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post #1661 of 1821
MK... where in the world do they think you got your baby from?! and the whole witness thing ... aahh... i just hope the best for you. is the dna test almost back,? i think i remember you saying itwas going to take 6 weeks (a few weeks ago)... it's just crazy they're putting you through all that! and it's hot here too! it cooled off into the 90's this week, i know 110's are right around the corner!
post #1662 of 1821
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MK... where in the world do they think you got your baby from?! and the whole witness thing ... aahh... i just hope the best for you. is the dna test almost back,? i think i remember you saying itwas going to take 6 weeks (a few weeks ago)... it's just crazy they're putting you through all that! and it's hot here too! it cooled off into the 90's this week, i know 110's are right around the corner!
Yes, the whole issue is solved!!! DNA test was back already but that was still not enough proof for them... Anyway, it's over now and I'm waiting for the birth cert. Funny, the statement "I" made consisted of the details I had given earlier and that left the biggest impression on them. It was very short and the most important part seemed to be "I cut the umbilical cord with a knife". That just fascinated them. Where my baby comes from? Maybe I should have had them put in "I delivered my son from my VAGINA" as part of the statement as well? Anyway, it is all over now :.

I haven't seen redveg for a while here, where are you mama? Are you OK?
post #1663 of 1821
I'm glad it all worked out MK. How surreal the whole experience must seem.
post #1664 of 1821
Hello mamas. Boy things have been crazy here. I haven't had time to get on the computer. I am so glad it is Friday. I am again on my way out the door gotta take the kids to the dentist. I hope I can catch up later this weekend. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend. By the way the pics of the little ones are beautiful!! I miss babies.
post #1665 of 1821
Thyra, I finally got a chance to load your pics!

Lincoln is an absolute doll!
post #1666 of 1821
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Originally Posted by Mama2Rio View Post
MK... where in the world do they think you got your baby from?! and the whole witness thing ... aahh... i just hope the best for you. is the dna test almost back,? i think i remember you saying itwas going to take 6 weeks (a few weeks ago)... it's just crazy they're putting you through all that! and it's hot here too! it cooled off into the 90's this week, i know 110's are right around the corner!
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Geez MK, I'm so glad that the whole thing is over now!! I can't imagine having to prove that my own son is actually mine!

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Thyra, I finally got a chance to load your pics!

Lincoln is an absolute doll!
Thanks! I think so too... So is your little girl btw - everytime I see pictures of older kids it makes me think that Lincoln is going to be that big someday and kinda makes me sad.

He's trying to crawl now. It's absolutely adorable!! He can't lift his torso off the ground yet, so he does the army crawl thing, but he has ot concentrate really hard, so he ends up dropping his head into the bed and then using his legs to throw himself forward! It's SO funny! I need to take a video of it so that I can put it on youtube. It's really the funniest thing I've ever seen.

Things here are settling down a little, but its going to get shaken up again soon. BF might go to the Lakers/Magic game on Sunday, his best friend can get him tickets, then Lincoln and I are leaving on Wednesday to see my parents. Life is insane. Then we have to figure out when to do fathers day since we were going to do it this weekend (and still might if BF decides not to go to the game), but we're going to be gone next weekend so I don't know.

I really can't wait to see my parents! I love spending time with them - my dad is going to be very surprised with Lincoln though since he hasn't seen him in 4.5months! He's changed so much its hard to believe he's the same kid!
post #1667 of 1821
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He's trying to crawl now. It's absolutely adorable!! He can't lift his torso off the ground yet, so he does the army crawl thing, but he has ot concentrate really hard, so he ends up dropping his head into the bed and then using his legs to throw himself forward! It's SO funny! I need to take a video of it so that I can put it on youtube. It's really the funniest thing I've ever seen.

I really can't wait to see my parents! I love spending time with them - my dad is going to be very surprised with Lincoln though since he hasn't seen him in 4.5months! He's changed so much its hard to believe he's the same kid!
I know, the trying to crawl phase is so cute. Sasha is doing push up kinda movements right now, and he's also going places, though I haven't noticed his technique exactly .

I hope you'll have lots of fun seeing your parents and that the flight with Lincoln will be fine (I'm sure it will!). How have you been feeling this week? Feel free to come on here and vent if you need to, I know I do!

Redveg, sorry you have been so busy. Hope you will get time to wind down this weekend.

BaBaBa, how are you, what are you up to?

I went to see another mom with to kids yesterday together with the mama I met here on MDC. I had fun, and we did have some in common - besides the woman was very nice generally. BUT... Her DD kept pushing and hitting my DD and the poor thing got pretty scared. I guess it is something she needs to learn to deal with though. Anyway, this girl's mom kept hitting her and telling her she was "not a good girl at all", I have to say I felt a bit sorry for the girl. What do you do when you see stuff like that happening?
post #1668 of 1821
Hi Everyone! Is it ok if I join in?

I know I am about 84 pages late but here I am.

I am in the no friends/lonely club. Heres my story;

I was living in the PNW of the US for about 5 years before I decided to go to grad school, I had some of the best girlfriends I have ever had there. It was really hard to leave. I moved to a big east coast city, went to grad school, made a few really good friends in the process and also met my husband. We lived in the city for a few years and then (I)/we decided it was time to leave (ok, so city life wasn't for me) and we took the plunge to move to Europe (to a city/town where my DH is origionally from).

I love it here but not being fluent in the language yet has made meeting people hard. There are some expat groups and I have met a few nice women from them, but they are so different then me, its been hard to click. We do have my husband friends but they are all childless and 30 going on 16 which gets old for me fast.

Anyhow, so I'm pregnant with our first, I have no real friends or family within a 10 hour flight of us and I'd love to know I'm not alone, which by the number of pages here, I hope I'm not
post #1669 of 1821
Hey ithappened, welcome! Where are you living? Did you move recently? I know it can be difficult to settle into a new country, but it does get better! I've never liked the expat communities anywhere much, but perhaps you can post in your tribal area to see if there are any other MDC-ers? Oh, congrats on your pregnancy!
post #1670 of 1821
Ithappened - Congratulations on your being pg! That's awesome.
You are not alone. Welcome!


Hey Y'all! Sorry I haven't been on here in a while. I think I may have mentioned a few pages back how summer really takes hold of me and I really get away from the computer. Plus Dh and I have been working on our marriage, and I'm trying to respect the fact that he doesn't like me spending much time on the computer.


Things are looking up for Dh and I. We are going to this class called Intimate Encounters put on by a church we used to go to, and it's really helping. I hope our marriage continues to get better once the 11 week class is over. We're halfway through right now.

I invited a little girl over for our very first official playdate at our house. We had been invited to this little girl's house when the Mama was hosting a Juicy Juice party and didn't have enough people attending, so she extended an offer to me via email. She's on another site that I frequent for mamas in my area. We hit it off at her house, in fact she insisted that we come back just a few days later. Then I invited her over to my house and she came and even though I'm not nearly as wealthy as her family is I didn't feel the need to be ashamed of my home. Anyway, she won't return any of my emails now. I don't know why. I want to ask her so badly, but I think I'll just come off as desperate (which I kinda am) and that's not going to help anything. I swore I wouldn't care anyway because her daughter needs socialization and yelled at my kids a few times, 'causing them to cry once because they wanted to pet their own dog. So really, I don't want her coming around much, 'cause I don't like to see my children being yelled at like that by another child, but I want her to want to be my friend. KWIM? So pathetic, I know.

Well I just wanted to stop in and say hi to my friends, because I have been missing you guys. Gotta go finish making a dress now, then plant some Mammoth Sunflower seeds. Happy Day Everyone!
post #1671 of 1821
Hey Shane

Glad to hear your marriage is getting better, and that you have found the right help for you. I can understand DH wanting you to stay off the computer . I know how you feel about the playdate thing, BTDT and it makes you feel pathetic... but it may just be that the other mom 1) is terrible at organizing herself or is very busy, or 2) is ashamed about the way her kids behaved towards yours. Just saying, and perhaps she'll still call.
post #1672 of 1821
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BaBaBa, how are you, what are you up to?

I went to see another mom with to kids yesterday together with the mama I met here on MDC. I had fun, and we did have some in common - besides the woman was very nice generally. BUT... Her DD kept pushing and hitting my DD and the poor thing got pretty scared. I guess it is something she needs to learn to deal with though. Anyway, this girl's mom kept hitting her and telling her she was "not a good girl at all", I have to say I felt a bit sorry for the girl. What do you do when you see stuff like that happening?
Not much exciting happening here. I am sleeping a lot! I don't feel fatigued but I have no problem going to bed at 8, waking up at 8 and sleeping a couple hours when DD naps. I wonder what it is?

Thats an uncomfortable situation. Maybe the other mom was embarassed with her DD's behaviour and didn't know how to deal with it. I don't think you can do much about it other than wait for an opportunity to share more positive parenting techniques. (aren't you afraid she'll see you comments here?)

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Hi Everyone! Is it ok if I join in?

Come on in!


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Then I invited her over to my house and she came and even though I'm not nearly as wealthy as her family is I didn't feel the need to be ashamed of my home. Anyway, she won't return any of my emails now. I don't know why. I want to ask her so badly, but I think I'll just come off as desperate (which I kinda am) and that's not going to help anything. I swore I wouldn't care anyway because her daughter needs socialization and yelled at my kids a few times, 'causing them to cry once because they wanted to pet their own dog. So really, I don't want her coming around much, 'cause I don't like to see my children being yelled at like that by another child, but I want her to want to be my friend. KWIM? So pathetic, I know.

Well I just wanted to stop in and say hi to my friends, because I have been missing you guys. Gotta go finish making a dress now, then plant some Mammoth Sunflower seeds. Happy Day Everyone!
Nice to hear from you:!

I can't imagine that's the reason you haven't heard from her. If it is, you are better off without her.

I have Mammoth Sunflower seeds too! I haven't got them in the ground yet and I don't think I ever will

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... but it may just be that the other mom 1) is terrible at organizing herself or is very busy, or 2) is ashamed about the way her kids behaved towards yours. Just saying, and perhaps she'll still call.
yes!
post #1673 of 1821
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Originally Posted by BaBaBa View Post
Thats an uncomfortable situation. Maybe the other mom was embarassed with her DD's behaviour and didn't know how to deal with it. I don't think you can do much about it other than wait for an opportunity to share more positive parenting techniques. (aren't you afraid she'll see you comments here?)
No, well, perhaps my "MDC friend" will read this, but her friend, the woman we went to see. definitely won't. The thing is, I really liked her, we exchanged numbers etc, but this was the uncomfy bit. Also my DD is a very sensitive soul, easily hurt.

How do your kids *addresses mamas with small kids/toddlers* interact with other children? Do you think that, for those who are expats, that affects your kids' behavior a lot? Actually my DD mainly speaks the local language but still gets confused at times.

BaBaBa, I am soooo tired too right now. It has "attacked" me late afternoon for the past couple days, out of nowhere. Perhaps we have swine flu
post #1674 of 1821
Oh! I misunderstood. I thought you were talking about the MDC mama which didn't make sense to me but I'm

Maybe it's the lousy cold, damp weather or maybe I'm a bit depressed. I dunno.

DD is pretty good with other kids except we went through a terrible stage where she would attack babies! It was very embarrassing and hard to correct at that age. I just had to watch her like a hawk, hovering over her and intercept before she struck. Even if she saw a picture of a baby she would hit it. Thankfully that is over although now I am beginning to suspect that she does not like her personal space being entered. She gets quite defensive. We may have a future introvert!
post #1675 of 1821
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Oh! I misunderstood. I thought you were talking about the MDC mama which didn't make sense to me but I'm

Maybe it's the lousy cold, damp weather or maybe I'm a bit depressed. I dunno.

DD is pretty good with other kids except we went through a terrible stage where she would attack babies! It was very embarrassing and hard to correct at that age. I just had to watch her like a hawk, hovering over her and intercept before she struck. Even if she saw a picture of a baby she would hit it. Thankfully that is over although now I am beginning to suspect that she does not like her personal space being entered. She gets quite defensive. We may have a future introvert!
I am so sorry, but the part about your DD hitting pictures of babies had me LOL (ew... that is the first time I actually use that particular abbreviation. I don't like it!). It has been raining here too. I am still without energy although I did do the flylady stuff for today - otherwise my house would be a total mess by now.

What are you having for dinner? I got some mung beans and trying to work out what to do with them. Perhaps bean soup. But DD makes a total mess out of soup.
post #1676 of 1821
Pasta Puttanesca (sans the anchovies ) and DH is cooking not me. It's an old stand by I think we're bringing out of retirement. (I hope!)

How is flylady? Do you like it? I have my own OCD sorta wayof working around the house. It's not perfect but either am I LOL!!!!

What's BTDT? You used it earlier.
post #1677 of 1821
ooooooooh!

I just had the idea of going to the Drive In Movies tonight....

I wonder how that would go with DD?
post #1678 of 1821
Did you go to the drive in movie in the end? BTDT is been there, done that . I like flylady. I don't do everything that they tell me to (like getting dressed to your shoes, haha, don't wanna ruin my wooden floor!) but it's helped me a lot. I like the timer method too. Oh, I love Pasta Puttanesca, I hope you enjoyed the meal and not cooking it!
post #1679 of 1821
MittensKittens- Thanks! I'm from Austria and as far as I know, there aren't any other MDCers here.
post #1680 of 1821
Nah, we didn't go. DH and DD fell asleep on the couch after supper. The movie started late at 9:30. Too bad, a Ben Stiller comedy is right up my alley right now.

Austria....: Just thinking of all those pastry shops is making me salivate!
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