Originally Posted by OtherMother'n'Madre
No I wouldn't think that was negative. I would understand that one because like you said I am a stepchild myself. The "negative" posts I'm talking about are the ones where parents are trying to get rid of the kids (bad phrasing but stuff like camp or other activities) so they doin't have to deal with their situations all day.
I've also been honest that I'm not fully prepared to be dss's full-time mom, and if I recall my MAIN problem was that SO said he understood and agreed, and then did nothing to actually help!
I'm sorry, but if I'm stressed out, how is that helping dss? I'm a parent, just like any other parent, the only difference is, dss and I still have a new relationship, and neither of us were prepared for a full-time parent/child situation, and I was very angry with SO for pushing that on BOTH of us. (I've been with SO almost 3 years now, however, dss and I have only had a relationship since last year... This was our fault (SO and I), but we lived long distance, so there wasn't much of a way around it)
To be hoenst, dss did spend the WHOLE summer with me, with the exception of one week with grandma, and 1, 3 day weekend with biomom. The first week I had problems, but we survived, and it seems dss and I are growing in our relationship together. (when I let my guard down, and let go of MY problems... Posting here, I got to see that these were MY problems and not dss's... He was an easy target to blame, and I regret that deeply, but posting here, taught me I was wrong...)
I agree, how I felt was negative. But I also know I was scared, and felt very hurt and angry at SO... But, like I said, posting HERE, helped me ALOT...