Lonely/no friend mamas - Page 13

[frowningfrog]

Originally Posted by mama4gals

Hey ladies! Did you notice that MarisaMay posted way back on page 5, I think. Nobody responded. It was her first and only post. I just sent her a PM welcome. I have just finished reading through the whole thread--whew! Anyway, MarisaMay, please come back and talk to us. Let's all be lonely mamas together!

Liz

Sorry MarisaMAy, Hello ...us lonely mamas can use another friend..
Sorry it is spo hard to keep track of every post, especially when you are in so many threads and groups and........... ugh!!!!

[SillyGigglyGirls]

Welcome, PM me!
I would love to chat with you on the boards!
Kate

Feeling kind of lonely ladies!
Help!! If anyone has MSN please PM me.
I would love to chat. I have four girls in my house,
my two, and my nieces!! I would love to sit and chat with someone for an hour ..just to keep my sanity!

Been busy all week.
I should have been called CrazyMomma instead!

[3 Little Monkeys]

I'm posting this all over MDC today - I had my u/s this morning. We're having a baby :LOL I didn't want to find out, but dh did - baby however was not going to give out that little secret so dh has to wait :LOL The u/s tech says she "thinks" she knows what we're having, but we decided not to find out because it is just a guess. Everything looks great though, everything is where it is supposed to be. I have some pics but they are x-ray type pics so I don't know if I can scan them or not. I'm going to have dh play with it tonight and see if he can do it.

[mama4gals]

Oh Sherri! I am so glad everything looks good! Now more than ever, I realize how precious each new life is, what a miracle it is to get pregnant and give birth. I'm excited for you!

Liz

[mama4gals]

Hey there everyone! Guess everybody's been busy today. Maybe not so lonely today? First thing this am, I got ticked off by something I read in our local paper and had to fire off a letter to the editor. We had parent/teacher conferences at the schools today. I talked to 7 teachers today. But it was great to hear them all rave about how wonderful my kids are, so smart, and a pleasure to have in class. After the way they act at home, it's good to hear that other side of their personalities. Well, it's off to bed for me; 5:30 comes early. Hope you ladies had a good day.

Liz

[3 Little Monkeys]

I'm here Liz, sort of. I've had a major headache all day long so I haven't spent much time online.

Isn't that always the way it goes, the kids are absolute angels for other people and they save the rottenness for us. Just once I'd like to be on the receiving end of some of that sweet angelic behaviour

[mama4gals]

I lied. I didn't really go to bed. I just kept reading posts. This whole thing is confusing to me. I am totally computer illiterate. I can manage to check my email and order stuff online (my dh wishes I didn't know how to do that ). But I'm confused by all these forums, sub-forums, threads, tribes, etc. How do the rest of you keep up with it all? For example, I was enjoying yesterday's chat with Sherri and others. Today I checked and didn't see any new posts. Then I was looking around tonight and found you were on other threads today. And there are lonely mamas, and outcast mamas, and thread-killing mamas. And what does it mean to subscribe to a thread? Do you have to be in a tribe? How many tribes can you be in? I know that's probably way too many questions for one post, but I was just wondering...

Liz

[noorjahan]

[noorjahan]

[Ms.Doula]

basicaly if you choose to subscribe to your threads... you will get the notification of your choice (ie. Daily diguest, instant email notifications, no notifications, ect)

[mamasaurus]

I'm one of those people without friends. I'm actually pretty ok with it. Sometimes I wish I had some friends, but honestly, it's not a burning desire. My DH is my best friend and we both work at home, so we are around each other a lot.

When I was 12, I was very lonely. I had moved to a new place, and felt very odd. Being 12 didn't help, it can be such a rough age! I made a pathetic attempt at suicide, but really it was a cry for help. My Mom took me to counseling. The counselor suggested that I was an:

"Extrovert trapped in an Introvert's body."

That label has haunted me for a long time. I think it was very damaging. It was almost like the counselor was saying that being an introvert was a bad thing. Because that introvert was "trapping" the true person, the extrovert, and not allowing them to come out and shine. I felt for a long time that I needed to be more outgoing, and tried to force it. I became a cheerleader, and tried to make friends, but never with much luck.

I finally came to the place where I just accepted myself as a nice, introverted person. I think introverted people can have deep relationships with people. I do with my DH. I just don't have the need to have many friends. But I definitely do need at least one very good friend! I think we all do.

[mama4gals]

Gosh, Jenny, I'm sorry about that. You must have really been in anguish to try suicide at age 12. That's great that your dh is your best friend. Mine is not really the communicative type, so when I've needed to talk, I have usually talked to my sister. It's great having this online community. I am not the kind to like to go out a lot. I used to be, but I hated how I never got anything done at home. When I am home most of the time, things stay on more of a routine, which my youngest (3) really needs. It's kind of gotten to the point where I hate to go places. I don't think it's unhealthy. I am a homemaker, and my job is at home. I also have an at-home paying job. I really like being at home, and my youngest dd does too.

Thanks for the explanations to my questions. Gotta run! Today I actually am going somewhere. It's payday, and I have to go grocery shopping.

Liz

[mamasaurus]

oops

[mamasaurus]

Thanks, Liz. I talk to my sister as well. I'm glad to have her even though we live 5000 miles apart. I like to stay home as well. We have made ourselves a nice little nest here and I think, "Why go anywhere?" But I still do, to get the girls out and about.

[Pookietooth]

Originally Posted by frowningfrog

....Of all the threads I have started (cant remember how many) ..at least 3 or 4 of them I killed before they started...lol

Oh, I've had quite a few die, either because nobody responded to a new post I wrote or because I asked a question in someone else's post that seemed to cause it to die. At least that's how it looked to me!

[Pookietooth]

Originally Posted by 3 Little Monkeys

Isn't that always the way it goes, the kids are absolute angels for other people and they save the rottenness for us. Just once I'd like to be on the receiving end of some of that sweet angelic behaviour

I haven't experienced the dichotomy myself much yet, mostly because ds appears to be an extreme introvert and barely talks to anyone else, but figure eventually I will. And when it happens, I know it will get old, but sometimes I almost long for it, just to prove to me that ds can interact with others besides dh and myself. I hope you get at least a hug or two from your dds still!

[3 Little Monkeys]

Originally Posted by mama4gals

But I'm confused by all these forums, sub-forums, threads, tribes, etc. How do the rest of you keep up with it all? For example, I was enjoying yesterday's chat with Sherri and others. Today I checked and didn't see any new posts. Then I was looking around tonight and found you were on other threads today. And there are lonely mamas, and outcast mamas, and thread-killing mamas. And what does it mean to subscribe to a thread? Do you have to be in a tribe? How many tribes can you be in? I know that's probably way too many questions for one post, but I was just wondering...

Liz

Liz, you don't have to subscribe or be part of a tribe to post to any thread. Just surf around a bit, find something that you are interested in and start posting For instance, when I first joined, I was specifically looking for info on cloth diapers - so that forum was my first stop, then I got pregnant and found the pregnancy forum, and now there are due date club sub forums. There are forums for specific ages of children (ie. babes, toddlers, preschoolers, preteens, etc.) You can belong to as many tribes as you want to - just have fun.

This has been a great place for me, I've "met" so many interesting people. Funny to say, but one of the very best friends I've ever had in my life - I have never actually met face to face, we met here.

And there's never such thing as too many questions

[3 Little Monkeys]

Originally Posted by Pookietooth

I haven't experienced the dichotomy myself much yet, mostly because ds appears to be an extreme introvert and barely talks to anyone else, but figure eventually I will. And when it happens, I know it will get old, but sometimes I almost long for it, just to prove to me that ds can interact with others besides dh and myself. I hope you get at least a hug or two from your dds still!

I get lots of hugs from the baby (23 months) and if she's feeling jealous then I'll get hugs from the 4 yo, but my 10 yo (11 next week) only hugs me when she wants something.

My 4 yo is pretty introverted as well. When we go somewhere, she won't go play with the other kids, she's always off to the side playing by herself, or with her sister. My other two will throw themselves right into the middle of things though, it's nice to see that and I really wish I could get my 4 yo to interract more, hopefully it will get better when she starts school next year

[Pookietooth]

Liz, just wanted to mention that it's possible you have PCOS if you've had multiple miscarriages and are overweight. PCOS is associated with hormonal imbalances, insulin resistance (pre-diabetic), infertility, and miscarriage risk. See www.pcosupport.org and www.pcosliving.org for more info (the second website is not exactly mainstream, or even alternative, so read it with caution -- it's kind of a sales tool for their particular tests).
Oh, wait, I just saw that you've already posted over at the living with PCOS thread for your dd -- how timely!

[mama4gals]

Well, I survived shopping day . Spent way too much money; what else is new? We are far from any good stores, so when I drive an hour to get to one, I tend to buy lots of food. And as I'm sure you nature mamas know, eating healthy is expensive.

Jennifer, thanks for the tip about PCOS. It's funny, while I was posting about my daughter on the PCOS thread, I was thinking, gee, I wonder if I have it? I've got a lot of the symptoms, plus my hair is falling out. I just chalked that up to old age, but it still worries me. I used to have waist length thick wavy brown hair. Now it's a little past shoulder length and thin. I guess I've got a lot to look into. I usually never go to the dr myself because I do enough of that with the children.

Liz