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post #21 of 26
[QUOTE=7kiddosmom]"They can get glad in the same pants they got mad in."
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post #22 of 26
I second the cop idea.

I acctually called my local police department when I was planning a *midwife attended* homebirth to see if I could enlist their help in keeping Bio-idiot the wonder monkey's father and girlfriend at the time out *I hated the witch hated hated HATED her* when I was in labour. They said to call as soon as they informed up they were leaving their town *6hr+ drive and they always called when they were about to leave.* and they'd send two officers to sit outside.

Lovely police officers



And yes I would have done it too. Of course if I get pregnant while living here and acctually STAY for the duration of my pregnancy *Military life gotta love it* I'm gonna have to acctually notify the MP's as to what's going on because I'm in a duplex, THIN THIN walls....don't need a THU THU THU OPEN UP IN THERE THIS IS THE POLICE! and then have my DH explain the fact that he's NOT beating the crap out of me, but I"m having a baby....*I'm a pretty vocal birther*
post #23 of 26
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Originally Posted by Pandora114
THU THU THU OPEN UP IN THERE THIS IS THE POLICE! and then have my DH explain the fact that he's NOT beating the crap out of me, but I"m having a baby....*I'm a pretty vocal birther*
This gave me a little giggle
post #24 of 26
I haven't read the other responses but this is what I would do since you want to maintain a relationship with his mom at least...

Make a very nice little letter that says something to the effect of:
"Haveing a baby is physically and emotionally exhausting for mom, baby and even dad. We all need time to rest. Mom needs time to heal, regain her strength and get accustom to breastfeeding and this baby's sleep habits. As a family we have added a whole new person so we need the time to get to know them and redifine our new family. Just like a newly married couple has a honeymoon to spend time alone together becoming adjusted as a new "family" we will have a babymoon. We ask that no one call or visit in the first two weeks (or what ever time seems appropriate to you) We will be sure to call everyone as soon after the birth as possible to give you all the statistics and we'll post pictures online (if this is possible for you) as soon as we are taking visitors we will call and invite you to come over for an hour to visit with the baby. There will be no more than 3 vistors in a day and we hope that no one will be hurt if they aren't the first. We know that you all love us and want only the best for us. We feel that the best for our family is to spend time resting and recouperating and keeping healthy."

If they baulk at it they don't get called for visting time :P
post #25 of 26
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Originally Posted by Thmom
I haven't read the other responses but this is what I would do since you want to maintain a relationship with his mom at least...

Make a very nice little letter that says something to the effect of:
"Haveing a baby is physically and emotionally exhausting for mom, baby and even dad. We all need time to rest. Mom needs time to heal, regain her strength and get accustom to breastfeeding and this baby's sleep habits. As a family we have added a whole new person so we need the time to get to know them and redifine our new family. Just like a newly married couple has a honeymoon to spend time alone together becoming adjusted as a new "family" we will have a babymoon. We ask that no one call or visit in the first two weeks (or what ever time seems appropriate to you) We will be sure to call everyone as soon after the birth as possible to give you all the statistics and we'll post pictures online (if this is possible for you) as soon as we are taking visitors we will call and invite you to come over for an hour to visit with the baby. There will be no more than 3 vistors in a day and we hope that no one will be hurt if they aren't the first. We know that you all love us and want only the best for us. We feel that the best for our family is to spend time resting and recouperating and keeping healthy."

If they baulk at it they don't get called for visting time :P
I like that. I wonder if it would actually work with my MIL.
post #26 of 26
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Originally Posted by Sagesgirl
Y'know, I was thinking wander around nekkid and just sit on a towel on the couch. Bonus points for putting your feet up on the coffee table & explaining you're "airing out your yoni". :LOL Or you could set up an easel in the livingroom & paint with your lochia. That would probably get rid of them for a good long while...

No, I'm not being serious.
*giggle* Now that, I would probably consider

We did have people stopping by the evening dd was born (she was born in the AM) but they didn't stay long and SIL brought dinner, and I have never been so happy to see food!

I agree with distancing yourself so they won't bug you so much, and you are under no obligation to let anyone know you had the baby until you feel ready for their company.

And personally, I would have called the cops on your SIL :
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