I experienced the range because my family moved quite a bit (dad was either pastoring a church or teaching at a college). I went to 4 different high schools and I'd say that I was a nobody at a huge high school (stayed only 4 months) neither here nor there at another, pretty popular at another and one of the popular girls in the one I was at the longest and graduated from. And I won't even get into all the elementary schools I went to!!! :LOL
In retrospect (gosh it was a long time ago - my 25th year high school reunion will be 2006
) I'd say because I went to so many different schools, I really got a chance to see how the social group works (or doesn't) in school settings. Those experiences really instilled in me a sense that it's sort of the luck of the draw for kids and it can really suck when luck doesn't fall on one's side. Also, I really just glided through public hs without having to work very hard at all - and got great grades, but once I got to college, I realized that I didn't know how to study and I didn't have any idea at all what I was interested in. It has taken years for me to figure out who I am (I'm still figuring).
But, in regards to this poll, I wasn't bullied in high school (but was some in elementary school). I'd say seeing how socialization in schools was so dysfunctional (especially for a sensitive kid), and the sense that I could provide a much better quality of education (i.e. more child led learning, intrinsic motivation, creativity and individuality honoroed and all the other great stuff hsing allows) were the main determining factors in hsing our son.