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post #1621 of 1821
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Originally Posted by Mama2Rio View Post
so i think i missed half a page, i've been so busy lately.



Maybe some kind of WAHM thing together?! i have to see where i'm at in a month. and yes.. every thing will be good, give yourself & kids time to settle in... hows you dd doing?


She's doing ok, there are good days and days I wonder how I keep my sanity. If we end up near you, I would totally dig trying the WAHM thing...

We had originally planned on leaving for AZ on June 13, but my 19 YO stepDD was charged with Minor In Possession. Which is only a misdemeanor, but STILL. Her court date is June 16, and then if she gets probation (not her 1st offense) I don't know what we'll do. : Nothing like having to wait to start the rest of your life, ya know??
If the whole family is moving you may be able to get probation transferred to a probation officer in AZ. Something to ask the judge about, and then the probation officer. When I interned at a juvenile probation office we did this for a few kids whose family's were moving. Just make sure to follow through - you don't want there to be an open warrant on her if she ever goes back to your home state!

I'm having a hard time. My BF is taking a class this summer, so I'm on my own for 15hours twice a week. It's awful. I'm exhausted, constantly, I'm not enjoying being a mom. I hate summer weather on the east coast - its way too hot and humid. I'm starting to think I have PPD (actually I'm almost positive I do), but my BF just thinks things shoudl be fine. He keeps telling me that if I don't want to be here to just go home - that his mom will take care of Lincoln. I hate him so much sometimes (BF, not Lincoln). Our relationship has seriously suffered, he's not patient with me anymore at all, he does what he wants when he wants to and I'm stuck here with Lincoln. I just don't like being a mom. I just want to quit, but its not a job that goes away. Ugh. I'm really tired of my life and I wish I could change it but its in a holding pattern right now b/c I can't go to school or work until fall - and even then I'm not doing anything I actually WANT to do, just trying to get some credits.

I wish this was easier. I wish I had friends. My one friend that I was supposed to see yesterday never called me back. I don't know if she's had her baby yet, but I'm really lonely and don't have anyone to lean on at all. It really sucks.
post #1622 of 1821
Hi!

We had family over for two weeks so we were pretty busy with 4 kids ranging 3-5,5yo :-)

Missed MDC and you all here a little, not too much though. Probably a good thing?

What really struck me though was the now more clear differences (or uhm opposites) in some parenting ways of ours (well, much more than when we all had still infants and/or kids under 3!)... and the slight tension this created. Which was what I feared might happen. I tried hard not to focus on it too much, but that's not easy when someone once in a while tries to use their parenting 'tricks' on your own child because they assure you it 'works' when you clearly don't want or need (well not in other's eyes clearly) this... while you get immediately reactions for just being yourself and having your own approach around your own and their offspring without trying to be coercive regarding their parenting style iykwim. Ahum.
The second week I think we (they :-) found a better balance in leaving each to their own. But it still bothers one, tbh.
And it doesn't help having a VERY spirited child of your own. Of course, he must change, and of course, he will learn his lessons, and of course it is most likely assumed it is at least partly because of a lack of 'parenting style' .
Anyway, what has a lot to do with this is also just our general different attitude towards life and living, one family very organised, planning, mainly mathematical kind of style and solutions, and the other more relaxed, go with the flow, flexible, not focusing on solutions/results but on experiencing kind of approach.
We had a good time, it was great to see each other and live things together, to talk, to have fun.
But very very busy!
Not that it's peaceful now at home, lol, not with my two little ones :-).

Anyway, not too much online in Summer I guess. But I will sure pop in once in a while, especially during the hot weather periods.
post #1623 of 1821
Thyra, I am so sorry that you are feeling that way. Please get help for yourself. Please don't let anyone, including your BF, tell you that you should just get over it and be happy, because PPD simply doesn't work that way. There are ways to solve it though, as I am sure you know, so please get yourself the help you deserve - if you don't want to for yourself, do it for Lincoln!

Ernalala, nice to see you! That sounds like a pretty stressful experience, I am glad for you its over.

How do you all like the new forum layout? I'm not sure yet. I hate that quick links is not working...
post #1624 of 1821
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Originally Posted by MittensKittens View Post
Thyra, I am so sorry that you are feeling that way. Please get help for yourself. Please don't let anyone, including your BF, tell you that you should just get over it and be happy, because PPD simply doesn't work that way. There are ways to solve it though, as I am sure you know, so please get yourself the help you deserve - if you don't want to for yourself, do it for Lincoln!
I know that I need to get help, but my insurance (stupid medicaid) doesn't cover anything mental health wise, and as students we simply don't have the money. I'm also completely skeptical of therapy, and I just don't see how it could possibly work for me.

Also, when my BF is trying to be supportive (he tries, but he sucks at it) his idea of a solution is for me to leave and go do my thing (mostly what I'm upset about is not being able to pursue things for me right now, all my energy and life goes to Lincoln) while his mom takes care of Lincoln for me. Basically telling me to let my MIL raise my son How do I convince him that saying this is not supportive and is actually really mean and insensitive?
post #1625 of 1821
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Originally Posted by Mama2Rio View Post
Ugh!!! hope everything works out... and good luck in court.




dd napped too late and now it's just too hot... i wanna be outside still!

Thanks, I hope she geis probation, though... She needs to learn that there is a drinking age for a reason. :

Oh please tell me how hot it is... It's barely been 70 here, but waaaay humid. Ok we had a day or two in the mid 70's, but still 40 or so at night : I feel like I can't wait to get there, but is it really that bad?? I can take the heat, it's just humidity that kills me. Should I be afraid?
post #1626 of 1821
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Originally Posted by ~D~ View Post

If the whole family is moving you may be able to get probation transferred to a probation officer in AZ. Something to ask the judge about, and then the probation officer. When I interned at a juvenile probation office we did this for a few kids whose family's were moving. Just make sure to follow through - you don't want there to be an open warrant on her if she ever goes back to your home state!

I am a mean stepmom and I hope she gets probation so we can leave her here for the probation. It's a long story but she needs to learn that there are consequences for acting like a jerk.:

I'm having a hard time. My BF is taking a class this summer, so I'm on my own for 15hours twice a week. It's awful. I'm exhausted, constantly, I'm not enjoying being a mom. I hate summer weather on the east coast - its way too hot and humid. I'm starting to think I have PPD (actually I'm almost positive I do), but my BF just thinks things shoudl be fine. He keeps telling me that if I don't want to be here to just go home - that his mom will take care of Lincoln. I hate him so much sometimes (BF, not Lincoln). Our relationship has seriously suffered, he's not patient with me anymore at all, he does what he wants when he wants to and I'm stuck here with Lincoln. I just don't like being a mom. I just want to quit, but its not a job that goes away. Ugh. I'm really tired of my life and I wish I could change it but its in a holding pattern right now b/c I can't go to school or work until fall - and even then I'm not doing anything I actually WANT to do, just trying to get some credits.

I wish this was easier. I wish I had friends. My one friend that I was supposed to see yesterday never called me back. I don't know if she's had her baby yet, but I'm really lonely and don't have anyone to lean on at all. It really sucks.
Oh, mama, i am so sorry... I suffered from PPD after DS, and I know the feeling.... Maybe you could try a fish oil supplement? I bet FS covers it (if you get them) and it's pretty cheap. A girl I know IRL swears by them for alleviating depression.

It will get better, just hang in there and stick with the mamas here. Everyone here is just great and we have strong shoulders from holding each other up when we're down
post #1627 of 1821
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I'm having a hard time. My BF is taking a class this summer, so I'm on my own for 15hours twice a week. It's awful. I'm exhausted, constantly, I'm not enjoying being a mom. I hate summer weather on the east coast - its way too hot and humid. I'm starting to think I have PPD (actually I'm almost positive I do), but my BF just thinks things shoudl be fine. He keeps telling me that if I don't want to be here to just go home - that his mom will take care of Lincoln. I hate him so much sometimes (BF, not Lincoln). Our relationship has seriously suffered, he's not patient with me anymore at all, he does what he wants when he wants to and I'm stuck here with Lincoln. I just don't like being a mom. I just want to quit, but its not a job that goes away. Ugh. I'm really tired of my life and I wish I could change it but its in a holding pattern right now b/c I can't go to school or work until fall - and even then I'm not doing anything I actually WANT to do, just trying to get some credits.

I wish this was easier. I wish I had friends. My one friend that I was supposed to see yesterday never called me back. I don't know if she's had her baby yet, but I'm really lonely and don't have anyone to lean on at all. It really sucks.
oh mama... hugs! i kind of know where you're at. i'm at the recovery end of the spectrum (something like that). it seems like i care for dd most of the day, all day, every day. dh works nights and sleeps in am.. until he leaves at 1:30 in the afternoon and gets back at 11pm. so he's always home when dd is sleeping. and sometime she still needs a diaper change in the middle of the night and he'll b*tch at me to get it! ugh! i've already been woken up how many times to breastfeed! i guess getting up out of bed won't be that big-of-a-deal.

dd is 11 months now and i finally had some time to get back in touch with myself. i've been sneaking out of the house when dd takes her am nap... dh stays here with her and gets her when she wakes up. she's starting to eat more solids so she's ok if she wakes up and i'm not here to bf her right away. some days i feel like quitting and just about lose it, but i'm doing better now that i've had some time to myself. i've been getting out more too. just going to a local park or the grocery store helps. store time at the library doesn't go so well now that she's walking because she wants to grab the books from the librarian. we get tired of each other if we're home all day. And yes... i hate the humid summers of the east coast! take a day to go to the beach if you can!

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Originally Posted by ~D~ View Post
Thanks, I hope she geis probation, though... She needs to learn that there is a drinking age for a reason. :

Oh please tell me how hot it is... It's barely been 70 here, but waaaay humid. Ok we had a day or two in the mid 70's, but still 40 or so at night : I feel like I can't wait to get there, but is it really that bad?? I can take the heat, it's just humidity that kills me. Should I be afraid?
It's like 104 here during the day, in a few days it should cool off to 95ish :
can't wait for monsoon season! i really miss rain... i just love the smell of the desert when it rains... aww, now i miss my favorite college bar, the rain desert. i wish there was a smiley hugging a cactus! :

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Hi!

What really struck me though was the now more clear differences (or uhm opposites) in some parenting ways of ours (well, much more than when we all had still infants and/or kids under 3!)... and the slight tension this created. Which was what I feared might happen. I tried hard not to focus on it too much, but that's not easy when someone once in a while tries to use their parenting 'tricks' on your own child because they assure you it 'works' when you clearly don't want or need (well not in other's eyes clearly) this... while you get immediately reactions for just being yourself and having your own approach around your own and their offspring without trying to be coercive regarding their parenting style iykwim. Ahum.
The second week I think we (they :-) found a better balance in leaving each to their own. But it still bothers one, tbh.
And it doesn't help having a VERY spirited child of your own. Of course, he must change, and of course, he will learn his lessons, and of course it is most likely assumed it is at least partly because of a lack of 'parenting style' .
Anyway, what has a lot to do with this is also just our general different attitude towards life and living, one family very organised, planning, mainly mathematical kind of style and solutions, and the other more relaxed, go with the flow, flexible, not focusing on solutions/results but on experiencing kind of approach.
We had a good time, it was great to see each other and live things together, to talk, to have fun.
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it's almost startling when people seem to "parent" differently at times. now my neighbor is like "how is your dd so well behaved?" and i have been trying to give her tips on teaching "alternative outlets of emotion" for babies. umm... but i was over there and she kind of grabbed/slapped her 13mo's hand... so i was thinking, he's learning to hit from you.... : but to each their own... but i just don't get hitting a baby/toddler when they're just doing what they're going to do, explore. ok, this is why i probably have written a number of people off...but i try not to let it get to me, but it just does! i just don't like my lo to be around this behavior. just try to get along, just try, don't start an argument about parenting. at least my neighbor has been asking me for advice. i am only hoping i can get my neighbor into gd for the child's sake. sorry about my rant! at least you had a fun 2-weeks!
post #1628 of 1821
Thyra I had ppd for over 18 months before I went to talk to someone. I didn't think it would help, but it did.
post #1629 of 1821
Hi,

So I am in the process of becoming a certified doula. I've done the training, just need to attend the three births to get my certification.

As far as reforming maternity care goes, where to begin is the problem! I know there are so many things that need to be done, but it certainly isn't easy. Perhaps most important is informed consent. Too often women aren't given all the facts about a procedure and are even scared into doing something that really isn't the best for them or their baby, it's just more convenient for the Dr (I'm talking mostly induction and c-sec). I know this was the case with my first, so I guess that's why I feel so strongly about it. I have started to get involved with The Birth Survey (www.thebirthsurvey.com) you should all take it if you haven't yet. It's part of a project called Transparency in Maternity Care. So we'll see where it leads. Unfortunately, I think there is a general feeling by most people in the country that there is nothing wrong with the system as it is now, with all the interventions and such, you know, "why not get the drugs if they are available" type of thing.

I could go on forever about that. I need to read and familiarize myself with you all and what is going on. But I hope you are all having a good week. Look forward to talking more.
Oh, is anyone here gluten-free or have GF kids? My daughter is gluten-free and I'm thinking of just making the whole house GF.

Meghan
post #1630 of 1821
Thyra, me too, twice...

Hang in there. It may last longer than you hope for or expect, but one day it'll be past.

It's hard when you have noone to talk too and feel like you cannot even accept yourself to talk to anyone. In that case, doing it online with people who know hat you're dealing with may sure help.

There have been times where I REALLY was the lonely/no friends mama, and I have no sweet words to describe the feeling.
post #1631 of 1821
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...His idea of a solution is for me to leave and go do my thing (mostly what I'm upset about is not being able to pursue things for me right now, all my energy and life goes to Lincoln) while his mom takes care of Lincoln for me.
Why don't you take him/your MIL up on this just for an afternoon? I assume since your DP offers this as a solution that she'd be willing to take care of him for a bit?
post #1632 of 1821
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I'm having a hard time. My BF is taking a class this summer, so I'm on my own for 15hours twice a week. It's awful. I'm exhausted, constantly, I'm not enjoying being a mom. I hate summer weather on the east coast - its way too hot and humid. I'm starting to think I have PPD (actually I'm almost positive I do), but my BF just thinks things shoudl be fine. He keeps telling me that if I don't want to be here to just go home - that his mom will take care of Lincoln. I hate him so much sometimes (BF, not Lincoln). Our relationship has seriously suffered, he's not patient with me anymore at all, he does what he wants when he wants to and I'm stuck here with Lincoln. I just don't like being a mom. I just want to quit, but its not a job that goes away. Ugh. I'm really tired of my life and I wish I could change it but its in a holding pattern right now b/c I can't go to school or work until fall - and even then I'm not doing anything I actually WANT to do, just trying to get some credits.

I wish this was easier. I wish I had friends. My one friend that I was supposed to see yesterday never called me back. I don't know if she's had her baby yet, but I'm really lonely and don't have anyone to lean on at all. It really sucks.


I wanna give you a great big hug!

It is so hard being alone with a baby. I know. DH works out of town. He's regularly gone M-F, often gone for a couple of weeks at a time and sometimes for several weeks at a time. Now that DD is 2.5 it's a bit easier but for the first 2 years I was MISERABLE much of the time.

My head accepts that DH needs to work and that his work allows me to stay at home but my heart doesn't care. It's hard to not be left feeling abandoned.

It's okay and completely natural IMO to not enjoy being a mom at certain times or stages. I never dreamt of being a mother like so many other women do. I love DD but I don't love 'being' a mom. Don't get me wrong, I think I'm a very good mom but it's really hard work and so much of it is against my nature. It's okay to feel this way. You are not alone. I don't think women talk about these types of feelings nearly enough for fear of being labeled a 'bad mother'

I confess to not knowing much about PPD. I did have terrible mood swings, and rages and complete and utter breakdown for at least the first year. It could have very well have been PPD or stress or a combination of both.

I don't think our partners can ever do enough for us during the first years. It takes a toll on the relationship for sure but if the foundation is strong and the desire is there you can make it work. But I think you both understand that this is a 'season' of the relationship. It will pass.

You need to tell him exactly what you need from him. I sympathize with men a bit on this because they are on the sidelines and just need to know how to help. But, they need to be taught. I am guilty myself of expecting DH to be a mind reader and know how to help me. You could be feeling so emotionally and mentally frazzled right now that you don't even know where to start. Perhaps scheduling 'breaks' for you where he takes Lincoln for a few hours and you get some alone time would be a good place to start. In my experience it doesn't happen unless you schedule it. We waited far to long to implement this and it helped me immensely.

Here are some more tips that come to mind about parenting a LO with an absent partner:

-You come first! You are no good to Lincoln if you aren't taken care of. Explain this to BF. In order to be the mother you want to be you need to be rested, nourished and supported. Forget about the housework! Nap when he naps or just do whatever recharges you but don't you lift a finger during those precious nap times.

-Try to prepare meals in advance that you can freeze so that cooking is one less thing you need to worry about the day. Prepare them when BF is home and make double batches. Have healthy snacks around. There will be days you're just to busy to have a proper meal. It's not ideal but it happens so be prepared.

-If you don't enjoy grocery shopping or doing other errands with LO then make sure you (or BF) does them before he goes away. Just one less thing you need to worry about.

-Is there anyone that can come to you? My MIL comes once a week to take DD off my hands for a bit. I'm especially lucky that she brings prepared food with her. Could your MIL do that? Or what about hiring a mother's helper? I understand reservations about childcare. MIL is only person I would leave DD with but a helper would be there just to assist you.

-Do you have a carrier that works for you? It's the only way to get stuff done. And if you're not already cosleeping it really helps with the nights

-Do try to get some sunlight and fresh air everyday. It goes a long way.

-Have you found any playgroups in your area? The interaction and stimulation can help alleviate stress.

-Think one day at a time right now. Lower your expectations of what you want to accomplish (in a day, weeks or months) and just focus on the moments. It took me 2 years to figure that one out and I still struggle with it sometimes.

We're here for you
post #1633 of 1821
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Why don't you take him/your MIL up on this just for an afternoon? I assume since your DP offers this as a solution that she'd be willing to take care of him for a bit?
I do get her to babysit occasionally, and she's really wonderful. What he is talking about though is me moving home permanently, and his mom stepping in as Lincoln's main care provider - on a permanent level. For an afternoon of babysitting she's fantastic - she agree's with my parenting style, she adores Lincoln and would do anything for him. But on a permanent basis? I am his mother, she is not. (this is how I respond to my BF - I know that you didn't intend to offend, my post wasn't exactly clear on what he was saying)
post #1634 of 1821
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I do get her to babysit occasionally, and she's really wonderful. What he is talking about though is me moving home permanently, and his mom stepping in as Lincoln's main care provider - on a permanent level. For an afternoon of babysitting she's fantastic - she agree's with my parenting style, she adores Lincoln and would do anything for him. But on a permanent basis? I am his mother, she is not. (this is how I respond to my BF - I know that you didn't intend to offend, my post wasn't exactly clear on what he was saying)
yeah, BF was totally outta line on that suggestion. Unacceptable. But how far away does she live? Could she help out on regular basis?
post #1635 of 1821
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I do get her to babysit occasionally, and she's really wonderful. What he is talking about though is me moving home permanently, and his mom stepping in as Lincoln's main care provider - on a permanent level. For an afternoon of babysitting she's fantastic - she agree's with my parenting style, she adores Lincoln and would do anything for him. But on a permanent basis? I am his mother, she is not. (this is how I respond to my BF - I know that you didn't intend to offend, my post wasn't exactly clear on what he was saying)
I am so sorry mama, that you are having to deal with that. I can't imagine that handing care of your son over to someone else can help you with PPD! Please listen to yourself and get help. I don't know if you have posted in the PPD section here but I am sure that the women there can help you find resources, or at least offer an understanding ear. I am so sorry your BF is doesn't understand your needs .

I have never had PPD but I am still trying to cope with PTSD and it is not easy. I second BaBaBa's comments about making sure you get outside and soak up some fresh air and sunlight every day - it really helps me. If you feel you really need it, you can think about St Johns wort. You are not supposed to take it while nursing really, but I know some moms here who do, and it has really helped them lots. Obviously do your research on this one first though.

Mamas, DD has just gone to sleep in her own bed for the first time. She wanted to, out of the blue. I feel so sad, my baby is growing up... I wonder if she'll want to sleep by herself again tomorrow.
post #1636 of 1821
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yeah, BF was totally outta line on that suggestion. Unacceptable. But how far away does she live? Could she help out on regular basis?
She lives about an hour from us - right near where my BF's summer internship is. So, once she finishes teaching for the year (in a few weeks, then she'll be officially retired! : ) BF will be taking Lincoln to her house 2x per week to babysit while I work on a paper that is due at the end of the summer.

Thanks for all the other suggestions too BaBaBa! I try to get outside every day, but the weather here has been pretty awful for the past few days. I'm also starting my period which always makes things worse. I can't believe I got my regular cycle back at 11 weeks pp - EBF'ing, soooo annoying!

I do have a carrier, but its getting hot so the Ergo isn't always comfy. I'm learning how to use the Kozy though, so hopefully that will be better for the hot days.

I've looked for playgroups in my area, and I can't really find any. I know there are some that are in Manhattan, but the subway in the summer with a hot baby doesn't sound like fun. Especially since both Lincoln and I tend to be hot weather haters.

Oh man, and this weekend! We have to visit with BF's family (I love them, but they are a bit much sometimes) b/c his mom's retirement dinner is this weekend and everyone is going to be there (including his 94yo great aunt, a few other aunts and uncles, etc) and everyone wants to see Lincoln. But Lincoln and I don't do well in large crowds. I should say that *I* don't do well in large crowds, and when I don't do well neither does Lincoln. Ugh, and all these extended family members always feel the need to tell me my baby is spoiled which brings out mama bear and I really don't like that!

Thanks for the support everyone! I appreciate it. I'm sure I'll make it through, it just seems impossible some days.
post #1637 of 1821
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Oh, mama, i am so sorry... I suffered from PPD after DS, and I know the feeling.... Maybe you could try a fish oil supplement? I bet FS covers it (if you get them) and it's pretty cheap. A girl I know IRL swears by them for alleviating depression.

It will get better, just hang in there and stick with the mamas here. Everyone here is just great and we have strong shoulders from holding each other up when we're down
For your sake then I hope she gets probation too! I can understand the feeling of wanting people to know why there is a drinking age, and I hope things go ok! Let us know.

I need to start taking my fish oil supplement again, I took them pretty regularly when I was pregnant, and now I'm not taking them (BF bought the gross liquid kind - I liked the pill form that didn't make me burp fish). I'm also trying to change my diet a little so that I'm getting enough good fats and enough protein since I read that can help too. Thanks.
post #1638 of 1821
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She lives about an hour from us - right near where my BF's summer internship is. So, once she finishes teaching for the year (in a few weeks, then she'll be officially retired! : ) BF will be taking Lincoln to her house 2x per week to babysit while I work on a paper that is due at the end of the summer.

Thanks for all the other suggestions too BaBaBa! I try to get outside every day, but the weather here has been pretty awful for the past few days. I'm also starting my period which always makes things worse. I can't believe I got my regular cycle back at 11 weeks pp - EBF'ing, soooo annoying!


Oh man, and this weekend! We have to visit with BF's family (I love them, but they are a bit much sometimes) b/c his mom's retirement dinner is this weekend and everyone is going to be there (including his 94yo great aunt, a few other aunts and uncles, etc) and everyone wants to see Lincoln. But Lincoln and I don't do well in large crowds. I should say that *I* don't do well in large crowds, and when I don't do well neither does Lincoln. Ugh, and all these extended family members always feel the need to tell me my baby is spoiled which brings out mama bear and I really don't like that!

That sounds like a great arrangement with BF's mom. You have so much on your plate with school and a baby. You are amazing!

I hear ya on the AF thing. 11 weeks?!?! that's just not fair! It was 9 months for me but I was really expecting a year. I shudder to think of the things I said/threatened/felt during PMS and actually still do experience. It's a real problem but it took many months for me to figure out. (Poor DH!)

Good luck on the week end. I loathe those events too.

Hang in there
post #1639 of 1821
thyra i totally agree with this...
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yeah, BF was totally outta line on that suggestion. Unacceptable. But how far away does she live? Could she help out on regular basis?

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I do have a carrier, but its getting hot so the Ergo isn't always comfy. I'm learning how to use the Kozy though, so hopefully that will be better for the hot days.

I've looked for playgroups in my area, and I can't really find any. I know there are some that are in Manhattan, but the subway in the summer with a hot baby doesn't sound like fun. Especially since both Lincoln and I tend to be hot weather haters.
i'm hopefully get a new carrier from dh's co-worker, i only have an ergo right now, and it can get uncomfortable in the heat for too long. eek! i hate the subway in the summer, it has more of that "smell" in the summer. have you checked out meetup.com to find a group... maybe a group in your area where you won't have to take the subway. good luck.


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Mamas, DD has just gone to sleep in her own bed for the first time. She wanted to, out of the blue. I feel so sad, my baby is growing up... I wonder if she'll want to sleep by herself again tomorrow.
she'll still need you for years to come! time goes so fast.
post #1640 of 1821

growing pains =)

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Originally Posted by MittensKittens View Post
Mamas, DD has just gone to sleep in her own bed for the first time. She wanted to, out of the blue. I feel so sad, my baby is growing up... I wonder if she'll want to sleep by herself again tomorrow.

DD(11) & DS(8) still want to sleep with me-and if I had a bed big enough for all 4 of us, they would more often... So don't worry or be sad, she will probably be right back with you tomorrow. I would be willing to put $$ on it.
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