Originally Posted by sweetpea333
my parents tried to talk to me and understand why i would act out and they would talk to me about how my actions affected myself and them and how it could hurt me in the long run ect, and they would really listen, but it wasn't enough for me i think they should have taken priviledges away and really wish that i would have gotten grounded because i wouldn't have made the same mistakes over and over again (drinking, sleeping around). i felt respected because my parents listened to me, but i also felt ignored because i didn't get the discipline i desparately needed, and i dont think i would have felt "shamed" at all for being disciplined.. gd isn't going to work for everyone..
Interesting. Doesn't make sense to me, so do you mind me asking you a few questions?
What's GD to you?
Why do you think you disrespected your parents so?
I can see you didn't feel heard- you needed more and they wouldn'tcouldn't give it. did you feel they ignored your needs?
Why do you think they let you continue with self destructive behaviors while doing little?
Do you think you would have respected punishments, like gorundings etc. And how would this have felt different to you than them listening to you and discussing your needs with you?
Do you still, as an adult, try to 'get away with things', if you can? If so, what might make you stop? And if not, what made you change?
Do you have a relationship with your parents today?
Do you consider yourself a GD parent?
I am also particularly interested in girls with good self esteem who 'sleep around' . Did you feel your parents appreciated your sexuality, and what could they have done differently if you didn't?