What do you wish your parent or parents had done for you?

[CerridwenLorelei]

DD is 12 and is like her mom bi though she has said when she is older she definitely wants a female partner or two if she can find polyamory females
Dh and I are fully supportive of her and her choices and she knows that our main thing is her being happy and she and the partner treating each other decent

Is there anything else I could or should be doing to be more supportive?

[cmb123]

I think being fully supportive of her no matter what she chooses is the best any parent can posibly do. What more can ya ask for really.
Awsome mama!

[Curious Me]

She is only 12 and I think you are right on track in the support department. I personally would not make her future relationships a big part of conversations right now. I have a 15 year-old (who also identifies as bi and is involved with [nearly] the worst partner a mom would ever want for her child--seriously) whom I wish was a lot less interested in her girlfriend and more concerned with college, career planning, service, sports and hobbies.

With regard to her just "being" and your being supportive of her as a person, she might appreciate your going with her to your local pride events next summer or helping her to otherwise connect with the LGBT community through events, gatherings or service.

She might enjoy going to Camp Ten Trees www.camptentrees.org in a couple years. Camp Ten Trees is a summer camp here in Washington State which focuses a one-week session on children OF LGBT parents; and focuses the other one-week session on youth who IDENTIFY AS LGBT or Questioning. Kids come from all over the country. That would be very supportive of you and fun for her. In fact, my daughter is there right now and will be there for both sessions because both sessions apply to her.

[tara]

Camp Ten Trees rocks. The organization my partner works for (the Pride Foundation) gives them some funding, and I have been consistently impressed by them. They have a sliding scale if budget is an issue. I think that's a great idea!

Maybe you could join PFLAG?

But, I know at that age I would have preferred quiet, but steady, support. She knows you support her, it has been evidenced in more ways that just words. That alone is worth so much.

[max_4477]

Yeah, if you became a PFLAG mom that would rock!

Also offering her camp (CTT does rock and has a sliging scale if that's a concern), youth groups, pride events, etc geared toward young people is a really nice gesture.

[CerridwenLorelei]

thanks all

I don't know if I want her that far away at 13 though ...not just yet
next year may be different
WA is a loong way from Tx

going to check out pflag though I am afraid dallas will end up being the closet ( 2 1/2 hours away)

[Curious Me]

I'm 99% sure that the minimum age for the session for GLBT and Questioning youth is 15, so you have a few years before you need to worry about it.