New baby gift

[Eman'smom]

I kind of feel this should go here because you ladies and Frank know where I'm coming from.

I'd really like to get my yet to be born nephew a welcome to world gift. It's not his fault who is mom is after all.

I'm really struggling with what though? Can I give a donation in his honor to a place like nocirc? Will they send card "so much has been given" you know like LLL does? This is what my heart is telling me, but it would totally close the door on any relationship, and I'd like to have one with him even if his mom is a loon.

I was going to try to send some Bfing stuff, but she has made many comments about most likely not bfing, and my in my emotional state I'm not sure if I could handle bfing stuff ending up in the trash like the circ stuff


I've thought about an outfit or two, with reciepts of course, neutral, non-inflamatory. But she will get tons of that, and I would like to get something useful KWIM?

What about a gift card to someplace like Target.

[Frankly Speaking]

i think a foreskin restoration kit would be an excellent gift but what do I know about baby gifts?




Frank

[Eman'smom]

Originally Posted by Frankly Speaking

i think a foreskin restoration kit would be an excellent gift but what do I know about baby gifts?




Frank

:LOL

Thanks Frank, I needed that.

[Pandora114]

how about storing away info for him about what was taken from him and a little booklet about the emancipation laws in his state :

[Super Pickle]

You should definitely send a baby gift. That is a very nice thought.

How about:

a little basket of Burt's Bees Baby Bee things along with a hooded towel
or
a dressy outfit in size 12 mo.s for him to grow into
or
some board books?

A gift card is always much appreciated, but is not very personal. If you donated in his name, he would probably never even know about it--the card or whatever would be thrown away and it would not be considered a "gift" but would be interpreted as an insult by your sister. If you want to do that, I say keep it to yourself.

After he gets through the trauma and horror of his hospital stay, and the weeks of healing, he's going to be a normal baby just like others and will need lots of love and supportive family as he grows up. This circumcision thing totally sucks, but you don't want to lose the opportunity for a relationship with him.

You really did the best you could. Your story has been discouraging but it is awesome to see someone who would go through so much to try to help her nephew.

[mamakay]

Pandora and Franks ideas are probably the best (I mean seriously...I know it was a joke, but holy cow, poor baby).

What about a sling? Maybe just mention to your sister that it makes life with a baby easier a lot of the time, as sometimes they demand to be held?

[Quirky]

Super Pickle's ideas are really great - in addition, I also really like Haba's wooden baby teething/touching toys. You can find them at discounted prices at www.kidsurplus.com (just run a search on Haba).

[wagodog]

Eman's mom,

It's good to see that you're able to make the best of the situation. W/ my nephew, it's still almost a knee-jerk reaction to any problems that he has: "It's because of the circumcision."

Anyway, since you're reluctant to give BFing stuff, I'll second Super Pickle's suggestions. I tend to lump slings/carriers with the BFing crowd and so while that'd be a nice gift that'd be good for the baby, I fear that that'd also be wasted. We like and use the Burt's Bees stuff, but w/ the exception of the Burt's Bees Diaper Rash cream, I'm becoming a bit partial to Weleda's baby line.

[PuppyFluffer]

LOVE the Weleda line of baby care products!

I love this:

how about storing away info for him about what was taken from him and a little booklet about the emancipation laws in his state :

[Kathryn]

Personally, if it were me, I would get this:

A pouch sling (as a newbie I found them much much easier than ring slings, try hotslings.com )
A Wedela gift basket
An Adari breast bottle (if she's going to formula feed, he might as well get as close to the real thing as possible, kwim?)

and then for his 16th (or so) birthday I'd give him (in private of course so not to make him embaressed) the emancipation documents, a couple articles on foreskins/circumcision, a restoration device, the name of a good lawyer, and a book or two by Dr. Fliess.

But that's just me.