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post #81 of 178
Another mama who encourages her children to get dirty. And gets some crazy looks for it, but who cares?
I am a firm believer that children need to be exposed to bugs so that their immune system learns to fight them off. I think the obsessions with germ phobia, antibacterial soap, disinfect everything is only making sicker and sicker people. Besides one of the most harmful things to the body is stress. When my boys were newborns, people would say they couldn't visit because they had a cold. I asked them if they had anything deadly and they said no, so I said come on over. We had animals, dirt and I never had a rule about washing hands before holding them, and I have some amazingly healthy kids. My oldest has never been to the doctor besides a well baby checkup, and not even those is 3 years and he is turning 4 monday. When they do get sick it is so mild because their body just fights it off so well. I have moms all the time asking me if I am going to stop my kids from putting this or that in their mouth and I say no.

In fact now that we live in an apartment I know they are missing having a backyard to get muddy and wet in, I may take them camping this weekend though and then they can get their fill of it. An old playgroup I went to we went to the pumpkin patch and one of the moms yelled at her daughter for jumping in a puddle, we are at the pumpkin patch for Christ's sake, let her be. It made me so sad.
post #82 of 178

ugh

I am sure I will get hundreds of flaming e-mails from this post but I don't care. I am so glad that I have instilled a sense of self confidence in my child that she likes to have good hygiene and when she plays outside and gets dirty that she WANTS to come inside and get clean. She does help me garden and play outside and take yard sticks (carefully - without knawing on them) to the stick pile in the yard. She does have a swingset and covered sand and water table that she plays in. We do have a good time, but we know what is acceptable and what is not.

Shame on you Mamas that can't be bothered to bring an extra outfit or wash your children's face and hands. Good hygiene is not just about looking good -there are health reasons for washing your hands after playing in the dirt!

Some of the stories on here make me want to puke. I would not let my child play with a child that is covered in dirt. I would be afraid the kid had lice and would not want her to play with that child. Sorry people but your outward appearance does affect how people treat you and your kids might as well learn that in life people are going to respect and want to be around the clean kid not the dirty filthy kid with 2 or 3 or 4 days of dirt on them.

Flame away. Kick me off. I don't care. I have said my peace! :yawning:
post #83 of 178
*Bah...never mind*
post #84 of 178
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Originally Posted by PadmaMorgana
*Bah...never mind*
Taking PadmaMorgana's muddy high road...love the scenery!
post #85 of 178
Perfectly fine.

Builds character. :LOL
post #86 of 178
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Pigpen
Taking PadmaMorgana's muddy high road...love the scenery!
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post #87 of 178
We do have a good time, but we know what is acceptable and what is not.

As do we

Some of the stories on here make me want to puke. I would not let my child play with a child that is covered in dirt. I would be afraid the kid had lice and would not want her to play with that child.

I need to let you know that lice is a communicable disease and has NOTHING to do with cleanliness. The cleanest people in the world can get lice. And it's really common, though traumatic in childhood. So if/when you kids come home with lice, please know that's it's really common and unrelated to hygiene.

And to everyone else - don't worry. We'll still play with you in the park and I'll make nice if I should ever see you in the grocery store.
post #88 of 178
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Originally Posted by Pigpen
Taking PadmaMorgana's muddy high road...love the scenery!

Whew! I'm getting tired over here...Legs are starting to hurt from walking up this high road.....but at least the company's good!
post #89 of 178


My grandmomma taught me how to cook with flour in our hair, how to play with dirt on our clothes and how to love with snot rubbing on your shoulder.

She also taught me, "if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing"
post #90 of 178
I will openly admit that my kids have, on several occasions in their lives, been those kids with "2 or 3 or 4 days of dirt on them," as babydoll mentions. And you know what? I'm not ashamed of it ! And know something else? My kids are great kids and have never wanted for friends and playmates, even on their dirtiest days ! From what I have seen, the clean and neat kids have always been in the minority...there are FAR more dirty kids that I have seen over the years than clean ones...and to that I say ...CHEERS to the mammas who don't get uptight about it!
post #91 of 178
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Originally Posted by PadmaMorgana


My grandmomma taught me how to cook with flour in our hair, how to play with dirt on our clothes and how to love with snot rubbing on your shoulder.
That's really beautiful. I was thinking one day as my 2 yo lay in my arms, all sweaty with a booger dried on her face HOW much I loved her. With all of her dirt and boogers. I mean I wouldn't sleep with my DH all sweaty and booger-esque - but no problem with DD.

sorry TMI just totally ruined your beautiful sentiments.
Was it something you g-ma said, or something you just made up now about her? I'd love for someone to think that about me someday.
post #92 of 178
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Originally Posted by Ellien C
That's really beautiful. I was thinking one day as my 2 yo lay in my arms, all sweaty with a booger dried on her face HOW much I loved her. With all of her dirt and boogers. I mean I wouldn't sleep with my DH all sweaty and booger-esque - but no problem with DD.

sorry TMI just totally ruined your beautiful sentiments.
Was it something you g-ma said, or something you just made up now about her? I'd love for someone to think that about me someday.
My grandma died when i was 9. We had tea parties and baked. needless to say, when i stirred, flour went everywhere. She never made me feel bad about it. She taught me to flour a board (like a kneading board) with a heavy hand. We used to dig in the garden for vegetables. When I cried (at 9, I was convinced she was the only one who loved me) she would hold me as the snot flowed. DH is the only other one upon whose shoulder I wiped my nose.

It is not what she said to me (the last thing she said to my face was in response to me saying "someday grandma I will be taller than you". She told me "I hope you are everything you dream") It is how I remember her

The "if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing" she liked to tell me. And she lived by it.

love never has TMI You didn't ruin anything...my grandma was a loving soul. Her funeral was packed, with people standing on the lawn of the church. If my kids remember the mess, the snot and the love, *I* have done my job.

Dirt washes...memories are forever.
post #93 of 178
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Originally Posted by babydoll

I have said my peace! :yawning:
yet somehow not very peacefully.
post #94 of 178
I love my filthy kids, both of them are sleeping right now in our family bed, dirt and all, after crashing out in the car driving home from a BBQ where the baby ate dirt, grass, black beans and zucchini

They also both play with sticks all the time, not sure why kids aren't allowed to play with sticks? The baby eats them and the 4yo, well, uses them for a million things, we have quite a stick collection and they are all, apparently, sacred :LOL

I think it's silly and a waste of time to worry about a little dirt, there are so many better things in life to waste your energy on, so I agree with the OP: UPTIGHT!!!
post #95 of 178
Are some people just completely unaware that we humans used to live a completely un"civilized" existence as nomadic tribes with *gasp* no soap OR running water?
post #96 of 178
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Originally Posted by KristiMetz
Are some people just completely unaware that we humans used to live a completely un"civilized" existence as nomadic tribes with *gasp* no soap OR running water?
I know, isn't it SHOCKING!!!! How did the species EVER SURVIVE without pump-top antibacterial soap?
post #97 of 178
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Originally Posted by babydoll
I would not let my child play with a child that is covered in dirt. I would be afraid the kid had lice and would not want her to play with that child.
Just be aware that lice do not care if a kid is clean or not. The most sparkling, squeaky clean kid in your child's class will have lice at some point, and so will yours. I can just about guarantee it.

I dont play in mud these days, and I shower daily, but I've had headlice more times than I can remember. Caught from numerous clean kids.
post #98 of 178
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post #99 of 178
Padma, your Grandma was wonderful!
I was just thinking about this thread again, and remembered one of the few things I remember from my childhood. I was about 5 years old and my dad dug up a big shrub in our backyard. Where the shrub used to be was now a big hole. He filled it with water and we played in that ALL DAY! Our clothes were completely mud-soaked but we had a blast! I still remember it 30 years later.
post #100 of 178
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Originally Posted by babydoll
Well it may be true that headlice is a communicable disease. Thankfully I have never had it! However, the child that is bathed daily is FAR more likely to nip it in the bud immediately than those whose NEGLECTFUL parent waits 4 days to give him or her a bath!

When I was in second grade the girl next to me ALWAYS had headlice. We had to sit in alphabetical order. Every time the nurse came thorugh with her nit comb and spray alcohol this girl had it, yet I sat next to her for years and I never got it. Maybe luck combined with daily bathing.
Daily bathing does NOTHING to prevent lice; it's a COMMUNICABLE disease. You get lice by being near other people who have it. Daily baths don't prevent it in ANY WAY.
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