How does your partner REALLY feel about homebirth? - Page 4

[Mamabeakley]

One of DH's siblings was born at home. His own hospital birth was a (minor, in the larger scheme of things) horror. He grew up hearing about bad hospital births and good home births. I was born at home, as were my brothers. So it wasn't really ever an issue.

He did suggest UC a couple of times. I just said, "but I like the midwives." And as it turned out, I had a messy 3rd stage (retained membrane, hemmoragh), so we were both glad to have professional knowledgeable help on hand.

We do think that this time we are probably going to tell the midwife she needs to stay in the other room or hands off unless we specifically ask her to do something (mostly how things were last time, but our midwife seemed to feel catching the baby was really important, whereas I'd kinda rather catch this one myself.)

[MidwifeErika]

My husband was very anti-homebirth with our first child. So, we had a very complicated medicalized hospital birth. With our second child, I convinced him to at least meet with the homebirth midwife and see how he felt about it. He thought the midwife was awesome and she really made him feel more comfortable about it. We had a great homebirth! Now he thinks homebirth is by far the best way to go for the husband's connection to the birth. He felt like he was really included in the miracle of his son's birth, compared to just a specatator in the first birth.
Erika

[mama_at_home]

I am actually pleasantly surprised to see how supportive dh is of having a homebirth with our twins. I asked him if he had peace about it, because that is important to me and he says yes. The only downside to him is insurance won't pay for it, so it will cost more! :LOL Of course his own mother had 3 unassisted births in the car on the way to the hospital, so maybe that gives him more confidence!

[guestmama9911]

My DH had heard enough of my stories and research before we even conceived that when the time came, having a homebirth just seemed natural. I'm due in 9 days and I think he likes the idea that we will be welcoming our son into our own home, at our own pace, able to bond with him on our own timetable. He has also been very supportive of the cloth diaper idea, especially since my mother has been hand sewing All-In-Ones (nice and easy, no folding) and is very excited about baby-wearing and co-sleeping.

The thing that he didn't like was my insistance that DS not be circumcized, but when I showed him pictures and read him the graphic descriptions of the procedure, he changed his mind.