been there, done that... good for you for choosing to GD!i think what everyone here has suggested is a great place to start. i can't say enough how much your child will learn from your example alone. i am starting to see this in my own son, who is five. example: in the last 6 months, i have made a concious effort *not* to be afraid of spiders. i know most of them aren't dangerous, and that most of them are in fact beneficial to have around. i've been afraid of them since i was a kid, but i really don't want to project my fears on my kids. if i go EEK, they will go EEK, etc... so anyway, since i've been making this effort, i'm seeing it rub off on my kids to the point where they will find spiders in the house and bring me over to talk about them
i imagine that dealing with your feelings of anger are similar. obviously i don't want my son to lash out and hit anyone he gets mad at, or say hurtful things, or yell... so you need to think about how you would want your children to deal with these feelings, how they would resolve these issues in the healthiest way possible. three big breaths, happy time outs, whatever... model whatever you want your kids to learn, and then apply natural consequences when it's appropriate. set your kids up for success (for example, choose the picnic over the quiet restaurant for lunch, don't do you grocery shopping when the kids are tired and hungry etc...)
i also love these... for those moments when i absolutely NEED to withdraw and collect myself: http://www.naturalchild.com/parenting_cards/
good luck mama
