Okay, this thread has me annoyed for quite a few reasons....
#1 Boys can catch STDs easily, as well as pass them along even easier. Why should we not "watch our boys" as well? A boy can be a victim of peer pressure and parental neglect just as quickly as a girl. Talk about sexism.
#2 The giggling does NOT mean that she thought it was no big deal. Giggling is a common response to embarassment and stress. Also, girls often minimize their feelings, they've been raised to (ever hear of "Well, he hit me, but it was no big deal", or yeah, he yells and screams at me a lot, but he doesn't mean to" or "Well, I said no, but it's my fault, because I led him on"?? Any of tihs ring a bell) I've done it, and I know many others have as well.
#3 Mommystinch--I read those types of books when I was 12. it was the only place where I could get *any* info about sex at that age, aside from the "penis goes in vagina, man ejaculates" textbook crap...when I discovered the educational books at the library that had details and answered my questions, i read them in secret. Okay, you and dh did not like the book, but the childs custodial parent okayed it. Did either of you (dh or yourself) get her a good "here's the real deal, here are some well presented details" type of book to satiate her curiousity?
#4 "Little girls" get horny. Surprise! Gasp!
12, 13, 14....hormones are beginning to really surge, girls are discovering that when they read things as mentioned in #3, they get wet, their heart races, when they kiss a boy they get a different feeling, etc. Same with boys. (I hope this is not against the UA, it truly is related to parenting and normal adolescent development, and I've not been vulgar)
#5 Delaying sex will NOT help you avoid STDs and pregnancy, it will DELAY that. Just look at the increasing geriatric HIV cases. A 30 year old has the same chances of catching chlamydia as a 13 year old with similar immunologic factors. Quantity is what counts (and is obviously an issue with this girl).