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What's up w/ men and football!?

post #1 of 44
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and golf and baseball and basketball and Nascar?
My dh is so addicted to sports. He plays golf 2-3 times a month in the summer and watches anything that has anything to do with sports on TV. UGH! Are sports really that great? I don't get it, I don't understand it and I don't think I want to! All I know is when he is zoned into an event, his eyes glaze over and it's very hard for me and my kids to get his attention. I feel like bonking him on the head with his 4 iron!!
:LOL
post #2 of 44
Well, I'm not a man, but I love football and tennis. We regularly watch those sports on TV. Fortunately, my dh isn't one who watches any sport that's on. We are only interested in those two.
post #3 of 44
It's a competition thing AND more importantly perhaps they have been conditioned to watch them. They tried to suck me in, but I have too short of an attention span.

Television rots your brain! :LOL
post #4 of 44
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<Television rots your brain! >

Fueljet..I concur with that statement, esp ESPN! I have asked dh about it all, I mean, I just don't get it, all the competition, what is the POINT?!

I do believe he has been conditioned. Or, perhaps a better word is brainwashed. All that time watching a football game is time wasted IMO. It's nice out honey, I'm going outside to have a life, buh bye. :::heavy sarcasm::: (I'm not bitter, just tired of having two tv's going and one of them paused on TIVO)
post #5 of 44
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Originally Posted by Sneezykids
Are sports really that great? I don't get it, I don't understand it and I don't think I want to!
No, sports are not really that great. I don't get it either.
I used to be obsessed with sports, and rankings, and statistics and scores, and titles and ALLLLL that crap....

Then, quite frankly, my mind went through the cosmic blender and I came out the other side quite happy to bask in my music and live in an illuminating way.

Forgive my opinion to anyone who believes otherwise, but... sports are a waste of time. Life itself is the great game to be played. If you want exercise, go for a walk. If you want camaraderie, join a band. If you want the heady intoxication of a public spectacle, try performance art.

What's up with men and football? It's simple enough. Some guys just like to play with balls... :LOL
post #6 of 44
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Originally Posted by musicman
No, sports are not really that great. I don't get it either.
I used to be obsessed with sports, and rankings, and statistics and scores, and titles and ALLLLL that crap....

Then, quite frankly, my mind went through the cosmic blender and I came out the other side quite happy to bask in my music and live in an illuminating way.

Forgive my opinion to anyone who believes otherwise, but... sports are a waste of time. Life itself is the great game to be played. If you want exercise, go for a walk. If you want camaraderie, join a band. If you want the heady intoxication of a public spectacle, try performance art.

What's up with men and football? It's simple enough. Some guys just like to play with balls... :LOL

AGREE ENTIRELY! WASTE OF TIME!
post #7 of 44
I have actually developed a bit of a conspiracy theory surrounding pro sports and it goes something like this...

The typical fan is SO very wrapped up in his sport that the government can nearly write off this demographic as protestors or supporters in any given situation. Interestingly much of the legislative action happens during late football season. It's nice to have an influential mass of people wrapped like zombies while the legislature does whatever they choose. The sports media is so influential it's scary.

I was once at a Nine Inch Nails concert and I saw the influence that Trent had over the crowd. He could have easily insighted a huge riot...well that's nothing. God forbid the NFL go on strike. Men might start to think and realize what is actually going on around them. Almost ever man I have ever met that watched sports regularly felt little inclination or held little opinion on controversial issues and tended to follow the 'pack' mentality. By contrast, the opposite is true, those who did not watch seemed more opinionated and more educated. I would call them - LESS NUMB.

There is not one day when there are no professional sports on television. Not ONE day. One season meets the next so seemlessly that one could spend almost an indefinite amount of time watching sports. It nears addiction.

If you changed the channel and watched pornography instead of sports but never changed the watching habit, it would be grounds for an intervention and treatable by counseling. Men eventually must ask themselves 'when is enough going to be enough' because the sports will never end, but the watchers life certainly suffers dramatically.
post #8 of 44
Why whatch sports when you can do them?
post #9 of 44
Because, silly, that takes effort.

post #10 of 44
Thread Starter 
Well dh does play golf and is basically skilled at whatever he does (rollerhockey, skiing, waterski, tennis, etc)
which reminds me of HOW we ended up together!! We were dating and he was invited from his pals at work to play a little backyard football. I said lets not go, it was cold out and we can watch the Lions (detroit, always a real winning team :::sarcasm: on TV. Nope, he had to play.
Five minutes into the game everyone is huddled around a hurt player. I knew it was him, he was on defense and someone hyperextended his left elbow, fracturing it in four places.
He was casted to his shoulder nearly for two months or more. Of course, he needed help, showering, etc, dressing....so he sorta moved in w/ me and we eventually got engaged and the rest is history.
To this day his elbow will not full straiten even w/ all the physical therapy and elaborate cast after the cast to help extend it. Too much bone grew.
I warned him eh? He was 26 at the time, but I think he thought he was still 16 or something.
To this day when he gets crazy I remind him he is 35 and oh, our life insurance policy is updated right? :LOL

The thing I worry about now is our ds. They start tackle football in 3rd grade here!! TACKLE. Well, my kid won't be playing. Luckily, dh works too many hours to take him to practice himself. I won't do it. I want my son to be cultured not a jock. Playing sports are good but they are overrated IMO. Excersize is GOOD. Having your kid in 3-4 different sports in 3rd grade is Not. JUST MHO.


Sorry I got OT.

Thanks for the input.
post #11 of 44
Yes.. Sports are evil, yet looking through diaper sites for hours to find a Pure Wool 18 layer Lanolin Diaper Cover for $1.00 cheaper than another site is just fine.

I go outside, I'm very active with my wife and daughter. I watch the "big games" and our local teams. We have a DVR so we can just tape stuff too. It's important to me to watch our local team, but other than that I'm ok to record or just keep up with the scores. But when I want to watch a game, what's the big deal?

Why sports? Because it's just fun. It's fun to be interested in something that is bigger than "These 4 walls" It's why people read books, it's why people read the news paper, it's why people dream. It's to relate to the world outside of you and have things to be excited about.

Someone said sports were a waste of time and that we should do "performance art?" My opinion. Performance art is a waste of time. But who am I to judge, you don't see me posting threads saying "What's the big deal with performance artists!" To each their own.

If you think about it, everything is just a big waste of time isn't it? Why go to movies? It's just a stupid story. Why read books? They're just dumb stories about stuff that doesn't involve us right?

Why should sports be any different? I agree that gluing to the TV for the entire day isn't healthy or pro-family but being interested in watching a game? And then to keep up with scores? I think you all are going a little overboard.

Think about the things you do in your spare time. Why knit a wool sweater? Just buy one. Why cook dinner? Just throw a frozen dinner in. Why go to Starbucks for a latte? Just make a cup of Folgers at home.

You can do this all day long with the "Why do you..." We all do things in life simply for enjoyment and to escape. Someone who read the "knit a wool sweater" thing will of course jump down my throat and say "Hey, I do that because I enjoy doing it!" Exactly...

As with any activity. Excess is bad, moderation is the key.
post #12 of 44
Thanks for the perspective, PP.

I have NO IDEA what's up with men and football. My DH tried to explain it with this article, but it didn't make any more sense to me than any of my parenting articles must mean to him.

http://www.nfl.com/news/story/8089281
post #13 of 44
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<<As with any activity. Excess is bad, moderation is the key>>

I agree, and I think I opened the post with how my dh is 'addicted' to them, which is of course, MY subjective opinion too. He is in denial, but at times he will admit he is addicted.

I think his goes above a moderate amount. But, he has gotten better over the years thanks to TIVO and watching ESPN to keep up w/ the scores. I'm not saying sports are evil. But, to tune everyone out, esp. the kids who need their dad to pay attention to them (after working a 12-14 hour day) too isn't good, and I understand how hard it is, he wants to unwind and relax after a hard day, they want Daddy, I need a break too. Balance is key. Finding it is tough.

My last post was a little over the top so I do apologize. I was just trying to get a mans perspective on this. I guess I can be thankful, this year my dh did NOT do fantasy football!! YAY!! I actually THANKED HIM. That did suck up a lot of time, ugh!!

I also have a little problem with how dh hogs the TV on the weekends, leaving TIVO paused for hours so he can mow the lawn etc. and then I can't change it. Maybe I would like to watch Food network! I wonder what he would think or do if I just kept the Food channel on all day or HGTV, pausing it here and there, Fast forwarding the TIVO and the 'bleeep bleep' sounds all day. I can tell you he wouldn't go for that for one day!! Yet, because he loves sports I somehow have no choice but to have it on in the background all weekend.

That was my chief comlain. I'm done now. And yes, I do love him, sports addicted and all.

post #14 of 44
i like your point rdl2k5. i am a father that does enjoy sitting or standing maybe jumping on sunday afternoons. i may get a little carried away sometimes by ignoring the wife but for those couple of months that is my time. the rest of the year we do things that i would normally not do, mostly things for the kids. and during the fall and winter i change habits, i do more with the kids on sat and try to give extra attention to the wife the rest of the week.
i disagree with the fact that men who watch sports are less opinoinated. they may not care about what you care about but, that does not mean he does not have a opinion. do you think that if there were no football that your dh or whoever might have more opinions on topics that you are interested in or just another sport or topic. i am very much into politics, my wife not so much. you see where this is going.
i just think that men have to still be aware of there surroundings while football season is on.
post #15 of 44

oh oh oh can I add 2 cents?

:LOL ok i read that men, when they get overwhelmed with their own problems or the worlds problems...de-stress by simply picking a team in a sport and solving its problems within the game...so its that simple, gives them some relief :LOL same goes for watching the news...gives them relief from their family problems.

the source of this pearl of wisdom ?...."men are from mars...women are from venus"

dh has never been into sports...or the news really either...he does want to save the planet though...wow things must be that bad at home :LOL

sorry, carry on...
post #16 of 44
I have no desire to solve the problems of a team I don't do it to de-stress either. It's enjoyable. Some women will stand outside a scrapbooking store for hours because it's 25% off day. (We went 3 weeks ago 15 minutes early, there was a line 50+ people long, some had been waiting for hours) And that's no exageration. The first 50 people got a "gift" and we weren't even close.

Why would people do this! Right. They _ENJOY_ doing it. It's something that they have fun doing.

Pick something you enjoy, anything. Something that you do for pure enjoyment and not out of "have to"

Reading books, hiking, driving a convertible, walking for pleasure, taking an extra long bath. ( I do all of these things regularly, I don't consider any a waste of time. They are enjoyable to me) I'm not exactly sure what the difficulty in "Doing something simply because it's fun" is as a topic. I guess at this point I'm not talking about the eyes glued to the TV types but just enjoying keeping up with sports.

I work to have a balance with it all. Last night Monday Night Football was on. In some ways it would have been fun to watch, but a television show my wife and I watch was on at the exact same time. I taped the game on DVR and was going to "catch up" after wards. Daughter ended up waking up during our show and made us watch it 30 minutes longer. It was 10:30 when we were finished and I was ready to go to bed. So I missed the game, no big deal at all. It's recorded but I doubt I'll watch it.
post #17 of 44
Just wanted to throw out a different perspective...
I am a woman, and I love football, and baseball for that matter. Football season is my favorite time of the year, and I will sit and watch any game...don't even care who's playing. :LOL With baseball, I only watch my favorite team, but I can get pretty riled up screaming at the TV with either sport.
Why do I like it so much? I don't know...because it's fun I guess. It's probably the same reason that I can get so engrossed in a good novel...it's just an escape from my life for a short period of time, and I don't even have to go anywhere.
Anyway, that's just my .02!
post #18 of 44
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I dunno, I can tolerate football and have my favorite team (Michigan!) and even went to a game last year, and I can watch some of a NASCAR race (I mostly like the wrecks) and hockey (the fights) :LOL
and baseball? I don't like, but I like seeing those cute guys in their tighty pants! Weehoo!
I loathe basketball, all those big sweaty guys, ew!
And to the pp, I *really* dont understand sports nuts yelling at the TV, this phenomenon is way beyond me :LOL
Oh well, to each his own. Good topic.

Oh, and I like to scrapbook but there is no way I would stand in line for an hour to get a prize!
post #19 of 44
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Originally Posted by rdl2k5
As with any activity. Excess is bad, moderation is the key.
yes, that is the crux of the whole damn thing.
That is the answer to this entire conversation.
you nailed it, man.
post #20 of 44
I love watching sports - baseball, football and basketball. Some of us men like sports. The competition. It is entertaining too. Also it is an escape in a way. Better than doing drugs! If watching sports takes away from family time then the watching should be reduced, IMO. There are some things women do not understand about men and there some things guys do not understand about women.
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