I definitely agree that TTC can take attention away from the family that you already have. Particularly for us, as we more "mature" women know we have a ticking clock at the least and often complicated fertilty issues.
Last weekend I talked with a lady at a neighborhood music festival, we hit it off & chatted for sometime.Her 10 year old son Zach was playing with my 11 year old Nick.When talk turned to family I learned that she had lost her 12 year old son last fall. It just hit me like a ton of bricks, I offered condolences of course- but as it was a night out,diversion for her & we had just met conversation quickly turned to other things. Since then I have found myself thinking about her frequently and am working on truely counting my blessings-
My son Max had several serious kidney infections a couple of years ago,with hospitalizations,MRIs and exploratory (minor) surgeries to look for a physical cause.
He is stable now, and it may have been a maturation thing as he would have a UTI which quickly progressed to Kidney infection. The whole urinary tract & bladder have so many things that can cause trouble if something is just a little out of whack. Being a boy it is more unusual and sometimes quite serious. He has been just fine over a year now and in his case no concrete cause was ever found.
Anyway, I realze just how lucky I have been. Yes, I have had multiple miscarriages but I have 4 wonderful children. We were lucky enough to have access to a fantastic children's hospital& coverage when we did have a serious problem.I am well aware that this is not always the case in the U.S!
The horrible situation in New Orleans and elsewhere has been on my mind as well. My kids and 2 other families we are friends with had a bake sale for hurricane relief on Friday. We just camped out with our table outside a high end (and friendly,neighborhood since 19340) grocery store. In about 2 1/2 hours we raised 236.00! It was great because the neighborhood has people who can give a lot and also lots of college students,elderly and others who can't donate a big check but can throw a few dollars in a coffee can. I think when people see kids doing something positive they are even more likely to get into the spirit. Many people just gave money without buying and one really nice and cute(shame on me I could be his mother) college age guy paid 20$ for a rice crispy treat which earned him big "WOW, THANKS!" from the kids.I have had such an urge to do SOMETHING(like go down with a truck)that it was a relief! And the bonus was that we couldn't have afforded to personally give that much money. I guess this is another long-winded example of feeling fortunate.
Anyway, life does go on as we TTC and sometimes I need to step back and enjoy my life as is.
Hopeful, I have had that little rejection thing too....my boys deciding to play at a friends rather than take a long nature walk- and I am having to lure my 9 year old back to our book clubs...luckily my 11 year old is such a book worm & fan of the coffee shop treats on our dates that I still have him. I guess it is a natural thing...they have to be able to leave home some day so we must (sniff) become a bit less important. I'm sure your daughter hasn't given your dates up for good though..and she will remember them all her life.
Two year olds are so much fun! My daughter Helena is 3 and sometimes I think a big part of my contiuning to TTC is the feel of her little arms around my neck. When I was trying to conceive Max (Nick was 1) I had a had a miscarriage before Nick's pregnancy,bled with Nick for weeks and then miscarried before I got pregnant with Max. That time was so stressful in some ways even though I had this wonderful child. It sounds like you had a great birthday, they are good celebrations of life aren't they? And a 2 year old is really starting to get the idea that a birthday is something exciting, if not precisely what it is!
Well as I have
for ages here I should stop now. I do agree with Nanama that I should consider the fertility moniter. Right now though I am going to try to chart and not test for a couple of months then reevaluate everything ion a few months!
Good luck to everyone, I think I have hit O as my temp went up .3 this morning if I'm up a bit more tomorrow I should know for sure.