hi all,
listen, i am really frustrated and really don't know what else to say to my friend. let me give you some history.
a really good friend of mine, who is on this list and myself have little boys, we chose not to circumsize after doing the research by reading lots of material.
a friend who is pregnant with a boy, in the middle of her pregnancy asks us if we circ. we said no, she said oh good cause i don't want to, non of my brothers are, but my husband wants too. so we talked about it and gave her some info to tell her husband. then we loaned her the natural family living book. for her and her husband to read the circ. chapt.
personally i thought it was a pretty convincing chapt if you ask me.
her husband just said it is biased.
so we told her to research it.
so she is due in 2 weeks.
yesterday she comes over. and it is just me and her (thankfully the latest mothering mag just arrived) and i ask if they made a decision.
she said they are probably going to do it cause every person she talked to says it is ok and has done it except for me and my other friend.
so apparently her form of research is asking around her mainstream friends and their opinions. i gave her the mag to read while i nursed my son, i don;t know if she read the whole article. i tried to tell her we are the only industrialized nation who routinely performs the SURGERY. she said she has heard from people about infections if you do not circ. i said what about infections from the surgery itself. what about complications, scarring, hemorraging.
anyway, i could see i was making her uncomfortable. so i stopped, cause i didn't know what else to say, my friend who would help me in this matter is away in london. her husband is around and i talked to her husband (the one who did Not circ his son ) and my husband. they might send the guy who wants to circ his son an email.
get this. the only reason my friend wants to circ. his son is that so his son will look like him.
i am so frustrated. i dont know what to do. i mean am i just supposed to let it go? who is going to be a voice for this unborn child?
what pisses me off, is she was originally against it, but now is going to go ahead and do it so her baby can look like his father.
um...forgive me....but really....how does a tiny baby penis or childs penis actually look like a full grown males. ? my husband says by the time they actually look like each other-it is a topic that you just wouldn't discuss anyway.
anyway....if youare reading this far...thank you. you are obviously committed to the cause.
please tell me what else we should do in this situation, if i just need to stop and let her make her choice.
thank you.
stephani
listen, i am really frustrated and really don't know what else to say to my friend. let me give you some history.
a really good friend of mine, who is on this list and myself have little boys, we chose not to circumsize after doing the research by reading lots of material.
a friend who is pregnant with a boy, in the middle of her pregnancy asks us if we circ. we said no, she said oh good cause i don't want to, non of my brothers are, but my husband wants too. so we talked about it and gave her some info to tell her husband. then we loaned her the natural family living book. for her and her husband to read the circ. chapt.
personally i thought it was a pretty convincing chapt if you ask me.
her husband just said it is biased.
so we told her to research it.
so she is due in 2 weeks.
yesterday she comes over. and it is just me and her (thankfully the latest mothering mag just arrived) and i ask if they made a decision.
she said they are probably going to do it cause every person she talked to says it is ok and has done it except for me and my other friend.
so apparently her form of research is asking around her mainstream friends and their opinions. i gave her the mag to read while i nursed my son, i don;t know if she read the whole article. i tried to tell her we are the only industrialized nation who routinely performs the SURGERY. she said she has heard from people about infections if you do not circ. i said what about infections from the surgery itself. what about complications, scarring, hemorraging.
anyway, i could see i was making her uncomfortable. so i stopped, cause i didn't know what else to say, my friend who would help me in this matter is away in london. her husband is around and i talked to her husband (the one who did Not circ his son ) and my husband. they might send the guy who wants to circ his son an email.
get this. the only reason my friend wants to circ. his son is that so his son will look like him.
i am so frustrated. i dont know what to do. i mean am i just supposed to let it go? who is going to be a voice for this unborn child?
what pisses me off, is she was originally against it, but now is going to go ahead and do it so her baby can look like his father.
um...forgive me....but really....how does a tiny baby penis or childs penis actually look like a full grown males. ? my husband says by the time they actually look like each other-it is a topic that you just wouldn't discuss anyway.
anyway....if youare reading this far...thank you. you are obviously committed to the cause.
please tell me what else we should do in this situation, if i just need to stop and let her make her choice.
thank you.
stephani
s to you for trying so hard Stephani! Have you looked in the thread above titiles "Web Resources"? There is a lot of great info there. If they have a computer maybe you could send them some info with your favourite links attached.
