Songs that make you remember?

[lovingmomto3]

Does anyone else hear a song or an artist and it just kind of makes you either cry or sick to your stomach?
For some reason my mom has been listening to alot of Sarah McClachlen(sp) and it makes my stomach actually turn. It brings back memories of him and how I messed it up. No matter what it is she sings she always makes me want to cry. I haven't even talked to him in like eight years. I love my husband and I couldn't live without my kids and, I never think about it until I hear these songs and then I think about how stupid I was. I start to think about how happy we were and how hurt he was and how insensitive I was. OK, I am making myself want to cry now. I actually saw him at a gas station a couple of months ago and he saw me too. But, I was sooo shocked to seehim and so scared of what I would do or say that I actually put the car in reverse and left without even saying hello.
OK that is my self evaluation for the day.
Janie

[oceanmommy]

Wow, maybe you should re-examine your feelings about this ex, maybe there is more there that needs to be resolved or maybe you still care ? OR maybe your mom should quit it with the Sara M.

Whenever I hear Phish's Rift album it takes me back to an approximate 6 month period of time when I was 21, I lived thousands of miles away, and worked a job I hated, and had just broken up with my first live-in relationship, and was falling hard for my friend that I lived with. A time of turmoil to be sure. There is a song that goes

You'll never get out of this maze
You'll never get out of this maze
You'll never get out of this maze
You'll never get out of this maze

That's what it felt like !!! When ever I hear it, it takes me back.

and another, whose sole lyrics are:

When you're there,
I sleep lengthwise
And when you're gone
I sleep diagnol in my bed

reminds me of the feeling of sleeping alone. Now I sleep with toddler feet in my face ! And I married my old housemate, so no sad memories there.

[ladylee]

gosh, janie-a big old hug to you!

There are songs that remind me of endings--I've had two significant relationships in my life other than this marriage. U2's One is always associated with the end of my first marriage--it was playing in the car when I left him--I was driving up the NJ Turnpike to my new apt in Hoboken just crying and crying.

And Pearl Jam's Can't Find a Better Man reminds me of the beginning of the end of the other relationship. When I heard the lyrics it was so painful because I realized this guy wasn't really for me & I should end it. Very hard-he was a nice, great guy & I didn't want to hurt him.

[Kim]

Whenever I hear Blues Traveler I think about having just left the love of my life at O'Hare airport. He was attending college in NYC, and I was still in college in the Midwest and it seemed like I might die from missing him so much. Blues Traveler was playing on the radio as I was driving up I-90 crying my eyes out.

[lovingmomto3]

Wow, maybe you should re-examine your feelings about this ex, maybe there is more there that needs to be resolved or maybe you still care ? OR maybe your mom should quit it with the Sara M.

Reexamination is not an option. I do still care about this person. I just choose not to think about him very much. We started dating when I was 14 and he was 17. I spent my entire high school career wrapped up in this person. He went to college and I stayed firmly planted in his dorm room(apartment) for the next four years. We both did alot of stupid things during that time. He feels(felt) like I invaded his college years, I felt like he tainted my high school years. We had alot of problems personally, and jointly. I really think it turned into one of those can't live with'em can't live without'em situations. We couldn't stand to be together but, we couldn't stand to see each other with anyone else. I slept with some of his friends, did alot of immature things. But hey, I was a teenager. Finally, I got really scared. I couldn't imagine spending my life smoking dope, and discussing music(which is what he wanted to do, and which from what mutual friends tell me, he still does). I met my dear straight, square dh and I held on for dear life. Given it wasn't love at first sight but, it was for him. He loved me more than anything. He married me, he took care of me. After two kids and one on the way I can't imagine going back to the old way. I love my dh, I love my life but, sometimes I just think about what could have been. It all seems really romantic until I start wondering how I would pay for my sons private school with his nonexistant income. Or how I know I wouldn't want my kids influenced by all of the drugs and people that we were around.
OK, that is my 2nd self examination in less than 24 hours. This isn't good for my mind.
Janie

P.S. I came back and read this and I think I made it sound as if I didn't love my dh. I do so love my dh. It just wasn't love at first sight. I love him sooo much. He is my best friend. We talk about everything. Including this. We were made for each other. We complete each other. It isn't a volatile, amazing sex, amazing fights kind of love. It is a take care for each other, care about each other, love each other, then amazing sex kind of love.
Now I feel like I have given my marriage the credit it deserves.

[Joi]

There are quite a few songs that do that to me. The worst one is More than Words by Extreme. It reminds me of a man that did uninvited and illegal things to my body. Me and a Gun by Tori Amos is actually physically painful to hear.

[owensmom]

I agree about Me and a Gun Angstmommy. And Ocean mommy, I really like the Phish song you described, the one in the bed....

I can't listen to Question of Lust by Depeche Mode. It is pretty stupid now, 15 years later, but I just choose not to listen to it. At the time I was soooooooooooooooo into that album (still in my top 5 - Black Celebration) and my first boyfriend and I would listen to it. He said some stuff to me that was special, then dumped me (he was an a$$, but it took me a long time to figure it out). Anyway, the lyrics were to painful, and now I think they just remind me how I was blind to his being a jerk. Probably should get over it, but it is easier to skip the song...

[MamaOui]

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[oceanmommy]

Me and a Gun I have never gotten through that song without shedding a tear. Same for spark :

...She's convinced she could hold back a glacier
But she couldn't keep baby alive
Doubting if there's a woman in there somewhere
Here, here, here ...

That bit ALWAYS makes me think of the baby we lost (it was early on, but still). She couldn't keep baby alive. Ugh. I am crying right now.

It is comforting to know that Tori has a daughter just a bit older than my own daughter We were both lucky in that although we each lost one, another came to us (or perhaps she came back ?)

So these songs make me remember and feel sad... and they make a regular appearance in my car tape deck : Why do I do it to myself ?

[Graceoc]

Edie Brikell - Shooting Rubberbands at the Sky CD always gets me, espically Circle of Friends.

Also anything off of Tori's Little Earthquakes

Takes me back to a stange time full of good and bad things and things that can never be again and things I want to forget forever....

[Stacie]

There are two songs that bring tears to my eyes everytime I hear them. But I crank them when they are on... sometimes the release helps. Other times, well.... I can never forget my first love... Even after we split up, I had a child several years later and I named her his favorite "girl name"... he still is in my thoughts dialy.

The songs are: Wild Horses by The Rolling Stones and Into the Mystic by Van Morrison.

When I last saw him, last year, he told me that song always remined him of me. I miss him still.

[Alegria]

OMG Stacie, you just named my two favorite songs buy my two fav artists, I'd only have to add, Brown Eyed Girl which is the one that always makes me remember the first one (first love that is.

Oh and the Cure "I will always love you," that was on when I lost my U nowhat.

Those boys took a lot of time to get over and many tears but I often think about a life with them, it would be awful.

Just wish I could feel so deeply in love again like an inoscent school girl.

[Ms. Mom]

Dreams by the Cranberries - it was ALWAYS playing when we got in the car after my daughter died. It really did seem fitting for the situation.

Love Will Tear Us Apart by Joy Division - My friends will tell you, they always knew I was drunk when I started singing it:

[Joi]

I remembered two more.....

Lightning Crashes by Live and Who Wants to Live Forever by Queen remind me of my friend Jeff's wake. He dided in a cruel and undignified way.