was mutilated as an infant himself. And remember also to be sensitive to the fact that he WAS mutilated as a baby and that he will probably need reassurance that you're not attacking his manhood and that you're happy with him the way he is, but that your ds deserves a chance to decide for himself when he is of an appropriate age. Also, you will probably (I apologize for assuming if I'm incorrect
) be the one changing most of the diapers and having to deal with a serious wound that routinely comes into contact with excretion. Then there's comforting your screaming baby afterwards and feeling sorry about it forever.
I have a friend who had all three of her sons circ'd and they wouldn't let her watch till the third when she insisted that she be allowed to witness it. She has never gotten over the fact that she didn't insist to be there with the first or even the second so that she could have saved at least one of her boys from the trauma. And she didn't
have any idea it was harmful beforehand so she didn't have an informed choice. If she had, I'd be willing to bet that she would feel even worse about it.
I know this thread was really intense at the beginning, but as a couple others have mentioned, all of us are only posting in love and care for you and your ds. We know what we know and with knowledge comes responsibility so we have to share or else we have the knowledge that we could have made a difference and didn't.
Best wishes and many
love and peace.