"Mommy, what ARE the bad words?" - Page 2

[UmmBnB]

Dh cusses all the time. Drives me nuts. Not because I don't have quite a mouth myself but because he truly believes that its time that words were words and the taboo of "bad" words should disappear.

Ds knows all the 'bad words' and what they mean and when people use them...and when its completely inappropriate to use them, like at school or in front of Grandma :LOL

Once and awhile he'll do a very george carlinesque recitation of all the 'bad words'

[nicole lisa]

Originally Posted by Linda on the move

Their concept of "bad" words is different than most kids. They would never ever call a person fat or stupid because it would hurt their feelings -- but they might say sh*t if they hit their thumb with a hammer.

I think our kids probably have the same concept, lol! DS rarely uses insults and words that hurt but he's pretty good at swearing. His combinations can get pretty funny.

[eastender]

A lot of you have said that you tell you children not to use the "bad" words in front of grandma, but in our case grandma is the one that my girls hear these words from!
Donna

[Divina]

I try to avoid categorizing words, as well. And I also prefer not to hear my kids using some words. And my success rate with censoring myself varies quite a bit from day to day. I do talk about appropriateness, and that it's important to consider who is within hearing distance and whether or not they'll be offended.

I really want my kids to not be triggered by words. I am rarely triggered by words, and not at all by being called names or by swearing--and it's meant a much more tranquil life for me, as well as being calmer and more in control when dealing with angry people. (I've worked retail, restaurants and customer service a lot). It stood me in good stead when I took an intensive self-defense course, too. (At the more advanced stages, the people role-playing the perpetrators will "woof" you, or use verbal assault as well as physical).

So far, this approach has worked pretty well. My teenagers are quite capable of self-censoring when they need to and the 3YO's worst words are "shut up" (he wants to know if it's okay to tell people to "shut down" instead).