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post #21 of 39
I've been thinking and affected by all of the hurricane news, too. I hope you hear from your friends soon, *Amy*. And enjoy your trip BensMom.

I think we have found a great place to live- and can take posession today and move in soon (maybe next weekend). I'm going to sign the rental contract in two hours! It's a two bedroom apartment not too far from here. Very clean and spacious, and with two bathrooms, too, which is an awesome bonus! As an amazing coincidence, my husband's boss (also a friend of ours) lives in the same building, just down the hall. It's just a small building- but because of Matt's boss living there, we already know a couple of people in the building. The neighbourhood is a little less nice than where we are right now, but still just a little bit further to walk back to our current 'hood- the library, cafes, community centre, etc.

Had a midwife appointment today, and all is well- I had been planning to talk a lot about birth plans, etc. but really need to focus on nesting in my new space a bit before I can really imagine birthing there. Mostly we talked about stress management...I've been trying to do lots of relaxation and visualization over the last few days. I also got instructions from the midwife to not do too much during the move- she encouraged me to take a spa day and hire movers or get friends to do everything!

Last week I posted in the weekly chat that I had such a great pregnancy and was waiting for the other shoe to drop...I guess it really did this week. Here's hoping that the rest of the pregnancy goes smoothly and stress-free. And wishing the same to all of you.
post #22 of 39
MamaFern, glad things worked out with your sister, that's so great. It sounds like your new big room will be just what you need.

Bensmom, I had not heard about the gas crisis (I am totally totally out of the news we don't own a TV, I read no newspapers, so only if I decide to check it on-line do I hear). Anyway, I am planning on driving down to Clemson, SC for a conference next week (with DH). I will be reimbursed for the cost of gas, but I hope we don't run into any problems getting it down there. Is the crisis limited to Atlanta? And, I can't beleive that you are doing deadlifts and squats -- wow . . . I used to do a lot of squats and think they are the best exercise, now I just do them with no weight, though . . .

After we get back from this trip I really really want to just focus on the birth and the baby and take time to enjoy things and relax . . . till Nov.

Glad everyone else is hanging in there
post #23 of 39


i had my 29/30 week midwife appointment and it was so nice.. i really like the midwife i saw.. there are 3 in the practice and a student who i havn't met yet. heather is the MW i saw today. she is young (just graduated last year from midwifery school) and is so nice and calm and easy to talk to.. i really like her a lot!

everything is perfect with baby.. im measuring 31 weeks or so.. BP is normal!! second visit in a row baby is head down (though i know it changes frequently) and i got to hear her HB with the fetascope again..
all in all it was a nice time and my next one is in 4 weeks.. i could have had it in 3 but i wanted to see suzie, she delivered elwynn

MelW- congrats on finding a place! it sounds perfect. i hope the move is smooth and stress free..

plagio, Yes, i think it is what i need
post #24 of 39
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BensMom - I totally hear you with the gym thing - I feel very selfconscious doing moderately heavy weights (I also do deadlifts and squats) with other people around, and I find I'm almost waiting for someone to come up to me and tell me I shouldn't be doing it... I'm buying a weight set so I can do it at home. More because I don't think I'll make it to the gym much after the baby is born than because of the stares though.

Plagio - squats ARE awesome. Unweighted squats are fine but there's no reason you can't add some weight on if you want! Just don't use too much because at this point your muscles may be able to handle more weight than your ligaments. Deadlifts are WONDERFUL for staving off back pain, and keeping your butt looking cute BTW the physio I saw yesterday was VERY happy that I was doing this kind of weight training - despite there being a complete lack of encouragement for it in most pregnancy literature, it really is good for you, as long as you do it properly and aim for either slow gains or just muscle maintenance.
post #25 of 39
RE: weight training -- yeah, I HATE cardio and LOVE weights. Funny thing is when you weight train you get your heart rate up anyway, so why not kill two birds with one stone and just do the weights (personal preference anyway).
post #26 of 39
I hadn't even noticed that gas prices were up over there, either- I'd seen threads on here asking for ways to cut gas consumption, but hadn't thought any more of it. Here's hoping you get a speedy resolution.
Life here is still quiet. I'm typing at 3am- after spending all day out in the sun, walking and blackberry picking with the boys (we wandered along the banks of the river to Wivenhoe, a very cute, slightly crunchy village just outside town.) It's only about 4 miles, but with the blackberries and the herons and kestrel and everything else, it took them about 3 hours... and then we bumped into some friends of mine from uni and their children and spent the afternoon sitting outside the pub by the river, crabbing, talking and catching up on all the news. I can't believe it's already 10 years since I moved down here- I don't FEEL 28, if you know what I mean? At least, not normally. The pretty little village also has a new second-hand mother-and-baby shop, and it's always nice to have an excuse to go back. (In case you're wondering, we wimped out and got the train home. It took 5 minutes, plus a 20 minute walk from the station.)
Baby is fine- I'm measuring 30 weeks and I'm just on 29, so I'm hoping for a nice small baby this time- it's the first time I've had a midwife who prefers numbers on tape measures to estimates, but I know it doesn't mean too much in the end- and the boys got to hear the heartbeat and spend a long time interrogating Sandra. Alex told her that before I got pregnant, I'd planned on training as a midwife myself (which I hadn't got round to mentioning yet- thanks, Alex) and she's being very supportive and really thinks I should go for it next year- and has offered a work shadow placement, once baby and I are ready for it.
Bensmom, I really don't know how you can I am in awe- I can't get comfortable on any of the equipment in the gym apart from the cross-trainer, so I'm spending most of my time in the pool. I'll get a little more time next week though- the boys go back to school on Tuesday, so for two months my days will be my own. I have no idea what I'm going to do with my time, though.
I think that's everything- oh, apart from the fact that my last shift at work is on Sunday. I'm going to kind of miss it- and everyone- but spending all day on my feet is getting too much for me.
post #27 of 39
Hey ladies,

Thanks for the virtual hugs. I gotta confess that I need more of them! Went to the service today for my friends' preemie babe who passed on. They are just such an awesome family! We went to there house later tonight (we're neighbors) and talked about how their faith has guided them through and transformed them. Very cool stuff to hear and to have seen happen for them...her short life obviously had great purpose. It was great to hear all the neat things they believe god showed them through her life in the past month. I am not a religious person but I do believe in god. So it was cool to hear people experiencing live/active/real faith today...not just relying on how they grew up or what someone else told them to believe.

Hope that's acceptable to write here. I certainly don't mean offense to anyone by it.

Even though our talks were great, I am still feeling in the dumps. Not the major dumps but pretty down. It's weird for me b/c I used to struggle with depression but have not had a lick of it the whole pregnancy. DH and I have been revelling in the freedom from depression and how happy I have been! This whole week it's like it's trying to creep back into my life. I DO NOT have room for it and it is not welcome. I never used to really fight depression...I felt crappy and thought that I deserved to feel that way. For the first time, I feel like I deserve more and so does babe-in-utero/my family! So, yeah, that's where I am at right now. It's 3am here and obviously I cannot sleep. I am getting really informed about CDs though and have splurged on the TP this week.

I covet your positive energy and well wishes. I haven't asked for much support but would you mamas just send me some good vibes/prayers/whatever you want to call it? TIA I value this online community a lot!
post #28 of 39
Sending love and positive feelings your way, Stacy.

post #29 of 39
Many postive thoughts headed your way Gunter.

Way for our mommies that have found a new place or don't have to move at all. This is such a not fun time to be in the middle of a move.

I think we have found a place to move in and the lady put us at the top of the list if anyone moves out sooner then expected. I guess there are times when it is good to look further along then I am. Aside from that I have been sick with a cold or something which seems to be trying to turn in to yet another sinus infection. This would be either the third or fourth just since the start of this pregnancy! Before this I had not had antibiotics in about 5 years : Its driving me insane that every little thing seems to be causing my sinuses to get backed up and infected in under a week.

On the good side of things I get to go shopping for material this weekend Poor dh probably isn't happy as I can get lost in a fabric store for hours, but there are some big sales going on and you can't beat the price on fleece. I had already been planning on sewing some fleece sleep sacks for the little guy so I can finally get to work on them. I will probably also be going through the patterns and picking out some other stuff to make for him. Other then that I don't think we will be going much of anywhere or doing much of anything since the price of gas is insane and there are people running to the pumps filling up there huge suv's along with as many spare tanks as they could find to fill up. I'm really starting to think that the world has just gone totally insane.
post #30 of 39
I was being pretty pragmatic about the gas thing, thinking that if people would just chill out, there would not be a problem. But WTH! I drove by 5 gas stations on the way to the lake this morning and 3 of them looked totally out of gas and the others only had a few pumps working. This is not supposed to happen!

I guess I would accept it if it were truely a disruption of supply due to Katrina. But knowing that people who are hording gas are causing 75% of this, makes me really angry and ticked off that I may have to cancel my vacation and loose $250 in the house rental because I cannot get to freaking FL!

Sorry, I know people have bigger issues and I feel petty to vent, but come on...this is being caused by idiots!
post #31 of 39
Wow, can't believe it is already Friday. I've had a miserable week. I've felt woozy all week long. I bring Willem downstairs for breakfast and almost pass out stirring his oatmeal on the stove every morning. Then I have had to lay down on the couch and just stay there letting him watch baby einstein dvds because I was really afraid that if I got up before 11am that I would pass out cold and he would be alone. My mws think it's a combination of baby growth spurt and hormone surges. I remember feeling like this alot when I was pg with W. Although now come to think of it, it might just be a bug passing through my system. I woke up with a sore throat on Sunday and gargled with silver all day so by Monday I didn't have any symptoms, then on Tuesday dh woke up with a sore throat and we've both been pretty run down all week.

So needless to say, I haven't really gotten that much done this week. I was so proud of myself yesterday though because I actually made dinner and even got it done by the time dh got home. Well, our 13 year old neighbor girl came over and helped diffuse some of Willems energy. That was so nice. She also gave me a manicure and pedicure!!! She's so sweet. So now my fingers and toenails are an iridescent alien blue color.

I haven't gotten my birth beads out in the mail yet : because I literally don't have the energy to get out of the house and go get a padded envelope and go to the post office.... So sorry if everyone has to wait on my beads. I hope you all will think they are worth it

Okay, my rant for the day...
Dh's aunt [yuppie well-to-do (they live in a 7000 square foot mansion, I mean "house")] invited us to her son's four year old birthday party. I asked her what kinds of things he's into, trying to get some insight into getting a present for him that will actually be appreciated and used and she said anything new would thrill him. Well, I've been to their house, and all you see is toys, toys, toys and more toys in every room of the house. So dh and I set a budget of no more than $15 to spend on the kid... and I am having a really hard time trying to think up something to give him. I mean, why should I go spend $15-20 on a new toy for a kid that literally has it all when my son plays with toys from yard sales that I steam clean and wash, and reads books that I get by the bagful from the thrift store???? I told dh that we should give him a card with a receipt in it from the ARC saying that we donated X amount of dollars to the Katrina effort in his name, and enclose a picture of the poor children down there for him to understand that not everybody has as much as he does. I don't remember the last time I spent $20 on a single item for my own son, much less myself (my last salon appointment was in May and I have to keep my hair pulled back because it's looking atrocious). My point is that I am begrudging spending money on someone who won't appreciate it and won't even care. And it's clouding my judgement and my ability to go shopping for him. And plus his mom will have something negative to say about whatever we get for him. We are definitely going to the birthday party because it is a family get together (oh, and by the way, he's having two parties this year, one for the family and one for his friends)... eek. Someone please just calm me down about this. Any ideas, suggestions? Since it all seems so pointless, maybe I'll just go out and buy $15 of candy and dump it in his lap :!!!
post #32 of 39
oh, Gunter...
I almost forgot to send you hugs!
Don't be too hard on yourself. Just know that it's normal to feel a little more vulnerable emotionally, especially when you are this far along in your pregnancy. Seek out professional help if you get the first inkling that it would help. Antenatal depression has a tendency to play itself out as postpartum depression (it tooke me a LONG time to figure that out) so it's best to nip things in the bud if that's where you are at. Allow yourself room to grow through this. You are at a different place in your life today then you were when you were depressed in the past.
Someone once said to me that each of our babies comes to help heal a part of ourselves. And pregnancy is just the beginning of the healing. And you can fight it or you can use it to your advantage and learn and grow from it.
You do DESERVE not to feel depressed but it just may be some unresolved stuff that's asking for your attention.
Maybe I'm just shooting the breeze here but I've had a long history with depression and I agree that it's not something anyone can understand unless they've been through it. I'd say the best you can do is not let it creep back into your life... take charge, be proactive. Write down positive affirmations that will countercharge every negative/depressing thought. Read them to yourself aloud many times throughout the day. The power of our thoughts and words is amazing.
Hope you feel better soon!
Monique
post #33 of 39
Hi all

Read all your posts and thinking of those of you/ your loved ones going through tough times.

I as a policy never watch any tv news but just had to turn on cnn and msnbc today since I"m hearing such incredulous things from people- omg- it is so awful, it is hard to watch When is this gonna end? I hope help can get to those people SOON!

28 weeks today- does this mean I'm in the 3rd trimester? Definitely feelin' it! Had some really painful kicks to my cervix yesterday. Picking up and having to carry ds everywhere sure doesn't help.

During my 'break time' (his nap time) I've done nothing but sit on my butt online and make phone calls, pay bills, etc. It's too hot out to do anything else and the house isn't too much of a disaster that I need to do any housework.

On a good note- MIL called the other night and offered to help us out with the carseat or stroller! The only 2 big ticket items we need- I'm pretty psyched about that since $ is really going to be an issue very soon when I leave my job...any little bit helps.
post #34 of 39
Gunter, Lots of hugs and good thoughts being sent your way!

willemsmama, hope you feel better soon. I guess you could do a combination of a donation AND a little candy or something for the nephew! Don't have any brillant ideas other than that!

s katrina, sorry about the sinus infection. Probably the normal pregnancy increase in stuffiness/congestion isn't helping any. I had a lot of sinus problems the 1st trimester and it was pretty unpleasant, luckily it resolved. some chiropractic seemed to help.

Jenn, hope you can go on your vacation!!

I too was avoiding reading news/watching TV--I usually avoid these things until they absolutely command my attention, and right now the hurricane situation is commanding my attention. I am finding it hard to understand exactly what the freakin' problem is with getting help to these people, evacuating, etc. I mean, I could understand that there was a problem with the tsunami last year--it was in an "underdeveloped" area of the world, there were a lot of remote villages involved which don't have the same communication with the rest of the world, it was more sudden and suprising, there wasn't an early warning system, there's not as much infrastructure there anyway, etc. etc. But for a week before the hurricane there was a lot of forewarning that it was going to be bad, and I just don't get why one of the richest most "developed" countries in the world couldn't just get people the hell out of there, or mobilize a better response to those who were left/stayed behind after the fact in terms of resucing and helping evacuees and refugees.

On a slightly related note, my breastfeeding-advocating self finds it crappy that babies end up sick/dying whenever there is this type of natural disaster because of a lack of availability of formula and bottles and clean water. Another good reason for nursing. Also, I don't mean to condemn women who can't/don't choose to breastfeed. It's a hard culture for people to successfully breastfeed in!! Beyond the individual level, it should be more accepted and promoted BY THE SOCIETY, as the default way to feed a baby, and the laws and public culture should reflect that. It shouldn't be acceptable to publicly give a baby a bottle in a restaurant or mall but unacceptable to breastfeed there, for example. Hospitals should do a way better job of helping women breastfeed, women should be more supported in the workplace, etc.

Well that's my cheery rant for the day!!

I'm feeling kind of bummed/worried, like I've made taking care of myself/my pregnancy a too-low priority. I feel like my diet has been less than optimal, and I've been drinking too much soda the last couple of months, and I don't drink enough water, and I don't get enough omega-3 fatty acids, and I've never managed to get a reasonable exercise program underway. Now work is getting a lot higher-pressure and commanding more of my attention (school back in session, me being under more scrutiny, etc.) Just at the time that I feel like I need to be focusing more on the pregnancy and the baby and preparing for birth, etc. I feel sort of like I only get one chance to grow this baby, and I've been screwing it up and time is running out!! On the other hand, my health seems pretty good overall and the baby seems to be growing and strong, but part of me feels guilty and is waiting for the other shoe to drop! I'm not sure if that's just my own perfectionism/paranoia talking though. It's so hard to evaluate yourself realistically!!
post #35 of 39
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Originally Posted by Kavita
I too was avoiding reading news/watching TV--I usually avoid these things until they absolutely command my attention, and right now the hurricane situation is commanding my attention. I am finding it hard to understand exactly what the freakin' problem is with getting help to these people, evacuating, etc. I mean, I could understand that there was a problem with the tsunami last year--it was in an "underdeveloped" area of the world, there were a lot of remote villages involved which don't have the same communication with the rest of the world, it was more sudden and suprising, there wasn't an early warning system, there's not as much infrastructure there anyway, etc. etc. But for a week before the hurricane there was a lot of forewarning that it was going to be bad, and I just don't get why one of the richest most "developed" countries in the world couldn't just get people the hell out of there, or mobilize a better response to those who were left/stayed behind after the fact in terms of resucing and helping evacuees and refugees.
Dh and I were discussing the same thing a couple of days ago. I as a rule don't pay attention to what the mass media says because they are biased and politically (and otherwise) controlled but we turned on the morning news the other day and just couldn't understand why there were so many people stranded down there. I don't mean to sound heartless but it just doesn't make sense.
post #36 of 39
Well I had a midwife appt. yesterday and everything looks good. The babe is now head down (but with all the rolling around and kicking I feel I'm not sure she's there for good yet!) Still, I haven't been anywhere near as short of breath the past few days, and the book says that once the baby is head down that can help with breathlessness, so I'm very happy about that. I'm about 32 weeks now and have had some more physical symptoms pop up - some varicosities in my legs, that don't hurt, but my midwife encouraged me to start eating more bioflavinoids for them - citrus and berries - and/or taking a supplement. I'm also looking for an aqua aerobics class to join because she said swimming would be good for them - just what I want to do, right? shop for a swimsuit when I'm 8 months pregnant! I've also been getting bad leg cramps at night the past couple nights, which just started, and having horribly stiff, achey legs when I wake up in the night, too.

Last night it hit me that there are only 8 wks. until my due date and I haven't done anything! I need to write up a birth plan for the hospital (just in case), get all the homebirth supplies together, clean up and get projects done around the house, etc. etc. And I have evals. next week and next quarter of school starts in 3 wks. I'm all of a sudden feeling a bit frantic!
post #37 of 39
Kel - I have last seasons's version of this Old Navy Maternity Swimsuit and I LOVE IT! Its very comfy, it actually covers my whole belly still, and people stop me at the pool to tell me its the prettiest maternity swimsuit they've ever seen. And its on sale!

I'm having a tough weekend. DS, who is only 15 months old, has a terrible cold. His first cold since he was about 6 months old, and we're all miserable. He's so congested that his latch is terrible and of course he wants to sit and nurse all the time, so my nipples are really sore. Luckily, he night-weaned himself, so at least I got a break last night. I've been sooo exhausted, though, because he hasn't been napping well the last few days because of it.

I'm feeling tons of movement, and the baby's in the same position as DS liked to stay in, I think. Head down against my left hip, and legs up under my ribs on the right side. I feel absolutely huge, though... One of my friends is 38 weeks and I swear we are the same size.

I'm trying to do my hypnobabies several times a week, but I am soooo exhausted that I keep falling asleep. I might have to start getting up early in the morning to do them.

Anyone else having any weird food cravings? Last night I could not get enough garlic, and all week I've been obsessed with putting wheat germ on top of everything I eat. (Mac and cheese with wheat germ, yogurt with wheat germ, I'm thinking it would be a good salad topper for lunch...)
post #38 of 39
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Originally Posted by Kavita

I'm feeling kind of bummed/worried, like I've made taking care of myself/my pregnancy a too-low priority. I feel like my diet has been less than optimal, and I've been drinking too much soda the last couple of months, and I don't drink enough water, and I don't get enough omega-3 fatty acids, and I've never managed to get a reasonable exercise program underway. Now work is getting a lot higher-pressure and commanding more of my attention (school back in session, me being under more scrutiny, etc.) Just at the time that I feel like I need to be focusing more on the pregnancy and the baby and preparing for birth, etc. I feel sort of like I only get one chance to grow this baby, and I've been screwing it up and time is running out!! On the other hand, my health seems pretty good overall and the baby seems to be growing and strong, but part of me feels guilty and is waiting for the other shoe to drop! I'm not sure if that's just my own perfectionism/paranoia talking though. It's so hard to evaluate yourself realistically!!

I feel this way, too. I have a conferrence next week where I have to give a presentation but after that I hope to focus more on the pregnancy. I have been able to get some exercises in lately and I have been good about taking my cod liver oil (especially important now that the brain is developing) and that has made me feel a lot better. If you can just get one supllement or exercise or whatever in a day, you will feel better (less guilty). In my case, though, my workload should be easing up after this conference. I am pretty certain it will unless there is something unexpected that someone wants me to do, but I might just say no and stick with work from my desk at home. Are you a student or teacher?
post #39 of 39
Willemsmama- I run into the same thing with my niece/nephews every holiday. What I do is either books, clothes, or a craft to do. I refuse to buy a toy that they don't appreciate, and will never use, so I figure I'll put clothes on them, or grow their mind! Good luck, I know how you feel. Now, if I can find something for my in-laws who also act the same way...
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