Please don't take what I'm posting here as anything but sincere.
UUMom, I thought I posted this on the "Teens" thread, not the GD thread, that is why I didn't expect this to turn into a GD discussion. Seriously, I didn't realize that GD was the expected or most common method for all discipline issues discussed on MDC (not being snarky or sarcastic; I'm honestly puzzled and somewhat contrite.) In fact, I am so new to much of this that I also didn't realize that consequences are against GD philosophy.
I do not have anger at my daughter, I was unhappy with her behavior. And your attempt to critique my parenting by bringing up my blog entry here and discussing it is hurtful. I have a comment section on my blog ...
As for using the book in a "negative way" I'm hard-pressed to understand how asking an 18-year old to read and discuss a book with me can be construed as negative. I certainly didn't force her; I offered it to her as a way of shortening the time she was restricted from online access. I also do not see how limiting online access is a 'punishment' or anything less than gentle guidance/ discipline. I saw it as a way of redirecting
her to a more constructive way to use her time and the household's energy consumption.
What I suggested to her is that she turn her computer off at night and then turn it back on in the morning before she steps in the shower and that way it will be up and ready for use when she is showered and ready to start her day. A simple solution, but she wasn't happy with it, which is why the next step was to let her experience a day without access so that perhaps 3 minutes waiting time for it to start up would not seem like such a hardship.
Again, I'm sincerely sorry that I inadvertently stepped into a hornet's nest by discussing a method other than GD on the Teen board. I'll know better next time.