Lonely/no friend mamas - Page 89

[BaBaBa]

Originally Posted by herewearetogether

or someone trying to climb up my leg for a bit of milk

there are really good bras for that...

[BaBaBa]

Originally Posted by herewearetogether

actually, bababa, dh is asking me to go to bed, & you know how much that is needed at the moment, haha

hubba hubba

[BaBaBa]

Originally Posted by thyra

huh? a creep stared at your DD?? Did I miss that post?

I won't describe the guy as he would fit the stereotype of a 'creep' and that just wouldn't be fair (well, knowing you're legal minded)

I was chatting to him at the side door, paying him for snow removal. Unknown to me, DD was behind me lifting up her nightie (as little girls do). She had no undies on. I think he remarked on her 'not being shy' or something along those lines. I wrapped it up quickly with him to attend to her but he kept glanced over my shoulder at her peep show performance even glancing back one more time as he shut the door behind him. I would expect most people, men especially to avoid looking. Anyhow, I'm sure it was nothing but being an over protective mother it mad me feel uncomfortable all the same.

[BaBaBa]

Originally Posted by ithappened

how have you all managed to do this (being a mom) without having other mom friends in your area? do you have family? hired support? web cam chats?

I'm really struggling right now with the idea of feeling alone during my pregnancy and even more so with the idea of feeling alone after birth.

The first 2 years were incredibly hard. I had also mad the transition from living in the city with DH to 2 hours away in the country, with DH only at home when he didn't have to work (he's freelance, so there's some flexibility there).

I think you can find friends but you really have to put yourself out there and that's almost impossible to do with a new LO. I would prepare now and find a group, like LLL and start attending. Like HWAT said, it's also hard to find other mums that share your parenting views.

My MIL who also lives 2 hours away, helped out tremendously and still continues to visit weekly if DH isn't home.

I debated a lot during the first 2 years about getting hired help, a housekeeper or a mother's helper. DH was totally supportive but I'm terribly introverted and much of the idea of it exhausted me. In retrospect, I probably should have pursued it. I'm thinking again about getting a mothers helper a couple of days a week.

I chat online with friends. I find talking on the phone hard. DD is always competing for my attention and I'm not the type that can focus on a telephone conversation, while playing with DD, while preparing a meal etc..Instant messaging is great because interruptions don't matter.

If I had any advice for a mom to be I would say learn to meditate now or prepare yourself now in whatever way with the skills to handle stress, anger and frustration. I really wish I had. I think it would have helped me enormously.

[MittensKittens]

Originally Posted by BaBaBa

I won't describe the guy as he would fit the stereotype of a 'creep' and that just wouldn't be fair (well, knowing you're legal minded)

I was chatting to him at the side door, paying him for snow removal. Unknown to me, DD was behind me lifting up her nightie (as little girls do). She had no undies on. I think he remarked on her 'not being shy' or something along those lines. I wrapped it up quickly with him to attend to her but he kept glanced over my shoulder at her peep show performance even glancing back one more time as he shut the door behind him. I would expect most people, men especially to avoid looking. Anyhow, I'm sure it was nothing but being an over protective mother it mad me feel uncomfortable all the same.

Yuk!

[BaBaBa]

MK, good grief! what you're dealing with!!!

So, are you effectively stranded there without a BC?

[BaBaBa]

Help me understand here....what exactly does a bread machine do? I mean I know it makes bread but I have no problem making it without one. Why would you ever need one?

Now, an ice cream machine. That's useful!

[Mimi]

oh man, both kids finally asleep , it's 4.30 pm here, i am shattered. dh is working in another town today & won't be home till 7, & then we go to his parents for dinner.

bababa, there are bras for little people climbing up my legs to get some milk? o.O

[Mimi]

I wish they made lego in prettier colours, though.
i just hate hate hate those bold primary colours.

emi has a duplo dinosaur set that she got from my mum last christmas, but she mostly just throws them at george. she's better with normal blocks, builds whole cities. she might just not "get" how legos work yet?!

[Mimi]

ooooh also, did i tell you all,

my little emi can write now!!!!

i'm so very proud, haha. take that all you people hating unschooling. let me see your almost 3 year olds write.

[MittensKittens]

Yeah, BBB, WHAT bras are you talking about?

[Mimi]

Originally Posted by BaBaBa

Help me understand here....what exactly does a bread machine do? I mean I know it makes bread but I have no problem making it without one. Why would you ever need one?

Now, an ice cream machine. That's useful!

the one we had, you would put in flour, water, yeast & butter, it would mix it up, make a perfect temperature for it to rise, then beep till you are there, the screen would say the next step of the recipe (like, "add half a cup of honey" ) & so on, so you'd always get perfect bread.
but ugly bread, square bread.


ice cream machine i find useless, i LOVE to make icecream without one!
it's very satisfying, plus it sort of gives a day structure .

[Mimi]

Originally Posted by MittensKittens

Yeah, BBB, WHAT bras are you talking about?

one that comes with a teeny tiny rope-ladder?

( at least he'd stop pulling himself closer by my hair, i suppose?! )

[MittensKittens]

Originally Posted by herewearetogether

ooooh also, did i tell you all,

my little emi can write now!!!!

i'm so very proud, haha. take that all you people hating unschooling. let me see your almost 3 year olds write.

That is wonderful!!! Mine won't, though she recognizes some words. Any suggestions on how to get there without being pushy?

[Mimi]

The kids & me take a shower today every day, so i started writing on the glass with my finger, sort of like
"E is a loooong line with many arms" "M looks like the Mountains" "I is a very long line" The E is reaching out to the mountains, & the I is trying to hide behind the mountains" so she started drawing her own stories. it's sweet really, but weirdly enough she stopped reading. she'll go to a book & say "look,mama, here is the letter D" or something like that, but no more "this word means CAT" so i am thinking that her reading was just learning the look of common words. but , we'll get there again eventually .

[BaBaBa]

Originally Posted by herewearetogether

bababa, there are bras for little people climbing up my legs to get some milk? o.O

It depends on how far up your leg they need to climb to get some

[Mimi]

gasp! i am still quite young, i like tho think that my breasts don't quite reach the floor yet (though they are getting there, aehm.)

george is a dentist recently, i always seem to have a hand in my mouth, this morning i even woke up that way. quite annoying, but he's too big a chunky monkey now to be swaddled.

[BaBaBa]

Originally Posted by herewearetogether

ooooh also, did i tell you all,

my little emi can write now!!!!

i'm so very proud, haha. take that all you people hating unschooling. let me see your almost 3 year olds write.

perhaps she could prepare a letter for CPS outlining how well her homeschooling is going

[Mimi]

she could write to these stupid mps here who want to make unschooling illegal. grrrr.
my dh doesn't answer his mails & his phone redirects me.
:/
he usually calls a lot & answers all my mails!

[BaBaBa]

Originally Posted by herewearetogether

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ice cream machine i find useless, i LOVE to make icecream without one!
it's very satisfying, plus it sort of gives a day structure .

how on earth?!?! it must give one a rather sore arm does it not?