Originally Posted by PuppyFluffer
I attended a women's relationship workshop many years ago and have remembered a quote ever since. "You don't know what you don't know." Meaning that you only know what you were raised with. If you were not brought up in a loving family, it is hard to put yourself in a relationship that is loving. She was speaking of the patterns of dysfunction women get into when picking relationship partners....but it is true for raising our children.
I think the first thing to realize is that many of us don't have the skills. Maybe that would empower some women to stop beating themselves up for their yelling and other non-GD ways of interacting with their children. I think feeling depressed about a behavior in some ways serves to keep you stuck there because you feel so bad about yourself it is hard to get the energy to learn to be better becasue somewhere in your mind, you just think that you suck.