Lonely/no friend mamas - Page 80

[redveg]

Welcome marispel. I am from South Florida. Lived there my entire life until 3.5 years ago. The move was a huge change, leaving my home, the one friend I had, but slowly things are getting better. They will for you too.

[MittensKittens]

Originally Posted by redveg

Hello all. Tomorrow I have to run around town, and I hate it. It never fails, when I have to get out it's the last thing I want to do.

On the chicken thing, you can buy animal urine to put around the coop, like maybe some wolf? I know when I lived down south I could go to the local pet store/vet office and get it.

OK, that would be great, since there are no actual male humans in my moms house. She's been putting up obstacles for the fox and he hasn't been around for the last three nights. The chickens are healing as well.

Hi Marispel, welcome!

BaBaBa, I so get you in the fried brain department!!!

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by BaBaBa

We went to the zoo about a month ago. DD was more interested in the change of environment than the actual animals but we all had a blast just the same. The Bronx Zoo....sigh*, New York is so cool.

New York is cool to visit. I'm still trying to convince myself that I like living here!

Originally Posted by BaBaBa

Men are definitely worse than babies when they're sick!

I just had to agree with this! After Lincoln was born I was exhausted, and tired and not feeling too hot, although I had a great birth high, and my BF had stupidly allowed himself to get dehydrated and didn't eat anything the whole time I was in labor. Then he was acting like he was worse off than I was! I had JUST given BIRTH! I know its a natural process and all, but geez - I tore badly and needed to be taken care of, not to take care of HIM! Lol...

Originally Posted by blinders

Hi Mamas

I moved to a different part of the country -- which feels like a different planet at times. Between school, a toddler, and the new locale, it has been difficult meeting new people...Can I join in with you ladies?

Hi!! Welcome! I don't post as often as I want to, but I'm trying to keep up!

Originally Posted by MittensKittens

Hey mamas,

Hope you're all OK? I think most of us are staying home for the summer? Or is anyone planning a vacation?

I'm going on 2 vacations!! I'm SO excited! I'm going to Seattle for a week in June to go to my best friends wedding, and to see my parents. Then in August I'm going to Seattle for 2 weeks with Lincoln and my BF! I'm so excited, I can't wait!

Originally Posted by AnnaNova

hi, can i join your thread? i moved to the usa 2 years ago, had a baby boy 3 mo ago and somehow failed to make many friends. almost all of my friends are my husband's friends, and its just not the same...

Welcome! (I'm amazed, I got to welcome 2 new people in one post...sorry this is so long!)

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by marispel

Hi ladies,

Is it ok if I join your group? I'm a WAHM and recently moved to a small country town. My DH & I hate it. There are no mommy groups and I'm bad about getting out to make friends. I work. We have a in-house nanny and I have a TON of family here, but it is not the same as having friends. We lived in GA for 20+ yrs and left to be closer to my family. It's crazy, but I've never felt lonelier in my life. Here I have 6 bro. & sisters & 17 neices & nephews, but now that I'm back I've realized they all have their own lives. Their kids are much older than my baby and so we don't have any babies to play with.

We are looking to move back to GA just so we can live in a subdivision and hopefully have friends again. I just want to go out for a walk and say HI to people or go to the pool. I need an outlet, bad!

....I'm rambling, but thought I would join and tell just a bit about me.

Welcome! Moving is hard. I'm living in NYC right now and have been for about a year and a half right now. I'm still struggling to make friends with other moms - its really hard!

So last weekend was really tough. We went to visit some family down in DC and PA and the car rides were long and Lincoln was miserable! I don't think I'm ever taking him anywhere in a car again!

He also threw up ALOT while we were gone - like 2x per day until we got home and then it stopped. What could cause this? His poop has also been a weird consistency and color and smell for a while - I'm going to try and eliminate diary to see if that helps. How do I eliminate diary and still get enough to eat? Anyone know of any good tasting recipes that are easy and have no diary? This might be a stupid question, but is butter diary? Oh man....I don't know if I can live without diary!!! The things we do for our children

Now that things are settling in I'm going to try and keep up a little better!

MittensKittens - I really hope that your situation with your son resolves soon! I also hope that social services doesn't get more involved, it sounds like such a PITA.

[BaBaBa]

Originally Posted by thyra

I just had to agree with this! After Lincoln was born I was exhausted, and tired and not feeling too hot, although I had a great birth high, and my BF had stupidly allowed himself to get dehydrated and didn't eat anything the whole time I was in labor. Then he was acting like he was worse off than I was! I had JUST given BIRTH! I know its a natural process and all, but geez - I tore badly and needed to be taken care of, not to take care of HIM! Lol...

This reminds me of Basque men, famous for experiencing couvade, a false (obviously) labour when then wives give birth. As if their wives don't have enough to deal with

[BaBaBa]

Thyra,
Who would have thought the cliche of being lonely in New York was true!

DD was horrible in the car until around the age of 2. I just avoid traveling with her when possible and made people come to me instead of visiting them. Now she loves the car. It will get better.

Yes, butter is dairy. I would have thought a dairy allergy would have presented itself by now but I really don't know anything on the subject. Obviously there's info here but have you checked kellymom or the Dr. Sears website?

Vegan recipes might be a good place to start looking for dairy free meal ideas.

I was vegan long ago..... now, I'd find dairy hard to give up too!

[MittensKittens]

I go completely vegan from time to time, but I have had huge dental issues since my son was born. I had to have two molars out. I have since read some pretty interesting but controversial stuff on the net about dental healing. Apparently probiotics, fish oil and grass fed butter really help teeth re-mineralize. So I am making an effort to get lots of yoghurt. Any thoughts on the dental thing, you guys?

[~PurityLake~]

Originally Posted by thyra

How do I eliminate diary and still get enough to eat? Anyone know of any good tasting recipes that are easy and have no diary? This might be a stupid question, but is butter diary? Oh man....I don't know if I can live without diary!!!

If it comes from a cow, it's dairy.

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by BaBaBa

Thyra,
Who would have thought the cliche of being lonely in New York was true!

DD was horrible in the car until around the age of 2. I just avoid traveling with her when possible and made people come to me instead of visiting them. Now she loves the car. It will get better.

Yes, butter is dairy. I would have thought a dairy allergy would have presented itself by now but I really don't know anything on the subject. Obviously there's info here but have you checked kellymom or the Dr. Sears website?

Vegan recipes might be a good place to start looking for dairy free meal ideas.

I was vegan long ago..... now, I'd find dairy hard to give up too!

Vegan meals...Good idea!! I haven't checked kellymom, but I'm on my way there now! I also thought it would have presented itself by now, but I don't know. Someone on the Life With a Babe forum said his weird poop could be b/c of all the drool (which is coming by the gallon right now! or at least it seems that way...) - but would poop SMELL weird b/c of drool? it smells awful, although I guess it could be b/c of the grapefruit I've been eating, or the plums - but I didn't think those were allergens. I'll check kellymom for more information on allergy's and such though - good idea!

[redveg]

Wow, morning all. It is raining and dark here, kind of yucky, but my garden loves it! Yesterday I was out from 10a to 4p and I am so tired, man I am an odd duck! I have one child home ill today, going to break down and take her to the Dr.

I have been a vegetarian most of my life, have tried to go vegan a few times, but I can't go with out dairy, no way! I can cut back that's it.

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by redveg

Wow, morning all. It is raining and dark here, kind of yucky, but my garden loves it! Yesterday I was out from 10a to 4p and I am so tired, man I am an odd duck! I have one child home ill today, going to break down and take her to the Dr.

I have been a vegetarian most of my life, have tried to go vegan a few times, but I can't go with out dairy, no way! I can cut back that's it.

I'd be tired too if I was out from 10am to 4pm! Thats a long time, and if I had Lincoln forget it!

I hope your sick child starts to feel better soon - being sick is no fun

Man, I couldn't even go vegetarian - I love love love red meat!

[BaBaBa]

Originally Posted by MittensKittens

I have since read some pretty interesting but controversial stuff on the net about dental healing. Apparently probiotics, fish oil and grass fed butter really help teeth re-mineralize. So I am making an effort to get lots of yoghurt. Any thoughts on the dental thing, you guys?

I've also heard a bit of that stuff and I don't know what to think. I'm sure there's at least some truth to it. I think there are so many variables, eg., genetics & diet that it would be almost impossible to have definitive studies. I think you just have to find what works for you and your family. I have lousy teeth but so does my whole family. Now the fluoride thing.... yuck! DD hasn't had her first dentist visit yet. I can't imagine her letting anyone look in her mouth. I'm bracing for a bit of a battle when it comes to the fluoride issue. I remember that stuff making me feel sick to my stomach.

Hey ~Purity♥Lake~! Where have you been hiding? Missed you!

Originally Posted by thyra

Someone on the Life With a Babe forum said his weird poop could be b/c of all the drool (which is coming by the gallon right now! or at least it seems that way...) - but would poop SMELL weird b/c of drool? it smells awful, although I guess it could be b/c of the grapefruit I've been eating, or the plums - but I didn't think those were allergens. I'll check kellymom for more information on allergy's and such though - good idea!

Is he doing any better yet? The whole allergens in breast milk issue is a mystery. The science says no way can they enter and yet you can't deny all the anecdotal evidence from nursing moms

Originally Posted by redveg

Wow, morning all. It is raining and dark here, kind of yucky, but my garden loves it! Yesterday I was out from 10a to 4p and I am so tired, man I am an odd duck!

I have been a vegetarian most of my life, have tried to go vegan a few times, but I can't go with out dairy, no way! I can cut back that's it.

We're getting the same weather as you. The weeds are loving it

I also get totally exhausted if I'm away from home. You must be an intovert too

I was vegan until I had a B12 deficiency diagnosis from a doctor so I introduced dairy back into my diet. Looooong story short... a decade later a different (more thorough) doctor discovered I just can't absorb it. Doesn't matter how much I eat. I take monthly injections now. It's too late to go back to being vegan now. Well, it's not but I couldn't do that to DH

[Mama2Rio]

hey mamas, just checking in to see what every one's up to... i had a computer virus and had to reinstall everything in my computer, all fixed, but, uggh... it attacted my virus scanner so i couldn't use it to clean up my computer and my internet was just screwed.

I took dd to the recreation center this morning, it was nice to get out so she could play with other kids... even though she got run over a few times by bigger toddlers. then i had to stop by my neighbors to give back a spare car seat. so i've had much human interaction today. and now my neighbor is begging me to watch her child b/c she doesn't like our other neighbor's care (ie feeding a 13 mo peanut butter and honey!). i really can't do it because i want a real job, and i just don't want the responblilty of some one elses child. plus i'm not licensed so i don't want any lawsuit on my hands.

wish it would rain here, summer's just begining and we've had a really hot may. i kind of miss the north east for the change of seasons. i don't miss NYC area though! i haven't been to the bronx zoo in soooo very long.

[alekslasce]

Hello there mammas!!!!

SO and I watched the Barcelona vs Manchester game yesterday but it was soo funny. Becuase I'm from Barcelona and SO is from Manchester so we were "against" eachother. Then SO who is an avid football fan, decided that DD was goin to wear a Manchester shirt that day. I didn't really cared. I don't even like football.
But we won and I won something to. $500 pesos, it's the first time I bet on something. LOL. SO was so pissed.

My little sister turned 7 on tuesday. I miss my family. Thankfully, they are comming here for the summer. I can't believe I miss my little siblings. I thought that was impossible. My other brother is turning 10 soon. My mom told me he's soooo tall now. He's probably taller than me.

I can't wait for summer vacations. We are traveling around the country. But I really want to go to the beach. I want to take DD. The last time I took her was last year. And she loooved it.

[redveg]

Morning mamas, and happy Friday. Well, it's raining here again! The sun is supposed to shine again some time today, buy who knows. I had buckets spread out in the yard, collecting the rain, and DH dumped them and put them away, he thought I just left them out? I don't get it.

My guys have 16 school days until summer vacation, and I can't wait! I know there are some people who don't look forward to summer break, but I love having my kids around.

Any special plans for this weekend?

[MittensKittens]

Hi mamas

Thyra, how is Lincoln doing?

Aleks, I hate the way in which soccer brings one's inner patriot to the surface - I don't even like the game! So, I guess DD will be wearing a Barcelona shirt next time?

Redveg, rain here too, and quite a lot of it! Great for the garden... ..if I had one !

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by BaBaBa

Is he doing any better yet? The whole allergens in breast milk issue is a mystery. The science says no way can they enter and yet you can't deny all the anecdotal evidence from nursing moms

Originally Posted by MittensKittens

Hi mamas

Thyra, how is Lincoln doing?

Thanks for asking! He seems to be doing much better! I didn't cut diary yet, although I did cut back just a bit since we're home, so I think it might have just been that we were away for the weekend. I think thats a little weird, but I know that I sometimes don't do well when I travel so I'm hoping thats the case! Although, I also hope that he'll do better when I go to Seattle in a few weeks - thats going to be a busy week and an unhappy, not feeling well baby isn't going to make it any more pleasant! Although, there is the possibility of leaving him with my mom while my dad and I go to the wedding - but everyone thats going to be at the wedding wants to meet him, and they're all really close friends that I don't see often so its a tough call.

Originally Posted by Mama2Rio

hey mamas, just checking in to see what every one's up to... i had a computer virus and had to reinstall everything in my computer, all fixed, but, uggh... it attacted my virus scanner so i couldn't use it to clean up my computer and my internet was just screwed.

Oh man, computer problems are the worst! I hope thats the last of it for you! I had a Dell laptop my first year of law school which was the most miserable thing ever, I had to buy my mac the week before finals b/c it was so bad :

On a happy note - we're taking Lincoln to get some pictures done this weekend! I'm so excited and I really hope they turn out well! I'm a little nervous though since we don't have a lot to spend on them so I hope they turn out alright! If they do I'll post a few for everyone to see!

[BaBaBa]

Originally Posted by alekslasce

But we won and I won something to. $500 pesos, it's the first time I bet on something. LOL. SO was so pissed.

Gambling can be so much fun. I seldom have an opportunity. I'm not interested in casinos but a day at the race track, just placing little $2 bets can be so fun. I won $50 on a $2 bet once.: You just have to decide before you begin how much you're okay with losing and never touch your winnings

Originally Posted by redveg

I had buckets spread out in the yard, collecting the rain, and DH dumped them and put them away, he thought I just left them out? I don't get it.


Any special plans for this weekend?

Maybe he's worried about mosquitos breeding? I heard a few drops off oil on the surface of your rain barrels will stop them. I put an old rain barrel under once of the downspouts from the barn. It filled to the top in less than a minute! A tremendous amount of water comes off the roof. I'd love to put another on on the other side but I feel a bit silly collecting it right next to a pond

DH comes home tomorrow :

The local Waldorf school has their May Fair tomorrow so I'd like to check it out. The dance around the pole is always fun to watch.

[Mama2Rio]

Originally Posted by alekslasce

My little sister turned 7 on tuesday. I miss my family. Thankfully, they are comming here for the summer. I can't believe I miss my little siblings. I thought that was impossible. My other brother is turning 10 soon. My mom told me he's soooo tall now. He's probably taller than me.

i miss my siblings too, until they move in! i have one living with me.... and one moved away almost a year ago.... you appreciate them more when they don't live so close. its funny, i think of my youngest brother, who's 14, as being 7 because that's around the time i moved out of my parents house. and when ever i see him, which is about 2X/year i'm always shocked.

Originally Posted by BaBaBa

The local Waldorf school has their May Fair tomorrow so I'd like to check it out. The dance around the pole is always fun to watch.

that sounds fun... i haven't been to a May Fair in so long. enjoy!

[BaBaBa]

bleh! just heard the bad news that it's going to cost a bundle to fix my car. The brakes gave out on the weekend. Warrantee expired in March. Brakes just rusted out dropped into a wheel well and caused a lot of damage. It's not even an old car for crying out loud! Crappy.

DHgot out of the client dinner that was keeping him away until tomorrow BUT apparently Toronto is in a lock down because of the Clinton bush visit so he still wont be home tonight.