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my friend had a baby tonight - UPDATE she is nursing!!!  

post #1 of 12
8/14/05 at 1:53am
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And is already FFing... she FF her first two also but I had sort of hoped maybe I had talked her into it. Her 2nd baby had RSV and was hospitalized. I would think she would want to do anything possible to avoid RSV this time around. I am going to visit her tomorrow ... I know she isnt going to do it at this point but I wish I could say something to convince her to try...


UPDATE

She called me this morning and said she is going to give it a try!! Her ped ( who also happens to be my ped and whom I now love even more) came to the hospital to check out the baby and he said he really would like to see her give it a shot, at least for a few weeks, given the medical history of her other child! YAY! So I am bringing her over a pump later today. I am so freakin excited - I dont know why. LOL I am trying not to let it show. But at least she is calling me for help so I can try to get her through the first days and weeks! I am hoping she will have a super easy time of it so she will say "why did I ever think formula was so easy?!?!!" LOL
post #2 of 12
8/14/05 at 1:58am
That is so sad. I can't understand why parents(Mamas) Want to give their child the best, but what they don't understand is that it starts with bf.Don't give up, continue to try to convince her, ask her if she would like to go to a LLL Meeting with you.
post #3 of 12
8/14/05 at 3:14am
Poor baby.

With all the research out there, I really don't understand how any woman could make the decision to not even attempt to nurse their baby, at the very least for the first few weeks. It just seems like such a no-brainer now, the benefits of breastmilk is so overwhelming.

I was saddened recently. DH's cousin recently had a baby and we got an email update from FIL bragging about how DH's little bother got to "help with the feeding" of the baby. The baby is only 2 weeks old! Never mind, that I'm pretty sure the comment in the email was a not-too-thinly veiled swipe at me. We are pretty estranged from DH's family as it is and I got definite nursing-is-weird vibes the few times we have seen them since our son was born. (DH was FF). They probably lament to each other that they never got to "feed" their grandchild. Ugh.

I mean, I know this is a traditional FF family, but I thought for sure this cousin as an educated woman and member of the younger generation would have at least read up enough to know she should BF for the first few months or so. She is a lesbian and is raising her DS with her partner, so it is not like she is chained to doing everything the mainstream way her family has always done it.

That is the ironic thing: the family is a very traditional, Catholic family. Before she became pregnant, they never acknowledged her lesbianism and always acted like her DP was just a roommate/friend. Then she got pregnant and they suddenly act as if it is no big deal (which it shouldn't be, but to this family you know it is, but now there is a baby so have to deal head-on with the fact that no man is in the picture.) So now to the outside world they embrace her lifestyle, but yet I am still the weirdo breastfeeder that married into the family.
post #4 of 12
8/16/05 at 3:45pm
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bumping because I am happy and want to share!
post #5 of 12
8/16/05 at 3:48pm
post #6 of 12
8/16/05 at 4:30pm
Wow, you really made a difference. And what a kick ass ped!
post #7 of 12
8/16/05 at 5:55pm
Way to go mama!
post #8 of 12
8/16/05 at 5:57pm
that's awesome that you helped make a difference!! i hope it goes well for her. and how awesome that the ped rec'd it too. yay!
post #9 of 12
8/16/05 at 6:05pm
Great update! I hope it goes really smoothly for her!
post #10 of 12
8/16/05 at 6:59pm
Wow, it's amazing what effect a ped can have by actually gently recommending something that has been proven to have a significant impact on a baby's health, PARTICULARLY given her other children's history. Like, if you've already had a heart attack once, wouldn't you expect your doc to maybe recommend you stop smoking, eat healthy, and excercise?

I hope she has a gloriously easy time as well!
post #11 of 12
8/20/05 at 11:15pm
that is so AWESOME!
Your ped. sounds very cool..

I would be just as excited! How are things going for her now? I hope she's sticking with it! She has a great friend to help her out
post #12 of 12
8/21/05 at 1:35am
Hmm-- Maybe you should eucate those relatives that the Catholic church is VERY pro-BF!

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