Lonely/no friend mamas - Page 8

[3 Little Monkeys]

Originally Posted by kewb

Hi, I'm Kathy. As for age-lets just say I am closer to 40 then 30. I am a WOHM to my not so little Munchkins. Blake is 7 and Mikaela is 5. DH (Andrew) and I will be married 13 years this December. We live in New Jersey and I am originally from Long Island. We also have 2 fur babies or cats-Samantha Catz & Tasha Yar.

Mjash4- I would love to meet during the week, but it would only be for my lunch hour. If you can hold out until November I will be off from work on the 10th & 11th.

Hi Kathy! My oldest dd's name is Mikayla, she'll be 11 next month Are you a Star Trek fan as well? Dh and I used to watch all the time, but it isn't on tv anymore dang it!

[3 Little Monkeys]

well I've enough this morning, just trying to get the conversation going

[SillyGigglyGirls]

Rambling Too!

Well this morning has been great except I kept reminding myself to look for my bracelet that my b/f gave me for my B-day. I can't find it!!! I may have taken it off in the van (the van is basically another room in the house LOL!!) Anyhow, two kids in school and one kid just came home a few mins ago. Nothing really exciting! I am looking at the task ahead of me..CLEANING! I got most of my clothes sorted, and organized! I MADE IT FIT! (for those of you that read my lost post about CLOTHES EVERYWHERE! They were gonna fit in those damn drawers even if I had to fold them small! I am usually on the computer on certain times (not much) though! We get our oldest daughter today! I miss her so much throughout the week. Friday is going to be a blast, since we have drs appointments, groccery shopping to do, dressing shopping for my cousin's wedding on Sat., hair cut for my b/f (looks like Elbert E. - with his hair growing out!) We are planning a movie night just the two of us tonight, since he has no work, or school tomorrow! It's been a long time since we have had time together ..alone even. Anyhow, that is my day today!

[3 Little Monkeys]

Wow Kate! I got exhausted just reading about your day! I have an order I need to get packaged up - It's going to be heavy though so dh will have to take it to FedEx tomorrow for me, no way am I shipping it USPS if it weighs this much! I've been trying for 2 days to clean/organize my room but it just isn't happening. The kids always seem to get into things or start fighting or need something as soon as I get busy cleaning. I've got to get things organized before the baby gets here though! I have 5 months, but that's going to go by fast!

[SillyGigglyGirls]

LOL I get exausted waking up and thinking about my day! I guess, sometimes it's overwhelming and other times I am able to just roll with the waves around here. I don't get much time for myself. Trust me! That is why I JOINED HERE! It's a different kind of lonely. It's not lonely as if there is nothing to do, its lonely as always getting so busy (and not able to do anything I WANT!!!) We went away this past weekend, to the United States to visit a friend. Bottom line of the story, I got frustrated with my b/f because we go, go, and go and I never get to do anything I wanted to do. His friend ended up in the hospital, that put a downer on our plans. An hour and a half later, in the hopsital room (3 girls, fighting, whining, screaming, having a fit) YES- IT WAS MY TURN! After all, the end of my b'/f's and his friend's conversation was "yea we will get together for sure, just call me and give me a day and time." I huffed in the hall, and his sensitive response," Are you mad at me?" Ofcourse the normal answer," No!" Then he goes," What is wrong?" I reply," Absolutely nothing." Just then he basically says," Well that is normally your response when you are upset." So out with it." I basically said," I can't have a conversation at all with our friend, the girls are screaming, and fighting, and there is you all calm and expect me to handle everything and you are making PLANS already! He responded," My plans include you hun." I was like NO, I DONT WANT TO GO - SO I CAN BE BORED? I WANT TO DO WHAT I WANT TO DO!!! Well, he took me to Olive Garden because that was something I wanted! LOL..get this, he told me to ORDER ANYTHING ON THE MENU! ..13.00 dollars later, I was a satisfied woman! Oh and he dealt with the girls, while I enjoyed my meal in peace. What can I say, he is a sweetheart
but yea it gets lonely as far as being able to do what I want to do. I guess that is part for the course of being a full time parent and spouse!

[rainbowfairymomma]

Hi mommas!

I wanted to join you all! I haven't been able to read the thread yet but I'll try :LOL :LOL

I'll introduce myself, I'm amanda momma to Logan and Phoenix and wife to Ed. We are currently living in VA and moved here from Australia. (My hubby is from AUS i'm from MD) We've been here almost 2 years and I have yet to make any good/close friends. I can never seem to find like minded mommas I feel so out of the loop in our natural thinking sometimes

Just wanted to say hi and also I'd LOVE a pen pal!! PM me if your interested!!!

[forest~mama]

Hi everyone~
I'm new here also. I have lived in the same small town for 8years, but since I have gone back to college, I have lost many of my friends. I go to school online, so I don't even get the chance to meet new people. A few years ago, I decided that I was tired of being the friend who did everything for everyone else, and got nothing in return. So, I broke my ties with them. It has been very lonely, but I am a lot less stressed, and sad. I am having my first baby in February, and I feel so lucky to have my dh, who is my best friend. We hope to move to a more AP town in a few years after I am done with school. Hopefully I will meet some new people there!

[JenniferH]

The friends I've had for 20 years or so still keep in touch, but we never spend any time together. One can't because she lives in HI and is stationed in Diego Garcia. I doubt we will ever get to hang out in real life again, but I'm hopeful. She wants to get out of the military, but hard to find a civilian job that can support her 4 kids.

I really miss just hanging out and shooting the breeze. It seems like the issues in my friends' lives keep them so busy that even a phone call is out of the question. I'm almost to the point of giving up on one. She doesn't bother to call or return calls and I haven't seen or heard from her in months. I'm usually the one to pick up the phone. How hard is it to take 5 minutes to pick up the phone and say "Hi"?

At what point do you mourn the loss of a friendship and just move on?

The town I live in just seems dead. No one wants to have fun anymore! I miss living in a place where I can find one or two people to have dinner with or a cookout, or drink a bottle of wine. It's very frustrating.

I love my little family, but I REALLY need interaction outside my family unit sometimes.

[frowningfrog]

Jennifer:

I to have a friend (if you can call her that) like that ..I always call, or e mail her she never does me. Its not like I call her daily I call her once a month if that but your right if I can find the time at least once a month why she cant do the same...
We have been friends for 9 yrs ...what gives?
I guess its time to move on..
good luck ..

[kewb]

Originally Posted by 3 Little Monkeys

Hi Kathy! My oldest dd's name is Mikayla, she'll be 11 next month Are you a Star Trek fan as well? Dh and I used to watch all the time, but it isn't on tv anymore dang it!

My dh is really the big trekkie. I did enjoy watching it with him. Out of all of them Captain Janeway was my favorite. The cat got her name because DH found her in an abandoned building and she appeared to be an orphan. He felt her start in life mirrored that character.

[kewb]

I have found the time to move on from a friendship is when I suddenly realize that I am the one putting all the effort in. I have some friends where we go months without speaking and then one of us picks up the phone and it is as if no time has passed. Other's I found with the passage of time our lives took different paths and we had no common ground anymore. Those are the ones I move on from.

[3 Little Monkeys]

Originally Posted by ~lioneyes~

Hi everyone~
I'm new here also. I have lived in the same small town for 8years, but since I have gone back to college, I have lost many of my friends. I go to school online, so I don't even get the chance to meet new people. A few years ago, I decided that I was tired of being the friend who did everything for everyone else, and got nothing in return. So, I broke my ties with them. It has been very lonely, but I am a lot less stressed, and sad. I am having my first baby in February, and I feel so lucky to have my dh, who is my best friend. We hope to move to a more AP town in a few years after I am done with school. Hopefully I will meet some new people there!

Hi Chelsea! I recognize you from our DDC - I'm due with #4 in mid February - well my "official" due date is March 1, but I have yet to make it to my due date so I'm not expecting to hit it with this one either :LOL

[3 Little Monkeys]

Originally Posted by JenniferH

I really miss just hanging out and shooting the breeze. It seems like the issues in my friends' lives keep them so busy that even a phone call is out of the question. I'm almost to the point of giving up on one. She doesn't bother to call or return calls and I haven't seen or heard from her in months. I'm usually the one to pick up the phone. How hard is it to take 5 minutes to pick up the phone and say "Hi"?

At what point do you mourn the loss of a friendship and just move on?

I hear you! My best friend and I were roommates for a long time, she helped me raise my youngest dd for 4 yrs! when dh and I got married, we moved from AZ to CA and I'm lucky if she calls me 3 times a year - usually I'm the one calling her, and when I do, she spends more time talking to her kids than she does to me, drives me crazy. I've pretty much given up, the last time I went to AZ to visit my mom, I didn't even tell her I was there.

[3 Little Monkeys]

Originally Posted by kewb

My dh is really the big trekkie. I did enjoy watching it with him. Out of all of them Captain Janeway was my favorite. The cat got her name because DH found her in an abandoned building and she appeared to be an orphan. He felt her start in life mirrored that character.

Janeway was my favorite as well - dh and I really liked the new series, Enterprise, but they took it off the air. Oh well, not like I don't have enough tv to watch as it is :LOL

[noorjahan]

[3 Little Monkeys]

Welcome Noorjahan!

Where are you from originally?

[frowningfrog]

Welcome all new ladies to the tribe!!!!!!!!!


Christine

[noorjahan]

[3 Little Monkeys]

Originally Posted by noorjahan

thanks. I'm not new though to this tribe, however, you are very nice!!!

I'm from Bangladesh- "Dhaka".

Sorry - I haven't read through all the previous posts yet maybe I should do that huh :LOL Nice to meet you though I had a friend in college who was from Bangladesh, goodness, I haven't heard from him in years...

[noorjahan]