PP Mamas - What do we have to look forward to

[chiro_kristin]

as far as any annoying postpartum comments from people. We all know the comments that have come in the last month of pregnancy that make you wanna shred some heads. I was just wondering if there was anything that really annoys you about people after the baby arrives!

[cachet]

is he/she a good baby? OK, i know what they mean (how is baby sleeping, does he/she cry a lot etc) but there's no such thing as a "bad" baby!

and as if you haven't heard it enough when 9 mo pg, "when are you due?" is one that you DON'T want to hear after you've had your baby. :

[Mama Coltrane]

Yes , the good baby question drove me nuts, even though I know everyone meant well. Of course, he is a good baby!!
Also, I hated when everyone asked how he slept. I mean , they sleep like babies, sometimes alot, sometimes a little, etc.
Oh, another favorite- " How long do you intend to nurse?' Dumb question and kind of annoying if you know the person asking thinks babies should stop at 3 months or 6 months, etc.
With this baby, I bet I will get comparison questions with DS. Also, since I will be tandem nursing, I will probably get alot of questions ( criticisms) about when I will be stopping, etc. OH joy!

For all the bad quesiotns, I got some good ones too- about the birth, my emotions, etc.

- Kerri

[AugustLia23]

I keep getting asked how long my labour was...and that is such a complicated q. for me. I mean from start to finish, my labour was 29 hours, but only the very end was "painful" and intense the way many think about labour.

[~Megan~]

Originally Posted by AugustLia23

I keep getting asked how long my labour was...and that is such a complicated q. for me. I mean from start to finish, my labour was 29 hours, but only the very end was "painful" and intense the way many think about labour.

nod, I can be a martyr and say 25 hours or include just the active part and say 5

People also keep telling me I'm doing too much. Really, I'm doing nothing. I'm sleeping a lot during the day, nursing, watching TV, and sitting on the computer. I guess that could be a lot, sorta. I think some people (my sil) expected me to lament to her about how terrible it was and how I wish I had drugs, etc, etc but I don't feel that way about my labor. In the moment it was completely overwhelming and terribly painful but it was doable. And I'd do it again (and choose it over a c-section anytime as I've now done both).

[Korwynne]

is she sleeping through the night yet?

how old is your son? (while she's dressed in a pink flowered dress and has a pink blanket over her)

[henhao]

DH and I were talking about the comments people make...that they make because they speak on autopilot.

You know the ones I mean:

"Get your sleep now!"
"Isn't it terrible to be pregnant in August? It's SOOOOO hot."

Ugh, I'm not looking forward to more "autopilot" comments afterwards.

I def know what NOT to say to preg and recently preg people in the future...

[zjandosmom]

I had to pop in from Jan club....my favorite was when I had one in the sling at the old Home Depot, "Oh....that's a baby. I thought it was a puppy". I am not making that up. Why on earth would I carry a puppy in a sling? People are so odd.

[Mama Coltrane]

I think it is real chic these days to carry your little dog in its own special bag or sling thing. Funny, my MIL sleeps with her dog, but I think she thinks it is wierd that we sleep with DS. Also, she often feeds the dog by hand. Yes, I still nurse my toddler. But... which is stranger...???!! I love dogs, but it is strange when they get better treatment than human babies.

[ktmama]

Here's mine: "You look SOOOOO good!" when I obviously, well, do NOT! On the other hand, how am I supposed to look? It reminds me of that Mike Myers character on SNL "Middle Aged Man" who always said, "You lookin' at my gut? I'm working on it!" :

[carrietorgc]

the comments about doing too much are annoying - i just don't WANT to nap all the time!

oh yeah, and the look great comments are a joke

[nancy926]

So far only one person has asked if Zoe is a "good baby"...otherwise I've been getting a lot of "you look great!" comments. I guess people are just trying to be nice because for the first week I KNOW I looked like, well, I'd just given birth and needed a haircut. LOL.

I've also had people "sympathize" about my 10-hour labor...all people who have never given birth. I thought 10 hours was pretty short, considering my first DD was born after 22 hours of labor!


Nancy

[heldt123]

I'll have to agree the "is he a good baby" drives me nuts. I responded to one cashier with: "Is there any such thing as a bad baby?" she replied with, "weeell, my daughter"-bla, bla, bla-come on people!! Yeah, my baby cries and fusses a lot and keeps me up at horrible hours, but that sure doesn't make him bad in any way. I wanted to tell her that yeah, he's horrible, I just bailed him out of jail yesterday.

I am also getting annoyed by the stares when I use my sling or breastfeed in public. I happen to live in a VERY non-crunchy area. In the 5 years I have lived here, I have only seen one other person using a sling and one other person breastfeeding in public. I used a sling the other day in the grochery store and I may as well have had three legs for all the stares I got. I went into this one store and the lady was asking about it and had never seen anything like it before.

One other thing that gets me is how everyone feels compelled to tell me why they couldn't breastfeed and continue to give me all the lame excuses that they have conjured up. I don't ask, I don't care, why do they think they need to tell me? I'm serious--everyone (I've heard it all.). Or my cousin-in-law who is breastfeeding, but tells me that that is what dressing rooms are for.

[Korwynne]

Originally Posted by zjandosmom

I had to pop in from Jan club....my favorite was when I had one in the sling at the old Home Depot, "Oh....that's a baby. I thought it was a puppy". I am not making that up. Why on earth would I carry a puppy in a sling? People are so odd.

I get "wow.. i thought you had a doll in there" ummm.. yeah. I carry around a doll just for the hell of it since I'm such a nut case

My favorite stupid comment ever was when Lindsey was almost 2 and some lady took a glance at her white blonde curls and asked me if she was a natural blonde. :LOL

[henhao]

Originally Posted by heldt123

I'll have to agree the "is he a good baby" drives me nuts. I responded to one cashier with: "Is there any such thing as a bad baby?" she replied with, "weeell, my daughter"-bla, bla, bla-come on people!! Yeah, my baby cries and fusses a lot and keeps me up at horrible hours, but that sure doesn't make him bad in any way. I wanted to tell her that yeah, he's horrible, I just bailed him out of jail yesterday.

Comments like that is when my inner smart a$$ comes out. I'd make up some joke about Satan or something.