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post #61 of 178
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Originally Posted by Pigpen
http://photobucket.com/albums/v736/i...t=P8240002.jpg
that tells you how I feel about it :LOL
We have a hose hooked up to our wash basin so I can hose them off with warm water before they come in for a bath.
I want to know what laundry soap you use???
post #62 of 178
My kids love to get dirty. Right now we are doing major renovations to the backyard. Mix dirt, water and shovels and you get kids who need a hose off in the sink before the bath. Their scalps are black with dirt (as they fill their hats, then put them on) Right now, the favourite activity is to dump dirt on the slide, add water, and slide through it. All their clothes are play clothes

I try to wipe most of the dirt off before going to the store, but when I quickly run out, sometimes they are dirty. Oh well

But hey..what do I know? I taught DS the proper way to splash in puddles (if you jump with your feet together you stay fairly dry, but the others get wet).
post #63 of 178
babydoll, I think you have some issues. Who cares if a kid's dirty, as long as they're happy? You'd freak if you ever saw my daughter. She loves to play in the dirt, draw on her clothes with crayons, and explore everything around her. She hates having her hair brushed and her face wiped off. I'm not about to change her clothes every time she gets something on them - I'd never keep up with the laundry if I did! And if I have to run errands, and she doesn't feel like having her hair brushed or having her face wiped off, then there's a good possibility that you'll see her out in public with me with a dirty shirt, messy hair, and avocado on her face.

FTR, I've heard of soap. We use it to wash DD's hands when she comes in from playing outside and before we eat. We also use it every night when DD takes a bath before bed.

Sorry, but I just hate it when people put so much importance on someone's outward appearance, especially when it comes to children. We get enough of that crap from the media. It's a pet peeve of mine.
post #64 of 178
Kids who like to get dirty, and are not only allowed to get dirty, but
encouraged to, are having the best time. They are exploring their
world, and what could be better than that.
People gave me weird looks too when dd was a baby and she was
all grassy and dirty. I got used to it, which is good cause we still get
looks, and it's not just cause dd is dirty.
Last week she got into my makeup right before we were leaving the
house. Just blush and lipstick, but with a five year old hand, so you
can imagine the clown face she had. She ran out to me and said
"Mama don't I look pretty". Big smile across her face. I told her I
knew she was pretty all the time. But she was so proud of herself.
I didn't have her clean up, she spent the day like that. Many people
thought it was cute and asked if she had played dress up today. But
many looked at me like I was the one who applied makeup on my
5yo daughter. <rolls eyes>
post #65 of 178
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Originally Posted by johub
My sadness for this child and the feeling that she is missing out on a lot of enjoyment remains whether this is her innate temperament or ingrained by her parents.
Some kids (and people) get a lot more out of watching and observing than doing. You may be someone who enjoys doing and you might very well be missing out if you weren't involved in the activity. The little girl may be someone who doesn't enjoy doing as much as she enjoys watching. I was such a child myself (I'd much rather sit and watch others play than play with them, and this preference had nothing to do with fear of dirt). In fact, I think my joy of reading comes from this same trait - watching and observing others' emotions and actions is basically what you do when you read a novel.
post #66 of 178
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Originally Posted by mamawanabe
Some kids (and people) get a lot more out of watching and observing than doing. You may be someone who enjoys doing and you might very well be missing out if you weren't involved in the activity. The little girl may be someone who doesn't enjoy doing as much as she enjoys watching. I was such a child myself (I'd much rather sit and watch others play than play with them, and this preference had nothing to do with fear of dirt). In fact, I think my joy of reading comes from this same trait - watching and observing others' emotions and actions is basically what you do when you read a novel.
Sure I get that. But I also think you can kinda tell when that is the case and the child who is just longing to join but doesnt.
Whether or not the child looks like they are having a good time is far more important than what they are doign to have that good time.
I also know that some children do not bubble out joy whenever they are experiencing it, and so they may look serious or sad but actually feel happy.
But If someone looks sad, I dont think it is jumping to conclusions to feel bad that they seen sad.
joline
post #67 of 178
well, I love my dirty, sticky, blueberry-stained, dog hair eating baby! I love that she doesn't have any inhibitions about exploring her environment with *all* of her senses, and that she is able to be comfortable and play. She gets a bath every night, and her hands and face wiped as and when necessary, but I do not feel the need to 'sanitise' her or her environment! And yes, that does mean that we leave the house *in the daytime* and go to the store and she's grubby : She's a child, for pete's sake, not a biohazard!

I grew up in a household literally *obsessed* with dirt and contamination, and all I got out of that was an anxiety disorder - I truly believe my daughter deserves better than that
post #68 of 178
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Originally Posted by BabyBumblebee
She's a child, for pete's sake, not a biohazard!

:LOL Well I dunno, If she's on any kind of solids yet.... :LOL

There are some days I wonder if my DD is a biohazard on diaper odour alone!
post #69 of 178
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Pandora114
:LOL Well I dunno, If she's on any kind of solids yet.... :LOL

There are some days I wonder if my DD is a biohazard on diaper odour alone!
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Yeah, DD ate corn and beans last night. You can imagine the result. I changed three poopy diapers between waking up and naptime this morning, and what a mess!!!
post #70 of 178
A few days ago dd was complaining that she had a little piece of blueberry skin stuck in her teeth. I asked "How do you think we should get it out? Maybe your toothbrush?" She said, "No, me have a good idea!!" and took off for the bedroom. I followed her a few seconds later and saw her sitting on our bed, gnawing on the sole of dh's shoe! :LOL

We are SOOO not germ phobic. Children who are exposed to the common germs of the human body, household and domestic animals are often healthier in the long run.

Speaking from experience, and about the adults I know, there seems to be a high correlation between germ-phobic, overprotective parenting and anxiety disorders. Not sure if one causes the other... just an observation that makes me wonder...
post #71 of 178
Great pics!! I hope I can be dirty with my dc once I get 'em.
I am reminded of an encounter with my then 1 1/2 yo nephew. His first time at the beach, and we couldn't keep the sand filled shovel out of his mouth!! I have no idea how much sand he ate that day. The look on his face was quite contemplative as he moved it around in his mouth. . . : It was an absolute riot, and my favorite memory from that visit.
post #72 of 178
My boys LIVED dirty in the summer, and in fact still do (they are 10 and 8 now). To be honest, I wanted them to get out and get dirty, cause to me that showed they were enjoying the outdoors. Plus, I just think dirty little kids are CUTE ! LOL ! And when we needed to go to the grocery store, post office, park, dept. store, etc., etc., they never got cleaned up beforehand. I would take them in all their barefoot, shirtless, grimy, sweaty, dirt and popsickle stickiness-stained glory ! And I have to admit, if they fell asleep at night before they got a bath, I just carted them off to their beds and let them get up the next morning still messy and ready for round two, and if there was yet another trip to the store on the agenda, they would go with me again on day two. Don't worry...they always got a bath eventually. I just never had a set schedule for it. They still enjoy playing and getting dirty...but now I let them decide when they are going to get clean. They usually do so on a daily basis, but not always. I just have never worried about my kids getting dirty, and I never will.
post #73 of 178
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post #74 of 178
Yeah, people are just uptight.

I remember when ds first started crawling my instinct was to protect him from anything dirty ... my precious perfect baby! :LOL ... but once I thought about it and obviously saw that what he needed was to explore everything .. what's a little dirt?

Or a LOT of caked on mud? Or a mouthful of grass, or... you get the point.

Where's the fun in never getting dirty? What would be the point of baths, then?

And sticks, I really feel like moms know best what is dangerous or inappropriate for their kids, and if mom thinks they're okay with a stick, noone else is a better judge of what's gonna "put an eye out"
post #75 of 178
lol.. my boys are the kings of messy!!lol they are 4 and 1 and i don't think they have been clean all summer. My oldest constantly has mud on his face..even if there is no mud around?!? lol And his little brother is the same. He will not wear shoes so his feet are always dirty.
The other day we had a huge rain storm here, when it was done the boys and i went for a walk downtown. Obviously my boys find the biggest badest puddle the the sidewalk and start running threw it. Laughing and giggling, jsut getting utterly soaking wet and muddy!! My youngest went face first in it just as 2 eldery ladies were walking by. They stopped and watched the kids and laughed along with them. Then they said to me "it's so nice to see kids getting to be kids."
And when they were done we i rung out there pant legs and shirts a little and we walked over to the grocery store.
post #76 of 178
M 2 yo knows to take her clothes OFF before she sits in the mud puddles - much to my neighbors chagrin, I think. They all have toddlers and are a little more - hovering, shall we say.

I don't worry about sticks or rocks or anything. I don't see monkey mommas taking sticks out of baby monkey hands and they seem to be OK. I think that's what the eye reflex is for. Your eyes normally close when something gets near them.

We are also a "low soap" family. I won't say NO soap. But it's not a staple in the bath. And baths for DD happen once or twice a week. The rest of the time we just shake her out.

As for the grocery store - well you won't see me there with DD.


That's DH's job - and DD will probably be climibing up the cart perching precariously somewhere and someone else will be glaring at DH.
post #77 of 178
Hee, like Pandora114, I *wish* my DD would get dirtier! A kid who smells of dirt and sunshine and good, clean sweat is a wonderful thing! She prefers to get wet, which I suppose is messy play, but I like the dirt!

When we were kids, my mom would bathe us in the basement utility sink if we were terribly filthy (which happened a lot) - it was easier to do that than bathe us and then scrub the bathtub! At a minimum, we'd be told to scrub the bottoms of our feet before we came in the house, because we went barefoot a LOT and played on grass, dirt, concrete, blacktop, you name it.
post #78 of 178
I can't wait to have a dirty child! Of course, if my child turns out to be germ-phobic, I'll deal with that as well.

I think that many of you are jumping down johub's throat, and I'm not sure why. I have seen what she has described several times and I am always sad that a child is left out of something he/she wants to do, or even if the child doesn't want to do the activity, if he/she is left out of wanted social interactions because all the other children are doing it, that makes me sad, too.

I teach and several children in my class have had times when they've been really upset about their clothing because they were playing in the mud pit at school (yes, we have one in the garden!) and splashed a tiny bit on their clothing and were crying because they had promised their parents that they wouldn't get their clothing dirty at all. For shame! And this is a Waldorf school where parents know we have a garden and play in nature all day long...
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post #80 of 178
<---Another vote for people are uptight.
<---And another mom with grubby kids.
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