Originally Posted by sweetpea333
there wasn't any root cause, other than i wanted to have fun, and they did try and understand, and find the problem, but nothing is 100%, right, it just didn't work for me. and i didnt feel like answering the questions right now, maybe later
Otherwise, why do you care that you slept around when you were a teenager? Why do you keep bringing it up?
My parents tried a variety of consequences (including grounding me) to get me to stop what I was doing, but none of those things worked. It's pretty hard to control a teenager and keep them from doing what they want to do.
That's one reason why it is so important to me to internalize GD methods. They don't depend upon the physical power of the parent to keep a child from doing something, which invariably fails when the child becomes a teenager.
I'm sorry you did things you regret when you were a teenager, and that it had lasting consequences. But your parents, and their lack of punitive control, are not necessarily to blame for that.