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post #61 of 70
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Originally Posted by craftykitty
His teacher called on Wednesday asking about him (I haven't sent in the letter of intent to homeschool yet, but in TX it's actually not even required). She and I had a long talk and she says that she doesn't see many of the things that he is talking about. I told her that it's possible that some of the boys are "playing", etc. and that a lot of the hatred is his perception. However, IMO it doesn't matter if something of this nature is real or percieved. The point of the matter is that he is a small child who feels hated and victimized by his peers and is having an actual physical reaction to those feelings. Whether the bullying is "real" or not, the fear is. I mean the kids really are doing the things he described, but the teachers perception is that these things are happining in jest and that Jonah isn't being singled out, that the "jokesters" doing those things are doing them to other kids to. Great. I wonder how many other sensitive children are feeling hated because of those pranks (if they are, indeed, pranks)?
Every child should have such a strong parent like yourself. I want to let you know you have support in standing up for your child's right to feel safe, loved, and cared about. I really admire your courage, not only in asking for validation but then taking action. You are an awesome momma!
post #62 of 70
I am in tears! I am so happy for your little boy. What a great great mama you are.
post #63 of 70
You did the right thing. My husband and I have decided to homeschool our little guy. DH was bullied from elementary school through middle school. As a sensitive, introspective guy, he was prey, and has some really horrible stories. And DS is sooo similar to DH. Gentle and kind.

I also appreciate the perspective on self defense and hitting back.

And what's with the teacher? She didn't see a five year old being *kicked in the face* - or at least when he popped out from under the desk with a *shoe print* on his face? I second other posters' to document this, and send letters to the teacher and all the way up to the school board.

Mama, you did the right thing. To paraphrase Bob The Builder:

"Can She Fix It? YES SHE CAN!"



J
post #64 of 70
Aww, you did the right thing Mama!


I took my beautiful niece(5yo) to play w/ some kids in my neighborhood a few weeks ago & was just crushed by their treatment of her.

She doesn't watch TV and didn't know the shows they watch so they acted like she was an alien or something! : It was ridiculous!
They were playing a little later & I heard one girl ask her why she was wearing "those stupid baby shoes" (They were all wearing platform, mini-hooker sandals!)

At one point they were talking about the hideous Bratz dolls(which she wasn't familiar with) & Nyla blurts out,
"Hey! I know, Let's pretend we're horses!"
They absolutely tore into her! It sucked! She loves horses & they just thought that was just the weirdest thing...she was totally embarrassed & hurt by their response. She acted funny for the rest of the night.
It made me so scared for my 1yo dd's future. I don't want to raise a kid who's too cool to pretend!
post #65 of 70
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Originally Posted by Junebug
Aww, you did the right thing Mama!


I took my beautiful niece(5yo) to play w/ some kids in my neighborhood a few weeks ago & was just crushed by their treatment of her.

She doesn't watch TV and didn't know the shows they watch so they acted like she was an alien or something! : It was ridiculous!
They were playing a little later & I heard one girl ask her why she was wearing "those stupid baby shoes" (They were all wearing platform, mini-hooker sandals!)

At one point they were talking about the hideous Bratz dolls(which she wasn't familiar with) & Nyla blurts out,
"Hey! I know, Let's pretend we're horses!"
They absolutely tore into her! It sucked! She loves horses & they just thought that was just the weirdest thing...she was totally embarrassed & hurt by their response. She acted funny for the rest of the night.
It made me so scared for my 1yo dd's future. I don't want to raise a kid who's too cool to pretend!


Eeee - blech! What is WRONG with all of these kids? It's so, so sad to me that it's not OK to play horses when you're 5 anymore. Really - it's not OK to be 5 anymore. These kids are trying to skip over childhood!

Oh, I was at Target yesterday and there was like a whole isle dedicated to those trashy "Bratz" things. Ewww.
post #66 of 70
oh, craftykitty, I just came upon this thread and thank you from the bottom of my heart for standing up for your wonderful son.

Our 5 yo started public kindergarten 10 days ago ... he has the most wonderful teacher ... and he is still having a hard time ... he has refused to stand up for the pledge of alliegance (I didn't even know they DID that in kindergarten) not because he knows what it is (we haven't discussed it) although he says "it's not important to him" but really because he doesn't do well with being told what to do without his imput ... thanks to my parenting, I suppose ...

oh, I think I just hijacked this thread. But I'll post it anyway because I, too, don't know quite what to do with our different son.

Barbara
post #67 of 70
Is he required to do it? If not, I'm glad that he's thinking this through enough to refuse to do it. Good for him for not being a sheep.


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Originally Posted by jordmoder
oh, craftykitty, I just came upon this thread and thank you from the bottom of my heart for standing up for your wonderful son.

Our 5 yo started public kindergarten 10 days ago ... he has the most wonderful teacher ... and he is still having a hard time ... he has refused to stand up for the pledge of alliegance (I didn't even know they DID that in kindergarten) not because he knows what it is (we haven't discussed it) although he says "it's not important to him" but really because he doesn't do well with being told what to do without his imput ... thanks to my parenting, I suppose ...

oh, I think I just hijacked this thread. But I'll post it anyway because I, too, don't know quite what to do with our different son.

Barbara
post #68 of 70
I just happened on this thread today too, and I wanted to say how happy I am that you are taking your son out of school. Based on what you describe, I think you are really doing the right thing. I wish my parents would have listened to my sister and I instead of giving the same unhelpful advice (ignore them, they're jealous of you, etc). I think you're an awesome Mom for standing up for your sweet little boy like this.

My son is a year younger (he would be in kindy next yr) and he still likes Sesame and Bob the Builder, has no idea who Spongebob is, etc. Some of the things you said about your son really reminded me of my own. He's not very, uhm, worldly and I guess it's partly because of how we have raised him. I was telling my husband about this tonight and I reckoned that we could, potentially, be dealing with similar issues if we sent ds1 to K next year. He's not in tune with what's "cool" and I'm floored that "cool" is so important at younger ages these days. I don't think he needs to learn at 5 that he should trade in his interests for the cool ones to please his peers. I don't see how that would help him in life. I'm hoping that the homeschooling group is not so peer-oriented and mainstream-"Kulture"-worshipping.

Anyway, you did the right thing. I'm so glad that I found this thread after you resolved the issue; it made me feel happy.
post #69 of 70
if i was told that a "joke" caused such hurt feelings in someone as they got physically sick i'd be asking myself a whole lot of questions about whether i saw things right. so i cant imagine a teacher just "oh it wasnt that bad" about it

and a shoe print on the face???? like hello, no one saw it???? that alone scares me about the safety of a child

if there were any kids in class that did get along with your son, maybe an afterschool playdate would be nice?
post #70 of 70
I am so sorry for you and for your son. Craftykitty, see my new post about our school in Colorado. You are exactly the person I had in mind when I made my post. Come move to our loving community!

flowerpower
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