Melissa, there are a lot of threads in the breastfeeding - getting started and overcoming difficulties forum on pumping and increasing/maintaining supply. You'll probably find a lot of really good tips there.
Marlena and Ocean, I hear you on law being a parenting-unfriendly career! I have never regretted my decision to go into law (even with sky-high loans) until I had my son, and realized that even though I'd purposefully switched from full-time litigation to working for an environmental non-profit to cut down my hours and enable me to have more of a life, it's still not a job that lends itself to part-time work. My boss approved my request to work four days a week (with concomitant 20% paycut) yesterday, though, and I think that's probably the best I can do. With 45 minutes commuting each way, it's still going to be a long day away from my baby.
I start back to work on December 30 after 22 weeks off, and I'm so scared. I love my job, and I've worked really, really hard to get where I am, but I wish I didn't have to leave my son so soon. If only we lived in Sweden or France, and had a year off work guaranteed! I never thought I'd want to be a SAHM, and I don't want to be one long-term, but I'd love to be able to stay home until DS is one or so and then transition back gradually.
My husband is going to stay home for two months, using the rest of his Family and Medical Leave Act leave. I think he's pretty nervous, as he's never envisioned himself as the SAHD type - at least not for a baby, maybe for older kids. Then we're hoping to find a nanny that we can share with another family. We still have to find both a nanny and the family to share with....keeping my fingers crossed on both counts. I am just not enthralled with the idea of group daycare or family daycare, as my son is pretty high-needs and at least now needs/wants to be in arms all the time.
Anyone have any ideas on how to find and hire AP friendly nannies? Assuming that many will not have heard the term "AP" to describe this parenting style, what kinds of questions would you ask to find the right person?
edited to add: posted at the same time as racermom. I wish my workplace were family-friendly, but even as an environmental non-profit dedicated to conserving the oceans "for future generations," it's about the least family-friendly place imaginable! We have a policy *against* telecommuting, and no flextime policy. In fact, our employee manual sets core hours that you have to be there, or take leave - but if you work overtime, tough luck! No comp time or flex hours. Grrr. There are no other mothers with young kids there (even in an office of 50+ people) because they've all been driven away.