Lonely/no friend mamas - Page 3

[indie]

Well, I guess I should join this tribe. We moved to our area 2 years ago and I still don't have any real friends. I can identify with Melissa since we have only one car. That makes it difficult. I'm an introvert too which plays into it. But I did have a friend here when we first moved here and she and her husband moved away because they couldn't make any friends or find a good church and they are normally very good at making friends so I guess it can't be just a problem with me.

I am a Christian in a very Christian area, but I really don't identify with the strange Christian culture around here. It has taken us 2 years to find a church that we kind of like and we are just starting to try to get to know people. When I had my first baby we had 3 baby showers and a ton of people signed up to bring us food. This time we've had one person ask us about our needs. It is kind of depressing to not have a support system.

[MamaHippo]

I know how it is to feel lonely. I have 2 old friends, both of whom live over an hour away, and I never see them. I have one other very good friend... who lives in Stafford, England So you can guess how often I see her.
I am lucky to have my mom and sisters close by (well, 25 miles away), so i see them, but i literally have no friends within about a 50 mile radius. The Denver MDC mamas playgroup has been great, cus I have met some of the wonderful moms from here. Sometimes i go out to the grocery store just to see someone other than DS and DH.

Lisa

[Sustainer]

I'm glad to find this tribe! I only have one friend in the local area, and we hardly have anything in common. She has no children, she's not natural or environmentally conscious at all, she's not a feminist, she's not liberal, and she's religious. If I had even one friend in the local area who I had even 2 or 3 things in common with, I would be so grateful. I haven't even seen my one friend that I have nothing in common with for months. I think that she, too, is realizing that we have nothing in common, especially now that I have children, and we are drifting apart.

[noorjahan]

[burke-a-bee]

Originally Posted by MomBirthmomStepmom

I should probably add, I would never ever pretend to be religious, that's simply direspectful to me...

But, I do wonder if I could handle simply attending a church to meet friends... Then again, that seems disrespectful too Like I'd be somehow 'using' or taking advantage of the church

I am not saying that I would ever pretend to be religious to meet people. It just seems that the few long distance friends that I have who have children have met people through church, work, school, etc. I don't have any of those things. I find myself thinking about how it might be different if I was in more of a community setting like church, work or school. This doesn't mean that I'm considering going to church and pretending to be religious to meet people. I have too much respect for religion to do this.
I think for me when I'm feeling lonely I start to think of the "what ifs". What if I lived in a smaller town, would I have more friends? What if I had a job, would I have more friends? I know it is a sad way to think. I just start looking at what works for other people and why. I guess that I should start to focus on where I am and just get out there and meet people.

[MomBirthmomStepmom]

So yesterday, I posted about calling an old friend who I lost touch of (even though she lives 3000 miles away, it'd be someone to talk with!)...

Well, she called last night!!!!!!! We exchanged new numbers and talked for a bit about the last year Yesterday was her birthday, so I'm so glad I took the jump to call her yesterday

[noorjahan]

[Devaskyla]

subscribing, since dh & i don't really have any friends, either.

[damyen's mommy]

Yep...I found a tribe . I can be shy, but my problem is that after I say hi to someone I have a hard time actually trying to converse with them and get to know them. I have a really good friend who lives 500 miles away from me and although I have a big extended family I don't visit very often because our parenting methods are so differnt. and well no one visits me either . Anyway good to have found you. I am a nonpracticing catholic, but I prescribe to no one religion. I have faith and I beleifs but I am still on my spiritual journey.

[~*max*~]

Hi mamas. We had a pretty exciting weekend - found out we are having another baby! That's one cure for loneliness!

[MomBirthmomStepmom]

Congrats ~*max*~!!!!


Our weekend was okay. Saturday was just me, SO and dd hanging out. (dss's weekend with biomom) Sunday, I worked and when I got home SO and I had a fight

Yesterday, the fighting continued, but all ended up okay. We went to SO's mommmmmm's for a bbq, which was fun.

SO has alot of cousins my age, and even a sister who's 6 months older than me. I just always feel so weird trying to befrend them... I can't explain why...

[Sustainer]

Originally Posted by ~*max*~

Hi mamas. We had a pretty exciting weekend - found out we are having another baby! That's one cure for loneliness!

Yipee! Congratulations!!! How exciting! I am SO happy for you!

[kewb]

Congratulations on your new addition.

Our week-end was uneventful. Dh invited a couple of friends of his over Sunday for a barbecue. It was a grand old time for me (sarcasm intended) as his 2 divorced for many years friends came over and I got to clean up after them and mind the children. Don't get me wrong-I do adore these 2 men but they spent hours talking technology (DH & Company are all in the computer industry). On Monday I showed my new after school sitter where she would be picking up the kids and where everything is.

[damyen's mommy]

MAX Congrats on the new baby! That is one sure fire cure for feeling lonely
My weekend was spent playing with my boy and dh, I did spend an afternoon with my mom looking at yard sales. It was fun but that is about it.

[noorjahan]

[~*max*~]

Originally Posted by noorjahan

Congratulations Max!!!!

That was sure a great weekend!! If you don't mind me asking how many weeks you are in?

I just found out, so about 6 weeks. I am due May 13.

Thank you everyone for the congratulations.

[frowningfrog]

Congrats MAx...

Wishing you all the best wishes to your family...

[frowningfrog]

hello all..

Wondered if any of ya'll have met or thought about meeting. Since none of us seam to have friends, I was curious??????

[irinam]

Originally Posted by frowningfrog

hello all..

Wondered if any of ya'll have met or thought about meeting. Since none of us seam to have friends, I was curious??????

I did think about it, but it seems like all of us are too far from one another...

But, if anybody wants to visit me in California - you are more than welcome

[MomBirthmomStepmom]

Originally Posted by irinam

I did think about it, but it seems like all of us are too far from one another...

But, if anybody wants to visit me in California - you are more than welcome

hehe I'm in Ca... Although, it's a LARGE state...lol

I used to live in Jersey, and yes, when you live there, you're within 2 hours of ANYONE else in the state...lol I don't know if I can even say that about my county here in CA though :LOL