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post #141 of 148
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Originally Posted by Starr
I just had to share this story, to give you MY parents view:

In 10th grade right before Christmas break I came home from a date with a hickey.
Ha!!! I swear I had not read this when I posted my hypothetical about the dance and the hickey!!! :LOL
post #142 of 148
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Originally Posted by nonconformnmom
What I suggested to her is that she turn her computer off at night and then turn it back on in the morning before she steps in the shower and that way it will be up and ready for use when she is showered and ready to start her day. A simple solution, but she wasn't happy with it, which is why the next step was to let her experience a day without access so that perhaps 3 minutes waiting time for it to start up would not seem like such a hardship.
I may very well get stung, but if you are paying the electricity bill and you think it's too much energy (though I'd guess it may be just a few pennies and am now curious to know what it would cost [I drive myself crazy and am so thankful for the Internet!!!]), I don't see ANYTHING wrong with your solution.
post #143 of 148
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Originally Posted by Curious Me
This is fascinating. How old are your children?
DS is 18 (it's years, not months :LOL ) and DD is 5
post #144 of 148
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Originally Posted by UUMom
So are you saying shame and punishment are GD if people decide they are? I let my baby CIO, but I am still a respectful parent? I am still "AP' because I say I am?

ETA a question mark after 'respectful parent'.
What is ETA? CIO?
post #145 of 148
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Originally Posted by Curious Me
What is ETA? CIO?
Edited To Add

Crying It Out
post #146 of 148
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Originally Posted by Dar
with you while you're interrupting me" or "I'm not willing to pay $2.25 a load to wash the same laundry twice without it being worn in
This is somewhat familiar to me. How is it resolved if the clean clothes eventually did end up in the dirty laundry basket instead of being worn?
post #147 of 148
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Originally Posted by nonconformnmom
Here's a question for those of you who say you don't use consequences in your home: Why did you open this thread?




It would really be nice if you could have the grace to allow those of us who wish to discuss consequences to do so in peace.

Huh????? After all that anger and crap flying from every direction, I thought this thread had finally calmed to a reasonably nice discussion. Here we go again........
post #148 of 148
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Originally Posted by allgirls
I am proud to say though that all of these boundaries have been set in place with minimal yelling on my part...I am staying calm even though she lets me down time after time. But I cry a lot when she's not around because I worry so much.

I hope she comes through this and at 18 or 20 starts to see that I had to do it...it wasn't punishment, it was prevention.
Hang in there Carolyn. It sounds like you are doing a great job and I'm sure at some point she will definitely appreciate all of your efforts.
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