The first thing you need to do is assess yourself and the situation. Know your personality on what works and what doesn't. Are you a morning person? Are you a procrastinator? What makes you procrastinate? A certain tv show? The internet /snicker?
I really liked www.flylady.net
I do not do all her games nor do I follow her to the letter nor do I do all her heavy cleaning. One thing though after reading through it is it works best if you have a routine. So your post sounds like mine would have a year ago or so until I met fly lady.
In short this is what I do:
I look at a calendar for the week.
1) I choose two days to bless my home for an hour. During that hour I dust, sweep, wipe down cabinets, vacuum. Once a week I choose to mop and wipe down mirrors and change bedsheets also.
2) I choose two days to do laundry. I placed hampers strategically around my place so that all I have to say is..hubby please get everything you need into the hampers so I can do laundry. Makes my life easy.
3) I choose a room to declutter for the week. I take 15 mins per day and declutter it and find a home for everything. Things go into 3 piles: Garbage, good will, or find a home.
Before I go to bed, I always do the dishes..either load them up into the dishwasher and get it going..or hand wash them. If something doesn't work for you, figure out how to make it better. Let me give you some examples. I wasn't vacuuming because my vacuum cleaner is huge. So I got a stick vacuum and use that twice a week then use the big one once every few months. I hated to scrub mob and it wasn't getting done, so I got a swifferjet and use that once a week and only scrub mop once every few months. I was not liking to do laundry because clothes were everywhere, so I got hampers in strategic places so my hubby has no reason to strew them everywhere. I was not doing dishes because I hated to be out of spoons all the time so I got some more spoons. Sounds silly but all of these things I found to be obstacles...I removed them and I removed my reasons to procrastinate.
Those simple tasks have turned my home into something presentable..not perfect, but presentable. After awhile the routine grows on you..but it has to be a routine that fits you and your wants/needs for it to work. Allow 2 to 4 months for a change to take effect. This isn't about discipline trust me if it was..I'd have failed..it is about establishing a routine.
I like reading how these women get their houses together whether it be flylady or another one..and then I take what works for me..and adapt it to a schedule that I will have more success at doing.