I had this dream

[Velvet005]

Last night, I had a strange dream. First of all let me start out by telling you that my pregnant friend found out she is having a boy (previous post about how if she found out she was having a boy she would circ). I have been fumbling in my mind about the circ debate and how to educate her without causing a battle. This is probably where this dream come from....

The Dream:
My mother had a baby (yes now at 52 years old!! :LOL ) and my friend also had her baby. Both boys. I was in the hospial room with my mother when she sent the baby off to be circ'd. I began crying and screaming at her. I asked her why she was doing it because I had already showed her the facts and the video and we had discussed the issue and she was against it. I told her I couldn't believe she was going to allow her son to be mutilated. I dreamed that I accepted my friends decision because we had not discussed the facts and she wasn't fully aware but my mother was and she still chose to have it done.

I woke up nearly in tears. I guess I have just been thinking about my friends so much that now I am dreaming about it. I also think my mind was telling me that even if I discuss the fact with my friend and show her the video, she will stil circ.

Has anyone else had such dreams?

[Quirky]

Yes, I get these kinds of dreams and I also stay awake until the wee hours brooding and stewing over battles lost, and battles to be fought....it's hard.

[Lula's Mom]

I haven't had dreams as far as I remember. But like Quirky, this whole issue keeps me up nights sometimes. It's hard not to think about it constantly when you know that there is an unimaginable horror waiting for someone's baby after he's born. It's especially hard when you're planning your stratgey with someone you know, because you know it might not make a difference, but you have to say something.

It has gotten to where circumcision is the first thing I think of when I hear somebody's pregnant, even celebrities. My mind immediately jumps to "Please let it be a girl!" which is sad, because little boys are so awesome too. But I just want there to not even be a choice to be made. And I hate when it's someone you pretty much know is going to do it. Like Jerry Seinfeld, or Clark Howard, both of whom just had sons. I look at the news story and just see inevitable pain and damage for those babies.

Well, it's the price to pay for caring about it, I suppose. Not so much to bear, compared to what the babies go through.

[Velvet005]

Yes, when I hear about pregnancies and know the person will circ - I also hope they will be having girls. But like you said if it weren't even a choice (as in circing is NOT an option and not a *standard* procedure) then I wouldn't have these thoughts.
I have decided I will give my friend the latest issue of Mothering since it is about pregnancy and the circ issue. I do not have the issue but I noticed another thread talking about it. It couldn't have come at a more perfect time for my situation.

You are right I have to say something. At least I will have tried in the end and who knows maybe it will make a difference.