Lonely/no friend mamas - Page 88

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by BaBaBa

no, not that creep. He's history (I had a terrible dream the other night that he came to circumcise DD)

This is the nice, respectable, goody-goody pillar of the community neighbours

I don't feel so bad about our dog barking at night now.

huh? a creep stared at your DD?? Did I miss that post?

[ithappened]

how have you all managed to do this (being a mom) without having other mom friends in your area? do you have family? hired support? web cam chats?

I'm really struggling right now with the idea of feeling alone during my pregnancy and even more so with the idea of feeling alone after birth.

[Mimi]

sorry,I thought bababa posted about that here, but it could have been in an email . :/ sorry!!

[Mimi]

Originally Posted by ithappened

how have you all managed to do this (being a mom) without having other mom friends in your area? do you have family? hired support? web cam chats?

I'm really struggling right now with the idea of feeling alone during my pregnancy and even more so with the idea of feeling alone after birth.

Hey there!
when i first moved to the uk i was really really sad because i didn't have any friends, & then i went to playgroups & such just to find out that actually, i don't want to be friends with many of the mothers in this area, a lot of people here "smack" their children & that sort of thing.
truth is, you just get used to it.
I talk to mamas i like online & sometimes we meet up when they don't live to far away. i have far too little spare time to be wasting it being "social" with people i don't actually like, so, it takes some time , but i prefer having fewer friends that i actually have something in common with to having a ton of mainstream mummy friends who hit their kids.


before my ds was born i made all sorts of plans for my german friends to come visit me after birth, but the closer i got to my due date, the more i realised that i much prefer just my familys company.

i am , however, very lucky & have my in laws living right around the corner, we go there for dinner every wednesday & a big sunday lunch , too.
& soon my husband will be at home all day, too.
without that, i think i would have gone slightly mad by now

[MittensKittens]

So.... ....the whole bureaucracy saga is still not over. I phoned the embassy to check whether the BC was done yet, and they said no, because they hadn't received any confirmation from the police yet. Those creeps knocking at the door yesterday, because of which my DD became totally hysterical, might have been the police or CPS after all. (more likely CPS - they were three women. I thought they might have been Jahova's witnesses)

[ithappened]

MittensKittens- why do the police or CPS need to confirm anything? (honestly curious)

[MittensKittens]

Originally Posted by ithappened

MittensKittens- why do the police or CPS need to confirm anything? (honestly curious)

I had a UC, and have dual citizenship with the right to triple - it all got very complicated. Still is, apparently .

[Mimi]

so sorry, mittenskittens!
that must be very stressfull.
they probably just want a chat, though,right?
:/

[MittensKittens]

Originally Posted by herewearetogether

so sorry, mittenskittens!
that must be very stressfull.
they probably just want a chat, though,right?
:/

No idea, I thought they wouldn't come because they have criminals to deal with!?!

[Mimi]

well, i got the police newsletter for where i live, & their top priority is "people parking in a way that obstructs paths " & "people dropping paper & cigarette buds" so the police are bored as hell, maybe it's the same where you live?

[Mimi]

i just dug out my mary poppins & wizard of oz dvds, baked some bread, cut up some strawberries,apples & bananas, ( & a pack of nuts& raisins) & went back to bed with the kids.
i can't quite face the world today .
feeling quite guilty,but,at least they eat healthy food,right?

[MittensKittens]

Originally Posted by herewearetogether

well, i got the police newsletter for where i live, & their top priority is "people parking in a way that obstructs paths " & "people dropping paper & cigarette buds" so the police are bored as hell, maybe it's the same where you live?

Definitely NOT . Here, parking on the sidewalk is default. No, I am not exaggerating. It even looks like there are unspoken rules about HOW you are supposed to park on the sidewalk. Those who use strollers have a seriously hard time getting around in my neighborhood. Also, this is not exactly the cleanest city I have ever seen in my life. At least you can actually walk on the side walk, LOL .

I LOVE home made bread! Fruit sounds wonderful too. Do you use a bread machine?

[Mimi]

No, we used to have one but neve rused it, plus it was really huge. I like making it properly, it feels more like we actually made it. Emi loves the book "zed's bread" so we have been baking every day really.
(if i ever find a small enough bread machine, i might just use it, too,though.)

mh. i forgot how "scary" wizard of oz can be, emi is a little upset because "it is real windy and the house is blowing away" ...

[MittensKittens]

Poor DD

[Mimi]

she's loving the munchkins though.
anyway, as guilty as i feel, it's really nice to get a break like this.

[MittensKittens]

Originally Posted by herewearetogether

she's loving the munchkins though.
anyway, as guilty as i feel, it's really nice to get a break like this.

I bet! Is Emi any good at entertaining herself? Kaya used to be, but those days are over. MAMA COME PLAY WITH LEGO - COME PLAY WITH LEGO (imagine wild toddler pointing at mom) is the norm now.

[Mimi]

she usually is, but the past two days it has been nothing but picking up something, throwing it, moving on.
it's very irritating. she's also started shouting everything she says recently, i am considering getting her hearing checked, it's crazy.
is kaya any good with legos? we don't have any because i think george would try to eat them, but there is a bigger wooden version of legos that i quite like, but then, I like them, i don't know if emi would.

[MittensKittens]

Originally Posted by herewearetogether

she usually is, but the past two days it has been nothing but picking up something, throwing it, moving on.
it's very irritating. she's also started shouting everything she says recently, i am considering getting her hearing checked, it's crazy.
is kaya any good with legos? we don't have any because i think george would try to eat them, but there is a bigger wooden version of legos that i quite like, but then, I like them, i don't know if emi would.

My mom bought Kaya a TON of lego. The primo stuff for babies, and then the duplo toddler version. That is what she plays with now, and the pieces are too big to swallow for Sasha. She is great with lego - she builds all kinds of stuff. She has got a ton of different cars and expensive add ons as well. None of it I actually paid for . Sasha likes to watch her play, and sometimes picks up a block of lego. I can assure you there is really no risk of the duplo being swallowed.

Funny how two kids can be so different. Kaya wasn't interested in toys for a long, long time. She used to just live every day items like spoons and stuff, and books, crayons etc. She is just now getting into things like legos, but Sasha is already VERY interested in everything he can get his hands on. He bores easily and starts crying when he is bored. Kaya couldn't get bored at that age . I also have a feeling that Sasha is the "want to put my fingers in the outlet" type of baby, so I am very careful now.

Isn't the shouting thing just a phase? I mean, an annoying phase?

[ithappened]

MittensKittens- oh makes sense of the dual citizenship thing. here we just have to take the kid to the US embassay in person, which is 4 hours way to get the BC. Pain in the ass that will be.

As for breadmaker, I wish! I just have a blender and ice cream maker at the moment

[MittensKittens]

Ice cream maker sounds like fun!